I've decided I'm not signing the birth certificate. What now? (I gave up...)

[Studious one]

Early-mid November.

I'm trying not to be stressed because this makes me look like a terrible father either way. The child isn't gonna see mom's a cheater, she's just going to see a mother. And I feel bad because at this point, I don't even wanna see the child. Hopefully that changes if it's mine but even then, I can't imagine any civility between me and the woman.

So my best case scenario is financial support unless my daughter requests to see me which I'd really have to think over. The situation got me in my feelings that bad that I don't know if I can even deal with having any contact moving forward.

You’re just that: in your feelings. Based on what you yourself said, you seem like a decent and fair human being. There is no way, after finding out she’s yours and looking into her eyes that you wouldn’t be involved in her life. I mean, you said the character of the mom is sketchy, do you really want her to be the only one shaping this baby girl’s outlook on the world (if she’s yours)? If she’s yours, you have rights that can’t be infringed upon, and you can limit the extent in which you have contact with the mom(just for the baby), to keep ALL stress levels low. Good luck!

 

[Studious one]

I don't have a large family so having a child is really important to me. I believe she's using that vulnerability to try and manipulate me. Like, all I want is proof so I can confidently raise a child that I know belongs to me. But everyday it looks more and more like I'll be Santa and the tooth fairy at most.

And while your playing tooth fairy, swab them gums, sheeeeeiiiiit!

 

[Brolic]

Date whores, brehs.

 

[Studious one]

Sad to say when it comes to a lot of women getting pregnant there is a lot of dikk crossover. (Pause)

She may have been seeing you and a few other guys casually with none of you knowing about each other.

I would tell any man to get that DNA test. I know a few too many brehs who've found out after a time that the kid they thought was theirs was no such thing.

Absolutely foul.

How do people do this shyt?! And, raw at that! I never understood that. Is it bravery, craziness, drugs, mental illness, what?!

 

[LiveFromLondon]

sed, she decided to share that she was being shared. Multiple ex boyfriends, old high school flame and her manager. Not to mention some of my so called "friends". At least one

 

[Mike Nasty]

You might find out come November that your state requires a paternity if there is a doubt. I know a dude who thought he was a father but it was the state that required the test cause the chick was still technically married, so there was question which required the test.

 

[InGodWeTrust]

Do. Not. Sign.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

@Fiji Water what was the relationship like was there any inclination she was cheating and what type of person did she display as during it

 

[Yaboysix]

Young man…if she confessed that she BEEN cheating on you that much and fukkin on ya Patnas…the signs were already there, clear as day!

How could you not see them? How old are you bruh?

 

[Nkrumah Was Right]

Have children out of wedlock, brehs

 

[360dagod]

Take that midnight train to Georgia homeboy

Change number
Block her
Get rid of anyone who are mutually associated between yall..
Go off grid

She can't figure it out, neither can you...

 

[Guile]

Get a paternity test. It's going to be messy unfortunately.

 

[Serious]

You can’t be serious dealing with a chick like this and willing to sign up to be on the hook for a baby

 

[Pitentmf]

Don't sign, start shredding mail and keep all important documents (anything with your SSN) in a safe deposit box. (You may want to start renting a PO Box)

Does this woman have a job? Can she take care of the baby by herself? I suggest getting a paternity test before she has the chance to put your name on anything. Desperate women do desperate things and all she needs is your name, address and SSN.

As a woman, could you still be with a man that wanted to get a DNA test even if you weren’t doing bull, but he wanted to make sure?

You didn't ask me but I could especially if we aren't married. Seeing family and friends getting screwed over I would want my partner to have that reassurance. I'm a firm believer that paternity tests should be offered at the hospital for unwed parents.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

Use disappearing ink to sign it and then bounce.