I've decided I'm not signing the birth certificate. What now? (I gave up...)

[Fiji Water]

Ain’t shyt funny about this. But who cares? Be just like your daddy…I’m sure he has like 15k less gray hairs due to not sticking around.

Hopefully you haven’t been running your mouth telling your family and shyt. If not, just quietly fukkiin dip. shyt is not rocket science. Listen to 3 stacks. Rocket ships don’t look back they dip.

I aired it out once on social media and deleted it. So I'm kinda fukked socially with some people. But they was gonna side with her anyway. Like I said in the OP, one of the people se messed with was loosely in my circle. At this point, all the damage control is for my mental health and overall well being.

 

[Turbulent]

Like every one else said, paternity first. Once you know you can plan from there. Keep it moving until then.

On a semi related note, would there be a way for the coli to add a feature where you put alerts so that threads pop up in your notification at a future date? Like say i wanted to be reminded of a thread in November...

 

[Booker Carver]

OP…sorry to hear this. Tough situation.

Like someone said, I’d suggest finding someone who practices family law. Have your questions prepared. Ask them about signing or not signing (I wouldn’t sign). You need to know the implications especially if you don’t plan on a future with this woman.

Your communication needs to be as cordial as possible. I know it might be difficult, but if she’s as toxic as you say, she could be recording you or trying to set you up to cause damage in court. If you can, cover your ass by making sure your texts/voicemails are calm and direct. Make no promises in writing.

Biggest thing I’d suggest is to stack your coin. You’re gonna need it either way. This is going to cost you financially. Save as much as possible.

Good luck!

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

This is tragic. I don't know what to tell you, OP. But I hope theses reckless coli brehs take heed of your situation and move accordingly

However, I can sympathize with the fact that you're at least ready to be in the child's life if it turns out to be yours. You messed up big time getting with this woman in the first place and then impregnating her.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Like what others have said, don’t sign until DNA says you’re the father!

Fam.. how did you not recognize all these red flags before?! This bih is crazy and trifling! Cheated throughout the whole relationship?!

You ain’t had an inkling?!

That baby is most likely not yours if she been creeping the entire time smh!

 

[J.E.T.S]

Take her to Maury pal

lol @ calling that mayne “pal”.

 

[VertigoKnight]

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[Balla]

Don't sign it until you get the DNA test. Idk why they aren't mandatory for all births. It would save so many people from a lot of heartache and hassle.

As a woman, could you still be with a man that wanted to get a DNA test even if you weren’t doing bull, but he wanted to make sure?

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

 

[LuuqMaan]

Is she a pawg?

 

[the artist known az]

Don't wait until the child is born to get a test do it now

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

Bruh you already know what you need to do. This is a no brainer

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

You must be down bad or have major self-esteem issues as a grown man if you stick around after having been cheated on
You did this to yourself. If you had any pride you would have avoided all this by bushing her the first time you found out about her cheating instead of "getting even".


goodluck

 

[Rozay Oro]

It's all bad. I was starting a new job and she argued with me until 6am so I'd be tired or have to call out. This is the third time she's done this. She just wants me to be a bum or something. It's an insane amount of toxicity.

nikka fukk that bytch, let her raise that stray baby
It’s not yours king

 

[Studious one]

I'm here for laughs about it at this point but I also have questions. Is there any way I can be forced to list myself in the future? Am I wrong for feeling guilty? Should I still try to be in the child's life?

The scenario is fukked up, obviously. Timeline wise, I'm somewhat sure the kid is mine but I can't gamble with this. I also wanted the kid and thought she did, too. This woman threatened to get an abortion and once that window closed, she decided to share that she was being shared. Multiple ex boyfriends, old high school flame and her manager. Not to mention some of my so called "friends". At least one.

Not all while she was pregnant but apparently throughout our relationship which has been a little less than 2 years. We broken up now and I'm moving in a month, hopefully less.

During that discussion about moving, she asked if I would still go to appointments and be there for the birth. I said I'd do whatever I can work permitting as a duty to my potential kid. I thought that was more than nice.

She said if I show up I have to sign the birth certificate. I made it clear I won't be doing that without a DNA test. Her ultimatum was that if I don't plan to sign, I don't need to be there for anything including the birth.

Nah, fukk all that. If I'm not 100 percent sure, I'm not signing shyt. So here we are.

Don’t sign until you get that test. Non-negotiable.