I've decided I'm not signing the birth certificate. What now? (I gave up...)

[Fiji Water]

Yeah this is exactly what I was wondering. Not saying she ain't a whore but was just considering this possibility. Either way you could never take a woman back who said something like that to you. How would you be able to trust her?

I truly hope everything works out for the best, brother.

Oh there's no going back. I'm public with several other women and open about what it might be. Even if she fronted, I'm not taking this escapade lightly. I'm on and on to the next venture I care about.

It just took a lot for me to get there. I broke down. But I picked myself up and I'm better.

 

[Atlrocafella]

I did all this bro. I had over 100+ pages of text message evidence against my ex wife, she literally said word for word she will not peacefully coparent. She literally broke the temporary court order every single day. She stopped working, she stopped paying for child care, health care everything. She stopped listing me on his doctors paperwork, all of that. I even tried to get her drug tested. They still gave her custody and took my time away because of all her lies and shyt which she never showed ANY EVIDENCE OF. I'm telling you all that shyt will not work UNLESS you can somehow prove she is abusive or neglectful towards the child because of all of this.

His best bet is to play the long game and make her being a mother as absolutely hard on her as possible. Do not do shyt the court order doesn't say to do; whether it is in the best interest of your child or not. Don't keep the child more than you have to, and if she basically leaves the child with you when it isn't your time document it. Don't give her a red cent more than what the court says to give her, IT WILL NOT HELP YOU. You don't even have to spend time with the kid, just as long as the money is there you're good. She is the custodial parent, all of that is her responsibility, force her to be a mama and see how long she makes it. These women are evil and as hard as it may be to do you have to make her realize you can either make her life really easy or really hard. Sometimes you gotta give them exactly what they are asking for to make them realize how bad they fukked up.

Damn breh. Did your ex display any of this evilness prior to getting pregnant?

 

[Atlrocafella]

Great question. Nobody ever eyed to eyed me and said "yes". They just said sorry. And they approached me. It was 3 different guys. So Im taking those apologies as an implied yes. Cuz what is there to apologize for?

Once I left, I had friends say things like "I thought you knew". So I don't know 100%, hence the test, but there is a part of me that thinks that she just wanted to hurt me and this is all bullshyt.

And because of that I copped basically everything I could. Around 500 diapers to start off, formula, breast pump, bottles,even the post partum clean up kit so she can heal. All that and more

You still moving like a sucker. Stop that shyt until you get the results back.

 

[LiIZaneFan1978]

OP is taking responsibility even though the kid may not be his. What that tells us is that he will do the same once the kid is born.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

OP is taking responsibility even though the kid may not be his. What that tells us is that he will do the same once the kid is born.

Fast forward two years he gonna be on paternity court with the trembling lip..

“You….are……….NOT the father.”



“We may not be blood, but he’s still my son!”

 

[Fiji Water]

You still moving like a sucker. Stop that shyt until you get the results back.

My new jawn paying the test, if I let her. This ain't the player place yet. I got you for the story. Everyone finna see.

 

[Fiji Water]

My boy didn't sign the birth certificate either. Then his baby mom died around Christmas of last year & now he's engaged in a legal battle for custody of his kids with her family. The family is framing it under the guise that he never wanted them to begin with. You have to do what you feel is right though.

In retrospect, before birth, this makes me wanna sign. Just for the protection of someone's life.

 

[skyrunner1]

In retrospect, before birth, this makes me wanna sign. Just for the protection of someone's life.

Speak to a lawyer first, you dont want to be financially liable.. You need to be strategic about this, you play up the heart strings and you gonna have your whole world fukked.. Protect YOUR life FIRST!

 

[hatealot]

My new jawn paying the test, if I let her. This ain't the player place yet. I got you for the story. Everyone finna see.

By you being so open about your life, I commend you. There may be some folks including myself who may learn a lesson here.

 

[Mowgli]

Get a DNA test and if the child is yours put your name on the certificate.

Don't assume and potentially neglect your seed because you realize you chose wrong. If that's your child own up.

Time to grow up.

DNA test for the holidays. Go.

 

[newarkhiphop]

subs

 

[Swirv]

You have no say in the child’s life or upbringing

 

[R.E.N. Spells Ren]

I did all this bro. I had over 100+ pages of text message evidence against my ex wife, she literally said word for word she will not peacefully coparent. She literally broke the temporary court order every single day. She stopped working, she stopped paying for child care, health care everything. She stopped listing me on his doctors paperwork, all of that. I even tried to get her drug tested. They still gave her custody and took my time away because of all her lies and shyt which she never showed ANY EVIDENCE OF. I'm telling you all that shyt will not work UNLESS you can somehow prove she is abusive or neglectful towards the child because of all of this.

His best bet is to play the long game and make her being a mother as absolutely hard on her as possible. Do not do shyt the court order doesn't say to do; whether it is in the best interest of your child or not. Don't keep the child more than you have to, and if she basically leaves the child with you when it isn't your time document it. Don't give her a red cent more than what the court says to give her, IT WILL NOT HELP YOU. You don't even have to spend time with the kid, just as long as the money is there you're good. She is the custodial parent, all of that is her responsibility, force her to be a mama and see how long she makes it. These women are evil and as hard as it may be to do you have to make her realize you can either make her life really easy or really hard. Sometimes you gotta give them exactly what they are asking for to make them realize how bad they fukked up.

Crazy how family court consistently and completely ignores evidence whenever it doesn’t fit into their preconceived notion (the father is an uninterested evil scumbag and the mother is a saint who does no wrong). I just saw this unfold with a close friend. Same as you he had a MOUNTAIN of evidence both supporting his claims and refuting her claims and it rarely mattered to the judge.

Women know this and are not shy about weaponizing it. It’s easy to admonish men to be careful about the partners they choose, but the fact is that it’s nearly impossible to predict how petty and vindictive women can get when they’re upset about a relationship ending.

When a woman’s fed up…

 

[ExodusNirvana]

DNA Test

Simple. You can order one off the internet breh.

And if that shyt is a negative then you walk away. My mans was in the same situation as you, was there the entire pregnancy and everything, even though she slept with someone else while they were broken up.

He got the pregnancy test right after the kid was born and it was negative and she admitted it wasn't his and she knew, but because he was a good nikka she wanted him to be the father

 

[beenz]

I'm here for laughs about it at this point but I also have questions. Is there any way I can be forced to list myself in the future? Am I wrong for feeling guilty? Should I still try to be in the child's life?

The scenario is fukked up, obviously. Timeline wise, I'm somewhat sure the kid is mine but I can't gamble with this. I also wanted the kid and thought she did, too. This woman threatened to get an abortion and once that window closed, she decided to share that she was being shared. Multiple ex boyfriends, old high school flame and her manager. Not to mention some of my so called "friends". At least one.

Not all while she was pregnant but apparently throughout our relationship which has been a little less than 2 years. We broken up now and I'm moving in a month, hopefully less.

During that discussion about moving, she asked if I would still go to appointments and be there for the birth. I said I'd do whatever I can work permitting as a duty to my potential kid. I thought that was more than nice.

She said if I show up I have to sign the birth certificate. I made it clear I won't be doing that without a DNA test. Her ultimatum was that if I don't plan to sign, I don't need to be there for anything including the birth.

Nah, fukk all that. If I'm not 100 percent sure, I'm not signing shyt. So here we are.

long story short, u was fukking a THOT and shooting up the club