CashmereThoughts
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i view this like i view woman who want to blow high 5 figures for a "traditional" wedding. its all pagentry to me. I have no problems with her taking the name but is that going to impact my decision making? Nah.
Is it a sucker who accepts his wife doesnt have his surname or times have changed :
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What if his last name is ugly as hell plus places you at the end of every call list?! 
Who wants to be called....Tendergrass or Wiener, Kuntschick, Lipschitz, van Dyck, Cox, Gay, Shank, Smollett etc.?
We'll have to come up with a whole new name and identity!
I like hyphenated names as longer names sound very pretty to me.
Who wants to be called....Tendergrass or Wiener, Kuntschick, Lipschitz, van Dyck, Cox, Gay, Shank, Smollett etc.?
We'll have to come up with a whole new name and identity!
I like hyphenated names as longer names sound very pretty to me.
BlackDiBiase
Superstar
What if his last name is ugly as hell plus places you at the end of every call list?!
Who wants to be called....Tendergrass or Wiener, Kuntschick, Lipschitz, van Dyck, Cox, Gay, Shank, Smollett etc.?
We'll have to come up with a whole new name and identity!
I like hyphenated names as longer names sound very pretty to me.
this is what im talking about for some of us brothers
Underrated post. People should do what is best for their family. It is the same as women (or men) thinking the man HAS to take care of the family. As two free thinking individuals, you should decide what works best for your family, regardless of archaic mores that many blindly follow, external factors, and familial pressure. If a couple decides to take the mans last name, that is great. Decide to take the woman's last name, fine. Just do what works best for you.
where im from its proven your name can effect your housing, employment, all sorts of opportunities at a disadvantage. if she is willing to get on board with that through love then thats a "ride or die chick" through thick and thin commitment but i was trying to be funny you know the lox song?
newworldafro
DeeperThanRapBiggerThanHH
all my african brothers know the western problem im talking about with some of you dating Mills, Machintosh, Jones, etc.
deep discussion
Interesting.
I mean she could just officially change it to "Shamika Miller Obasanjo" (no hyphen)
Action Mike
All praise..
Her being loyal, faithful and loving will move her to take that last name.
What if his last name is ugly as hell plus places you at the end of every call list?!
Who wants to be called....Tendergrass or Wiener, Kuntschick, Lipschitz, van Dyck, Cox, Gay, Shank, Smollett etc.?
We'll have to come up with a whole new name and identity!
I like hyphenated names as longer names sound very pretty to me.
Last name could be demon.
If a real woman loves and values you, she'll be on board.
Yall won't even think to argue if certain celebs pull up with a ring, its telling.
Elle Driver
Veteran
Big facts!
Demon would be great! Still at the top of any call list and everyone would assume a certain kind of power surrounds you!
wastedmermaid
Superstar
For me it would be a deal breaker because of the principle of it all.
as a woman when you’re married you are supposed to leave your father and come into the protection of the man you selected as your husband. Imo you can’t do that if you’re still clinging on to your daddy’s name.i think that’s indirectly saying that you don’t accept his headship.
but, do you tho
as a woman when you’re married you are supposed to leave your father and come into the protection of the man you selected as your husband. Imo you can’t do that if you’re still clinging on to your daddy’s name.i think that’s indirectly saying that you don’t accept his headship.
but, do you tho
Which is why you don't do itall my african brothers know the western problem im talking about with some of you dating Mills, Machintosh, Jones, etc.
deep discussion
Chrishaune
Veteran
It's a clear red flag brehs. You can believe it or not......Most of these women ain't marriage worthy.
GhostBreh
All Star
IsThatBrothaMouzone?
Superstar
Regardless of which name she chooses, the man and woman should discuss this long before getting married.
If both people agree on how to handle it, then it's all good.
I'll say this.....if a man gets married to a woman later in life and the man has already fathered sons with his last name? I wouldn't care if she took my name...my sons would be carrying the name on anyway so
If both people agree on how to handle it, then it's all good.
I'll say this.....if a man gets married to a woman later in life and the man has already fathered sons with his last name? I wouldn't care if she took my name...my sons would be carrying the name on anyway so