Is it a sucker who accepts his wife doesnt have his surname or times have changed :
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Maxine Shaw
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The best news about conversations like this is that any man who demands I take their name is a man I would never want to be with in the first place. Everybody wins!
Pick me's are still keeping their husbands' last names? I didn't know that was a thing anymore. Most women I knew kept their names and added their husband's name. Hell, my best friend is Nigerian and married to a Nigerian man, and *she* didn't even change her name!
Pick me's are still keeping their husbands' last names? I didn't know that was a thing anymore. Most women I knew kept their names and added their husband's name. Hell, my best friend is Nigerian and married to a Nigerian man, and *she* didn't even change her name!
filial_piety
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My wife took my last name or it was no dice ...I’m old school and don’t play that new shyt 
- No modern woman is worth marrying
- If a last name is what yall are arguing about, y'all shouldn't be getting married anyway.
- Women don't want other people to know that they're married, so why would they take your last name?
Do you own businesses, land, property etc? If not than I'm not speaking to your situation.it took me 2 months to get my new social security card, and had to go to the DMV twice for a new license/registration
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Land, that's it. I still havent changed that over yet, probably never will.
For me it would be a deal breaker because of the principle of it all.
as a woman when you’re married you are supposed to leave your father and come into the protection of the man you selected as your husband. Imo you can’t do that if you’re still clinging on to your daddy’s name.i think that’s indirectly saying that you don’t accept his headship.
but, do you tho
People get too tied up in the idea of the man as the leader of the house. None of that shyt needs to be stated. You both work together and lead in your own way. People frame it around protection and leadership. Both parties should bring those characteristics to the relationship. If someone comes into my home, I am blowing their head off. I expect my wife to do the same (and she would, no questions asked)
Again, archaic mindset entering into the relationship. If a woman is to "submit" to a man, how can you know his "leadership" is the right move. If you attack the good and bad together, you're more likely to succeed by finding common ground.
I think many relationships have issues because they're in conflict with old ways of doing things, while seeing each person in the relationship can think freely.
wastedmermaid
Superstar
Yeah I definitely agree that the two should operate as one team. And protecting each other when possible should definitely happen. Just growing up my father aways took this lead on most major things/decisions with the advice and support of my mother on everything also. They been together for awhile so I figure they gotta be doing something right.
Mr Hate Coffee
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If she wanna keep her name she can stay single.
Mr Hate Coffee
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she can marry her daddy then.
in all seriousness, women can do wtf they want. I personally wouldn’t marry a woman who can’t let go of her last name. I’m actually engaged right now and that was one of the first things I discussed with my fiancée while dating.
Again, what's the point of getting married, again?
You know, we should change EVERY norm (except the shyt that benefits the courts and divorce market), but, apparently it's "sacred-ness" never changes?
#GMB
You know, we should change EVERY norm (except the shyt that benefits the courts and divorce market), but, apparently it's "sacred-ness" never changes?
#GMB
Mr Hate Coffee
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you have a unique friend group then. I’m at an age where a ton of my friends are getting married. At least 85% of the women took the husband’s last name no hyphen.
but like I said, you and other women can do whatever tf you want. If you find a man that agrees with you then more power to you.
KingFreeman
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Every man in here on some: 'It doesnt matter, there's no household leader, we're all equal.' Wave go ahead and let her refuse to take your name. Then she's going to override you on whenever you decide to move, on what last name the kids have, how the money is spent, she'll be going on frequent "girls' night out" trips and supercede you on that, tell you exactly how to raise your kids and override you if you refuse, etc etc.
A man sets the direction ultimately, and if a woman isnt so smitten with you that she doesnt tell you directly she wants your last name, kids, etc then you're probably a beta ass provider mufugga.
A man sets the direction ultimately, and if a woman isnt so smitten with you that she doesnt tell you directly she wants your last name, kids, etc then you're probably a beta ass provider mufugga.