Treat her like one of the homies with a bit of flirtation and most importantly, don’t give a fukk!
This right here. If you have to pretend she a dude just to mentally condition yourself to act right and fake it til you make it, do it.
The same way you'd approach a day with a friend is the same way you should treat this date. Just be yourself and talk about life and fun shyt. Take genuine interest in having someones company, knowing more about someone, hearing someone else's view of of things in the world, the things she likes.
"So where do you work? How do you like the job? Oh shyt that's crazy! Yeah true, true, same here, my coworkers can be a headache. You seen that new flick everyone talking about? Aww man I was gonna see that but I missed it. Yeah I'm a big horror guy; is that your favorite sort of movies? Ha ha Yeah I feel you. Yo, check out what's on the TV over there. That's crazy right? What you think? Hahaha! This Puffy situation is wild! Remember how big Bad Boy was back in the day."
Notice the conversation above doesn't feel like an interrogation either. Again thats that "omg this is a date. What do i say?" Dating trap. Just be genuinely friendly, excited to have company, and excited to juse be outside like she no different than a homie. Yalls conversation and company with each other will flow.
Dont assume sex is gonna happen at all, and dont make that the gold standard for how this date goes. Assume this is only a good friend for now and behave as such. Just focus on and enjoy the opportunity to have some company for the day and someone to talk to.
Don't do no sneaky shyt like reaching for her waist out of nowhere, tryna be flirty. You cant push or rush the physical contact. That will come naturally as long as you focus first and foremost on being good, fun company she can relate to. It'll start with little taps on your shoulder or hand when she laughs at something you say or wants to show you something or other causal circumstances that can be complimented with a touch. She'll stay real close to your when yall walk together. Eventually yall will take each others arms or hands while walking. I reccomend the arm lock. Always a comfortable way to connect and walk together on a first date. And it will all naturally turn to a kiss.
Also, take a walk after yall done with dinner or whatever you chose to do. Don't just take this girl somewhere and say goodbye. Follow it up with a nice walk after. Can be aimless exploration, a park, window shopping bar hopping. Walking together while just talking about life, people watching together, observing things around you, is always a romantic touch that helps her see a little more in you than just a date, and usually when the physical contact starts.
Also BE FUNNY. Be Happy to be out with someone. Kinda going back to the pretend its a homeboy deal. Dont be scared to throw a joke out there, laugh, be humorous and funny just as you would with your buddies. Nothing kills a date like a grumpy, miserable, boring nikka interrogating the girl about where she live and what she do. And on the flip side NOTHING attracts a female like a nicca who makes her laugh. Like, nothing. Forget all that big man machismo shyt. Knowing how to "be cute" and make girls laugh is more valuable to your sex life than money. Any reasonably decent looking dude girls identify as "mad funny" or "mad stupid lol" is a dude getting p*ssy. You know this. Humor is probably your greatest power in attracting women and for many women its what distinguishes the guys they wanna fukk from the guys they dont. You on the coli, so I know you know how to cut it up with jokes. Be yourself. Spit jokes. Laugh it up together. She will love you for it.
There's a book called "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. BUY THIS BOOK if you need a guide on how to be the best date.
I also recommend "Peace is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hahn but only because I think Zen Buddhist theory and the ability to relieve anxieties through mindfulness is important to applying to every aspect of your life. Including dating and sex.
Good luck my man. Congratulations is trying something new and getting away from the vices. Just remember to be fun. That's all there is to it. Don't get caught up in nothing. Just be a fun dude.
) until you both get into an official relationship with each other.
