Majestic Pape
The-Coli = W SOHH = L
Doesn't mean they'd let you smash though
Exactly... but if they ever even give me the HINT that I could get in the box...
Fellas: Do you let your chick have male friends?
- Thread starter Ronnie Lott
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Exactly... but if they ever even give me the HINT that I could get in the box...
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
I'll be goddamn if my woman be going to the movies and dinner with other nikkas 
If it's a casual friend or coworker, it is what it is
A relationship should have boundaries.
If it's a casual friend or coworker, it is what it is
A relationship should have boundaries.
Let me lay it out here. You don't create boundaries based upon 'controlling the woman' and having her do exactly what you want with a 100% success rate. It's not about control. It's about respect. You lay out boundaries because you want to create a situation that is conducive to the relationship being successful in the first place.
There already have been several queries on this forum with the question asked, "Can men and women be friends" and about 80 or 90% of the replies will be "Naw, if I can't hit it, what do I want to do with her?" Ya'll know that other males think like that, and ya'll are cool with these wolves in sheep's clothing trying to pop at your broad under the guise of friendship? The vast majority of negroes ain't trying to be friends with the woman. They will be FRIENDLY, but when the opportunity strikes, they'll try to drop some salt. I know ya'll seen this thread:
http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room...u-just-met-says-she-has-man.html#.UdOp1PnVBzo
And it's not even just the dudes. If you give your woman the green-light, she's going to run all over you with that notion. Once you let her officially have male homies, she will most likely run wild with it. Every fella she thinks looks fine and gives her some attention, she will be adding that negro to her phone under the guise of 'he's a friend.' That's just a wide open opportunity for roster building.
That whole 'you're not confident if they don't okay that' is really nonsense. It's just an old-school player tactic used to justify a bunch of funny business going on. "Well girl, be more confident in yourself and me! You shouldn't be insecure about me going to the strip club because you know I'm all about you!" Setting boundaries is more like you are so confident in yourself to the point where you won't cosign off on any nonsense going on within the context of your relationship. If she's going to still do it by being sneaky or by cheating, that's on her, and once you find out, give her the boot.
Really, the key isn't to 'control your woman'. It's to create a relationship structure that is mutually beneficial. You don't try to pull this AFTER the fact... You don't go get a woman that has 10,000 male friends and is known to keep them while being in a relationship. You don't invite that woman into a relationship with you in the first place. What you should do is have assessed your woman carefully before you got with her and transmitted to her an understanding ahead of time that if she is to be official with you that this sort of behavior is a no-go... and if she's real about herself, she'll agree and she'll also have enough solid female friends to not need the companionship of 'the homies.'
Let's be real. if you're cool with her having 'male friends', are you cool with her doing any and everything that goes on in a typical friendship, or will that all of a sudden become disrespectful? For example, it's cool to go kick it at one of your potnas houses and drink something, so are you going to let her do that with her 'male homie'? You and your friends might hit up a restaurant, so is it cool for her to hit up a restaurant without you with the male homie and some of his potnas? I don't think so.
If there are no boundaries in a relationship, there is no such thing as a relationship. Ya'll are just two people that are in each other's vicinity for selfish purposes. If babygirl wants to have 10,000 homies, I'mma just be homie 10,001. I'm not going to make her my girl.
There already have been several queries on this forum with the question asked, "Can men and women be friends" and about 80 or 90% of the replies will be "Naw, if I can't hit it, what do I want to do with her?" Ya'll know that other males think like that, and ya'll are cool with these wolves in sheep's clothing trying to pop at your broad under the guise of friendship? The vast majority of negroes ain't trying to be friends with the woman. They will be FRIENDLY, but when the opportunity strikes, they'll try to drop some salt. I know ya'll seen this thread:
http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room...u-just-met-says-she-has-man.html#.UdOp1PnVBzo
And it's not even just the dudes. If you give your woman the green-light, she's going to run all over you with that notion. Once you let her officially have male homies, she will most likely run wild with it. Every fella she thinks looks fine and gives her some attention, she will be adding that negro to her phone under the guise of 'he's a friend.' That's just a wide open opportunity for roster building.
That whole 'you're not confident if they don't okay that' is really nonsense. It's just an old-school player tactic used to justify a bunch of funny business going on. "Well girl, be more confident in yourself and me! You shouldn't be insecure about me going to the strip club because you know I'm all about you!" Setting boundaries is more like you are so confident in yourself to the point where you won't cosign off on any nonsense going on within the context of your relationship. If she's going to still do it by being sneaky or by cheating, that's on her, and once you find out, give her the boot.
Really, the key isn't to 'control your woman'. It's to create a relationship structure that is mutually beneficial. You don't try to pull this AFTER the fact... You don't go get a woman that has 10,000 male friends and is known to keep them while being in a relationship. You don't invite that woman into a relationship with you in the first place. What you should do is have assessed your woman carefully before you got with her and transmitted to her an understanding ahead of time that if she is to be official with you that this sort of behavior is a no-go... and if she's real about herself, she'll agree and she'll also have enough solid female friends to not need the companionship of 'the homies.'
Let's be real. if you're cool with her having 'male friends', are you cool with her doing any and everything that goes on in a typical friendship, or will that all of a sudden become disrespectful? For example, it's cool to go kick it at one of your potnas houses and drink something, so are you going to let her do that with her 'male homie'? You and your friends might hit up a restaurant, so is it cool for her to hit up a restaurant without you with the male homie and some of his potnas? I don't think so.
If there are no boundaries in a relationship, there is no such thing as a relationship. Ya'll are just two people that are in each other's vicinity for selfish purposes. If babygirl wants to have 10,000 homies, I'mma just be homie 10,001. I'm not going to make her my girl.
I've always beenof these chicks that won't even speak to or acknowledge another dude just b/c they have a boyfriend at the moment......but if that were my girl, I'd want her to be just like that
It wasn't pleasant being on the other end, aka getting cut off when this woman found a man, but I've always respected women that cut me off or limited our interactions after she got a man. I probably won't be all that cool with her when she 'pops back up' if they break up, but I got respect for her lol. To me, it shows she has enough respect for being in a relationship and she has her priorities in the right place. A woman shouldn't put a negro she is 'coo' with that is her 'bud' over her man if she really sees herself being with that man for real.
Yuzo Lightheart
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JustYourAverageFan
Rookie
Its werid it turns out she doesn't once we start dating so idk if thats there prefrence or if i am lucky
Ain't That Something
Superstar
I see a lot of sucker nikkas in this thread. How your woman suppose to respect you when you don't respect yourself. But bu but I can't tell a woman what to do, true! but you sure damn can tell her what you won't put up with. 
George Gooney
AA GANG AA GANG AA GANG
These threads always expose the misguised brothas and women who don't deserve loyal men to begin with...
pretty much. i just dont worry about it. If shes gonna cheat, she'll cheat; i just hope i'm savvy enough to find out.
it's def a red flag though. shyt even I've had opportunities to steal girls from their boyfriends myself before. With my last girlfriend what I used to do was any time she mentioned a guy-friend wanting to chill with her or something I would tell her how theres no such thing. Women are EXTREMELY naiive though. There was even this one guy on twitter that she became friends with who said he was coming to Toronto and wanted to visit her. Amazing how a girl cannot see the obvious agenda.
Anyways, she didnt believe me but then there was this one other guy she met one time before me who was trying to visit her. Once she said how she had a bf and stuff that guy basically disappeared and she randomly came telling me how I was right.Thats how it should be done. Educate but don't dictate. Forbidding them to see somebody makes you look like more of an overprotectiive father than a bf.
Anyone she knew before me, I have no qualms with unless they display feelings towards her, no new friends though. And she'd have to accept that on my end as well. I have life long female friends that I wouldn't give up for any chic.
And at the age I'm at, I don't talk to my friends on a daily basis and I don't hang out with them often. Talk to them ever so often and only hang out for special occassions(birthdays, graduations etc..)
And at the age I'm at, I don't talk to my friends on a daily basis and I don't hang out with them often. Talk to them ever so often and only hang out for special occassions(birthdays, graduations etc..)
Jesus Shuttlesworth
I Got Game
Is this a rhetorical question?
I can't answer "no" because I'm not even acknowledging this as a legitimate question.
I can't answer "no" because I'm not even acknowledging this as a legitimate question.
Men and Women can never be "friends", but at the same time you can't stop her, so what do you do. 
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