What Is The Motivation To A Married Man Having A 'Mistress' ?!

[RTF]

I don't get what's so hard to understand. Mistresses has been the way men have gotten down for the entire stretch of humanity. The idea of 1 monogamous relationship is fairly new. You look at tribes or even biblical times - men didn't just smash and dash all the time. They had multiple wives or mistresses that where essentially mini wives. You look at the behaviour of many Jamaican and African men - it's multiple families.

The allure is clear. I don't think men are built to have monogamous relationships like that but I don't think rampant casual sex comes natural to men either for many reasons. Spreading your seed or willy-nilly with women you don't care for isn't wise. Sex is better when you have great chemistry with someone and you build on it. It's very difficult for 1 person to meet all of your emotional demands too. For men, multiple wives is the thing that makes the most sense imo. Mistresses is the closest thing in the Western world.

Again, this treating side pieces with contempt is a relatively new phenomenon. It's natural for a man to look after women they love and provide for her. The wife literally owns half but the mistresses will get looked after too. Plus you don't want the mistress to rock the boat too much. Also, again I think it's natural for a man to want to spend time with women he is intimate with. Even if it's a secondary or even third.

A lot of men who have mistresses still love their wives, at least in their minds. but they love the side piece too and treat each with as much respect as they can considering their actions.


IMO it's the leaving the wife and marrying a younger model is the thing I don't understand unless the wife has become truly unbearable.

 

[Made Myself A Boss]

Why not have booty calls you ask?

Because sex is way better when there is some kind of emotional attachment to it.


edit: plus you don't have to worry about using condoms. so the psychological as well as physical feeling is enhanced

 

[360dagod]

I don't get what's so hard to understand. Mistresses has been the way men have gotten down for the entire stretch of humanity. The idea of 1 monogamous relationship is fairly new. You look at tribes or even biblical times - men didn't just smash and dash all the time. They had multiple wives or mistresses that where essentially mini wives. You look at the behaviour of many Jamaican and African men - it's multiple families.

The allure is clear. I don't think men are built to have monogamous relationships like that but I don't think rampant casual sex comes natural to men either for many reasons. Spreading your seed or willy-nilly with women you don't care for isn't wise. Sex is better when you have great chemistry with someone and you build on it. It's very difficult for 1 person to meet all of your emotional demands too. For men, multiple wives is the thing that makes the most sense imo. Mistresses is the closest thing in the Western world.

Again, this treating side pieces with contempt is a relatively new phenomenon. It's natural for a man to look after women they love and provide for her. The wife literally owns half but the mistresses will get looked after too. Plus you don't want the mistress to rock the boat too much. Also, again I think it's natural for a man to want to spend time with women he is intimate with. Even if it's a secondary or even third.

A lot of men who have mistresses still love their wives, at least in their minds. but they love the side piece too and treat each with as much respect as they can considering their actions.


IMO it's the leaving the wife and marrying a younger model is the thing I don't understand unless the wife has become truly unbearable.

i basically broke this down to a female co-worker...

 

[Gab]

Why don't they just leave their wives? smh people can be so shytty.

why the fuk for? so she can have half of all the shyt he worked for?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Perspectives. If one has that much money for a mistress, then thats just a small portion, very small portion of their wealth. When you have that type of wealth, their time is way to valuable to spend trying to arrange for getting different women, the risks involved, etc. Time is money. The mistresses are like a toy. You pull them off the shelf to play with them at your convenience. Much like guys have expensive yachts, etc.

You could really end the thread with this. It's fun. Money will change your prospective on life. If you're making 200K a month throwing 2K at someone means nothing to you. They think their making a come up on what you spend on a pair of shoes.

 

[Theraflu]

I don't get what's so hard to understand. Mistresses has been the way men have gotten down for the entire stretch of humanity. The idea of 1 monogamous relationship is fairly new. You look at tribes or even biblical times - men didn't just smash and dash all the time. They had multiple wives or mistresses that where essentially mini wives. You look at the behaviour of many Jamaican and African men - it's multiple families.

The allure is clear. I don't think men are built to have monogamous relationships like that but I don't think rampant casual sex comes natural to men either for many reasons. Spreading your seed or willy-nilly with women you don't care for isn't wise. Sex is better when you have great chemistry with someone and you build on it. It's very difficult for 1 person to meet all of your emotional demands too. For men, multiple wives is the thing that makes the most sense imo. Mistresses is the closest thing in the Western world.

Again, this treating side pieces with contempt is a relatively new phenomenon. It's natural for a man to look after women they love and provide for her. The wife literally owns half but the mistresses will get looked after too. Plus you don't want the mistress to rock the boat too much. Also, again I think it's natural for a man to want to spend time with women he is intimate with. Even if it's a secondary or even third.

A lot of men who have mistresses still love their wives, at least in their minds. but they love the side piece too and treat each with as much respect as they can considering their actions.


IMO it's the leaving the wife and marrying a younger model is the thing I don't understand unless the wife has become truly unbearable.

AMAZING explanation, sir

 

[Gab]

Be an entitled privileged "strong/independent" woman in a 1st world country brehettes...

I already had a thread on this and Women will never accept it because it's too painful - If your Man doesn't want to fukk other Women he has low Testosterone and is likely not an Alpha nikka

The best Men in the world have multiple Women at their beck and call. CAC Masterflex "The Donald" just upgraded for a new model and he'll do it again once this one gets too old.

However, older Women can retain relevance and value by being the most intelligent and well informed Woman in the room. Obviously if you rely on your looks as a Woman it's a losing battle against time. But become an asset to a Man's financial success and he'll never dump you - Look at Hilary. Only reason Bill keeps her around is she is paying bills. And vice versa - She runs off of his name. CACs know that tenuous relationships must be maintained for the sake of long term wealth. Do you think they fukk ever? They probably haven't fukked since Monica incident. No one cares, Bill has his trollup hoes likely and Hilary gets her jollies from her power in offices. Everyone is "happy".

Meanwhile these young idealistic Women of color such as yourself won't be able to catch up to the lifestyle of these CAC feminists because you are too busy listening to what the dream is instead of watching what the reality of the lives they truly lead ACTUALLY ARE.

In some ways I feel sorry for Women like you, you were raised on Cinderella that White bytch and that CAC fakkit Prince Charming. He doesn't exist. The reality is far more gruesome but your Daddy or whoever wasn't able to break the news to you.

Well - Don't say no one ever told you.

I tell my Woman every day - Just because I want to hit the buns of some other chick doesn't mean I'm interested in her long term. She says she doesn't want to share me - But she'll come around eventually (She's not American and deluded). The reality is I'm not interested in sharing an actual life with any other Women. Because the majority don't have the intelligence level to keep up with me or stimulate my mind. But they can serve as a good fukk and toss them back into the market afterwards because that's all many Women are worth in this country.

The ones who are worth more - Believe it, they won't have a problem remaining a comfortable lifestyle as the Main - But if their smart they will tolerate the side hoes as long as they remain unseen, discrete and on the fringes. I'm not saying nikkas should parade in the streets with them or spend time holding hands with the bytches.

 

[Theraflu]

You could really end the thread with this. It's fun. Money will change your prospective on life. If you're making 200K a month throwing a 2K at someone means nothing to you.

think more 10% of income. which i personally think is quite alot...

 

[Reginald Noble]

Someone I work closely w is leaving his wife of 20 years for a younger girl who works in our office. They did the whole mistress thing for the last few years and apparently that "love" you were talking about finally overpowered his actual marriage. In his own words, "I have to be happy." I don't get this shyt either.

I don't agree with it personally but I can see the reasoning. Personally for me there is nothing a girl who is 10 years or younger than me can do for me in the mental department. I was always more mature than my peers and thought farther into the future - So she would have to be seriously a savant of some kind but even then her life experiences wouldn't align with my timeline. It's more like a big brother relationship, and if she's even younger than that basically you are her Father. I can't be attracted to a Woman who sees me as a Father figure all the time...

Do you think if your wife knew about the "work wife" [I hate the idea of that] she would be ok with it?

I view the work wife scenario as cheating. No other man is going to get close enough to be my confidant ... That's my husband's position

And I just think it's straight disrespectful to our bond

Part of this IS on the Man to be more selective in who he chooses to be his Wife, she should be at least 90% mentally and spiritually compatible. Because when the physical body breaks down that's all you'll have to keep attracted to each other in old age....

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I don't get what's so hard to understand. Mistresses has been the way men have gotten down for the entire stretch of humanity. The idea of 1 monogamous relationship is fairly new. You look at tribes or even biblical times - men didn't just smash and dash all the time. They had multiple wives or mistresses that where essentially mini wives. You look at the behaviour of many Jamaican and African men - it's multiple families.

The allure is clear. I don't think men are built to have monogamous relationships like that but I don't think rampant casual sex comes natural to men either for many reasons. Spreading your seed or willy-nilly with women you don't care for isn't wise. Sex is better when you have great chemistry with someone and you build on it. It's very difficult for 1 person to meet all of your emotional demands too. For men, multiple wives is the thing that makes the most sense imo. Mistresses is the closest thing in the Western world.

Again, this treating side pieces with contempt is a relatively new phenomenon. It's natural for a man to look after women they love and provide for her. The wife literally owns half but the mistresses will get looked after too. Plus you don't want the mistress to rock the boat too much. Also, again I think it's natural for a man to want to spend time with women he is intimate with. Even if it's a secondary or even third.

A lot of men who have mistresses still love their wives, at least in their minds. but they love the side piece too and treat each with as much respect as they can considering their actions.


IMO it's the leaving the wife and marrying a younger model is the thing I don't understand unless the wife has become truly unbearable.

Good points and I agree.

I do agree the landscape has changed. Not only in how men regard them but also legally. If the wife catches you or even if the Feds catch you(depending on how to get the money ie pretending to be an employee) you have to give all the money back. Like the tranny the owner of the Clippers got caught slipping with. Wive sued shim and he had to give back every dime back. Legally if you are married you can't give out large "gifts" with out their partners consent. You can even be sued by the owners of the estate like what Anna Nicole had to go through and eventually lost. I really doesn't pay to be a mistress.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

think more 10% of income. which i personally think is quite alot...

That is the income YOU are aware of. Dude probably has multiple streams and may have money in his family. I also don't think that's a lot. If I make 5K and I throw a chick $500 a month. That seems like a discount.

 

[A1aaa]

because it's financially burdensome for a wealthy, middle-aged man to get divorced

plus, there are benefits to the inherent stability of having "ol' reliable" at home while doing dirt, especially if you have kids with this woman.

dudes always say, "chase money and the women will follow"... not knowing that wealthy men are the biggest culprits when it comes to blatantly tricking.

 

[MikelArteta]

Simple nagging old wife but zhss the mother of your kid.

Same reason why most men cheat, nagging ass wife

 

[Theraflu]

That is the income YOU are aware of. Dude probably has multiple streams and may have money in his family. I also don't think that's a lot. If I make 5K and I throw a chick $500 a month. That seems like a discount.

nah. you're not a man lol so your opinion on this irrelevant. I wanted male opinions. Also you are missing my point, these women aren't discount side pieces, these men are going around the office talking about how much they love them and genuinely see these women as an alternate family.

if I earn 200k a year and give a woman 20k a year that isn't a small amount.

I personally don't see any motivation to spend so much on a woman who isn't my wife. Hence this question, men don't spend money like women, if I knew I could have a cheap side piece there is no way in hell, that I would buy a 'mistress' a million dollar apartment. Even if I was worth 40 million lol.

The excuse they give for spending so much is that they 'love' them and they genuinely see them as their '2nd wife'...not because it's 'cheap' these men aren't dumb theyre very aware of how much their spending but they think they need to.

Hence this thread on where this 'mistress' concept came from.These men are putting in effort into these relationships.

If you're giving another woman the same lifestyle you give your wife and in his case taking so much time out of your work to spend time with some young lady you 'love', yes, that's not a 'discount'.

 

[Theraflu]

Good points and I agree.

I do agree the landscape has changed. Not only in how men regard them but also legally. If the wife catches you or even if the Feds catch you(depending on how to get the money ie pretending to be an employee) you have to give all the money back. Like the tranny the owner of the Clippers got caught slipping with. Wive sued shim and he had to give back every dime back. Legally if you are married you can't give out large "gifts" with out their partners consent. You can even be sued by the owners of the estate like what Anna Nicole had to go through and eventually lost. I really doesn't pay to be a mistress.

The 'family property' law Shirley used on V stiviano only exists in the USA. In all other countries the wife can not claim back what the husband has given to anyone.

Has your husband had a mistress before who he gave lots of money to? You sound bitter.