What Is The Motivation To A Married Man Having A 'Mistress' ?!

[The Devil's Advocate]

So I work in banking and a common trend I've noticed is a lot of the older men (40's,50's) have 'mistresses' I'm not talking about just any old side chick, I mean my boss bought some random 25 year old chick a fukking 1 million pound apartment and they 'love' each other. He see's her as his legit 'mistress' aka 2nd wife.

He bought her a big ass apartment, is paying her ISA (I think in the US it's called IRA) and has taken her on like a wife or in the way I'd expect a man to look after his wife, her health care, everything and he gives her racks on racks every month

I've noticed this common pattern that these old dudes have these young women they claim are their 'girlfriends' and their 'mistresses' and they proceed to spend thousands and thousands kitting said person out and building a 2nd life with the chick ?!

WTF is the motivation for this ?!

If they want sex on tap can't they just hire a hooker or get a booty call or something? what is the need for all this tricking on the girl and giving her so much money ? Wouldn't a hooker be more efficient than all this ? Especially if they know that wifey can't find out

And what exactly is a mistress? my boss said it's different and he 'loves her' and he has a separate life with her

well then why can't he leave his wife ?

I just don't understand why anyone would put themselves through the drama of running 2 separate homes and having two separate women you are financially responsible for? There are easier ways to get sex no?

These dudes are spending alot of money on this shyt and legit see these girls as people they owe money and need to provide for


The other dude said he got a mistress AND he still bangs his wife 'i love my mistress, i am simply fond of my wife'

I've met a good number of men now in their 40's and 50's who are doing this same shyt in my office

What is the motivation of doing this ?!

If I was going to cheat wouldn't a simple no strings side piece or hooker be easier ?!

And if you've already got stress in your marriage why the hell would you take on a whole other woman's finances and responsibilities.

If getting caught was your problem wouldn't buying a chick a condo, giving her money every month and taking out money from your family home be an easier way to get caught

Is anyone familiar with this concept of man having this 'mistresses' aka 2nd wife? Is it common they're so expensive? and you take care of them like your main family...

I'm just not getting the point of all this

You keep saying sex sex sex. Ignoring him saying love love love


Yes he could get some hooker, bust a nut in 15 mins, and kick her out the spot


But he likes this girl. He probably goes over there and talks to her without fukking. She makes him feel good. Looks good. Treats him like her man and not another dollar. They go on trips together. That's a week or weeks alone. Not constant fukking. Where they do things. Go out. Have fun. Be intimate.


He does the extra money things cause he can afford it. And he wants to take care of her. Make her happy. Make her life easy. So she don't complain and nag. Probably like his wife is doing.


Now for the closer. Why don't he leave his wife.

MONEY is the main answer. He gonna lose a shytload. Plus assets. Plus he probably love his wife too. Yes you can love two people. Maybe even 10. Monogamy is a man made idea.

He'd have to tell his family. His kids. His friends. Have to move. Redo his whole life. Probably miss his wife. Who probably knows about the mistress but don't wanna go through divorce either or lose out on her love. And money



It's cheaper to keep her. And he got his old wife who probably is intelligent and sofisticated and loving and good mom. And he got his young fly thing who is fun and active and partying and ready to drop everything to fly to some country and suck his dikk on the balcony



Breh rich enough to afford it. He living the life. Got a good home and away record

 

[Elle Driver]

No offence but as a wife what your husband does with his money is none of your business. Infact, if you found out your husband had a long term mistress and your biggest concern was how much he was spending...i'd imagine you were a gold digger to think that and for that to be your first response. And it would explain why he devoted so much of his time building a life away from you.

Infact, you're deflecting from this thread. This thread is a MAN asking other MEN why they keep mistresses. you a woman is coming in here on some 'they're whores!' shyt...take that to lipstickalley. I'm not here to ask whether they're 'winning'

Your opinion as a woman that they're 'not winning' is the same female 'hoes aint winning!' argument...take it to the Kim K thread or somewhere relevant. You're deflecting my thread.

Why wouldn't a husbands money be his wife's business?

 

[Theraflu]

Why wouldn't a husbands money be his wife's business?

In the case of these bankers where their wives haven't worked for damn near 20 years, if he spends 10% of his income on whatever. sorry it's none of his wifes business, as long as it's not impacting his primary family, it's not her business.

Most of these banker wives never worked a day since they got the ring..

 

[fscballin]

just pure fukkin greed. I heard of dudes cheatin on wives because they dont get sex at home but having a mistress is "having your cake and eat it too" kinda thing

nikkas need to start jerking off more often in a marriage if thats the case to get that post nut clarity. Its never worth it to go that far

how ironic, seeing as its yall hating ass women who don't want any other children to exist outside of the ones that come out of your ovaries, until their dried and shriveled up.


And even then, your greedy asses don't want his living seed in any life bearing wombs, you rather they continue to run false flags/drills in your dead uteri.

 

[MammaSaidKnockYouOut]

I live in the US. Why would I care about laws else where? Why would I be mad? Even if your scenario his happen I would have got our money back then divorced did ass and got half and then some. Then I would have used his money to live off and get a younger better looking man. That sounds like a mother fukkin win to me breh



You sound mad the law isn't there to help side hoes.

It's 2016 old rich dudes are getting prenuptial agreements on hoes. The only way you gonna get his bank is if you have a child by that dude. Even then that's a what if scenario. If he's old and retired the courts might just give him custody.

 

[Absolut da poet ®]

Tryna hire a hooker can get tricky

1) it's illegal

2) They're fukkin everyone random so disease is a stronger possibility

3) You're still spending money for püssy either way
The difference being you have it to spend and you see more value in your purchase because you developed a relationship with the side piece

Divorce is very expensive and messy even though it's probably headed in that direction anyway if they can get away with it.. They'd rather do that

#GMB

 

[Pitfalls0117]

Thug life, one wife a mistress and a girlfriend

 

[Elle Driver]

In the case of these bankers where their wives haven't worked for damn near 20 years, if he spends 10% of his income on whatever. sorry it's none of his wifes business, as long as it's not impacting his primary family, it's not her business.

Most of these banker wives never worked a day since they got the ring..

Perhaps that was one of their stipulations of marriage is that the wife would be a stay at home? I still think it's her business regardless of whether she's working or not. You can't hide shyt from each other, it's a marriage.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Meh. I don't feel sorry for the main wives. 9/10 they getting their new dyck too. My mom used to own a cleaning service and would clean multi million dollar houses. The shyt she could tell u about some of those chicks. Mistresses? Forget them...the main wives got dikk for every day of the week.

Meanwhile, all the time the husband is investing in new p*ssy is time where the wife is getting her back blown to smithereens by the pool boy. Lmao!

But older married women are just smarter in that they aren't going to risk their meal ticket flaunting it in their hubby's faces.

So I'll take their advice. If I ever get a hint that my husband is cheating, you best believe he won't be the only one. Only I will never be dumb enough to get caught. While his entitled self would let his pride make him out himself.

My azz would be Suzy homemaker to his face and a pornstar behind his back. Because trust me, women appreciate some new and exciting dyck every now and again too. If that's what we're using to justify cheating these days.

When we start treating each other the way we want to be treated, this world will be blessed. Until then, let the games begin.

 

[Brandsdale]

how ironic, seeing as its yall hating ass women who don't want any other children to exist outside of the ones that come out of your ovaries, until their dried and shriveled up.


And even then, your greedy asses don't want his living seed in any life bearing wombs, you rather they continue to run false flags/drills in your dead uteri.

fam?

 

[Jimi Swagger]

They are sponsors for these women, nothing more nothing less. Most of these women have "real boyfriends" around their age or maybe 10 years older at most. No one wants an old ass man. They are lucky Viagra came out 20 years ago because sugar daddies used to just buy cars and a pay rent for a kiss and a full clothed lap dance.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Keep in mind this is stuff ur grandmothers will NEVER admit to. shyt we take to the grave. But those footprints in the snow tell the story. Lol!

"Have a great day at work honey!"
"Oh ur working late again?!"
"It's okay! I won't wait up!"
(Cuz my Tuesday nikka will have put my azz to sleep.)

Be loyal to me and I'm 100% behind u in full support. Betray me in a marriage...you lost.
Me and the side boo bout to be living it up on ur dollar in Cancun.

You ain't eeen know it!

 

[AtomicUse]

Because a lot of old wives get lazy as fukk. Lazy BJs, shytty attitudes, don't take care of themselves, shyt on their husbands, then some fine ass 25 year old looks at you like you're the shyt because you've got your shyt together unlike her broke ass 25 year old BF. Now, when you've got a beautiful young woman saying "shyt, i'd KILL for that life!" meanwhile you're going home to some tired ass complaining bytch, what you think is going to happen?

Only reason these dudes aren't bailing out is fukked up divorce laws.

This is the 100% correct answer.
Several of my coworkers at my level(executive) have mistresses and when I associate with others in different branches, they all say the same thing. I'm honestly one of the few in a managerial position who doesn't cheat on his wife or have a sidepiece.

It's honestly hard to NOT do it.

And people wondering if the husbands give a fukk if the wives are cheating back?
The husbands have just flat of said they're TIRED of them, and do. not. care. what they do. One of the directors I work with wife was going out and cheating and tried to throw it in his face because he had a mistress, and he hit her with the and she legit stalked me for a month about why he didnt care, blowing up my phone asking questions. She ain't even care about new dudes she just wanted somebody to love her, and fact is that new dikk doesn't do that for old broads.

One of the great things about being a man is the ability to truly emotionally detach yourself from a situation and look at it logically, that's what these guys with mistresses do, and the new chick is always down for it.

 

[fscballin]

fam?

the post and gif read as if it was coming from a female

my bad dog


but the point still stands... its not greed its nature

 

[Youseenmywork]

Women HAVE to understand. When they have babies....thats real. When women have periods once a month or whatever.....thats real. Women go threw menopause around 45 -55 and that is very real to them. Men want to fukk another women that ANIT YOU and that is real TO US. Even thoe we many not do it ....cause we doing our best to be faithful. The funny thing fellas is it anit real to them it's built in us to HUNT be it success. ...and empire etc it's built in us. It's just some do it and some don't. So ladies don't get mad at it accept it for what it is. We want to fukk something that ANIT YOU....and it very real to us if men would just be honest. Wanting to fukk another women while we may have a good women is our PERIOD if you will. We just don't do it ....some of us anyway.

Let the neg train begin .

Ps. Women will ALWAYS BE the fukk-E....and it's plenty of women that can't handle that.