Men have the same pressure put on them to get married, usually from women. If men denounce marriage they get looked at like aliens by most even with the divorce and cs statistics. It goes both ways.
Traditionally that hasn't always been the case. Men are deified in bachelorhood. Commonly referred to as eligible bachelors, while marriage has traditionally had more of a negative connotation for men socially than for women. Its only called the old ball and chain with regards to men in most cases. A single man past a certain age carries waaaaaay less of a stigma than a single female past a certain age. Men traditionally haven't been shuffled towards commitment as strongly as women are in most societies.
There are virtually no social shaming tactics for men. You don't hear people calling dudes "old cat ladies" or "spinsters" or "cougars" or countless other names given to older single women. This is because most societies considered older single women as social burdens in the past because women weren't allowed to DO anything in the past beyond the narrow scope of being a wife and mother. For instance like in India, widowed females or orphans or chicks who can't marry at a certain age are forced into female enclaves away from society to minimize the perceived economic burden of a single woman on society. It never occurred to these bright guys that women are actually capable of working and sustaining themselves when given the opportunity because socially that fukks up the cultural idea that women require men for survival. Ego codified into social norms is dangerous. The delusion of female helplessness is what sustains this idea that "oh deez chicks gon be miserable in dey old age if they ain't married."
And it is a delusion based on the flawed idea that if a woman doesn't get married, she'll die alone or be poor or unable to sustain herself. For the most part, this used to be true. Not because women couldn't sustain themselves but b/c there were no socially acceptable roles or jobs for them to do so in the past. Well when you counter logically with the fact that even MARRIED women die alone as well in retirement homes or on their own ALL the time, it makes that excuse null and void b/c women typically outlive men anyway.
Meanwhile, fast forward to today and female participation in the workforce allowed for the switch up of all this shyt.
None of this means that a good marriage isn't great for both men AND women. But what it does mean, is that for women the benefits of a marriage HAVE to outweigh the great quality of life she can
now provide for herself with boundless options unfettered by social stigmas and shaming tactics for marriage to be worth it for her.
If she doesn't weigh those options
carefully, she risks being married to somebody who could possibly
1.) Cheat on her and give her an STD (downlow shyt, scumbaggery, "oh I gotta sidechick I fukk raw", "POLYGAMY!", I gotta right to cheat I'mma man!)
2.) Abandon her with a bunch of kids to raise on her own
3.) Beat her ass everyday
4.) Take her for granted and make her feel like shyt
5.) Neck yap about "submission" while requiring her to do EVERYTHING for him with little support for her own dreams and goals (oh I forgot she inferior so what she want aint important no way)
6.)Be possibly taken away from opportunities to care for her own family
7.) Have her mental and physical health impacted due to stress from cheating, childrearing practices, and taking care of everyone else but herself
8.) STILL being alone even in a relationship
9.) Having to see to the sexual needs of somebody even when you don't want to and yours aint satisfied
10.) Having her career jeopardized or doing all of that and possibly being a Mary J. Blige if she making bank prior to the marriage...
vs what
Giving a damn about some
comments on her being a spinster with cats...
A lot of men are waking up to the fact that the "golden age" and the "good ole days" they claimed were great for women, were actually horrible for most and tolerated by women out of necessity. But that's because men drank their own Kool-aid and refused to actually listen to women. And when women did try and tell em, men told em to shut up and go back to the kitchen
Even my dad told me that he is lucky my mom stayed with him because he worked and brought home the money but he knows her role was harder. MUCH harder. Like after 44 years of marriage he acknowledges that shyt. I appreciate him for it because a lot of dudes these days still don't get what women are talking about and a lot of chicks are tired and bowing out of the game. And living longer with a better quality of life because of it. That shyt is deep.
if u date a single mother u better plan on getting her pregnant or just using her for your fukery and enjoyment. Childless women are the most chilled to be around 
hilarious
