Single men over 30: Why aren't you married?

[Giselle]

Most people are Married because they don't want to be alone.

They lost

That could be a reason why some older people stay married, but that is not a reason why younger people get married.

You sound like you're hoping that is what's happening to make yourself feel better. Putting someone else down to make yourself feel/seem better.

 

[Giselle]

Why I laugh every time I hear it.

I'm really not married because I can't find a black women who can handle me, they're too busy playing games, all 7 of them that I'm talking to at the same time

I've heard that line and you're saying it wrong. No one says that good black men are in jail. People say that lots of black men are in jail or gay which leaves less black men to choose from. Get it right before you try to mock it.

 

[Giselle]

You don't have to be rich before you get married.

 

[acri1]

Combo of B) and E) here

Not necessarily opposed to the idea, but I haven't met the right one.

 

[Giselle]

I don't want to.

Honestly I'm still living life like i was in my 20s still. Im more concerned about making money and following goals i set for myself years ago. At the moment i really am not interested in having a relationship or getting married or having kids. Why? Cause everyone else does it? Lol


Im making up for lost time i spent 10 years in college....so what i would of done if i graduated after 4/6 years in my mid to late 20s as a college grad i am doing now.

And number 1...i haven't found the one. That's important.

This is what's wrong with lots of men an women these days who are entering or are in their 30's. They don't want to grow up, they're selfish, self centered. They believe that life and fun ends when you're married with kids which is not true. There was a thread about this on lsa and women around you guy's age were saying some of the same things.

Then they had another thread where they were bashing people who got married. I think a lot of you are jealous or something. & when that was said over there, they brought up cheating and divorce.

& another thread talking about how its better to live with your parents even in your early 30's and living on your own doesn't make you an adult.

There is cleary something wrong with people who are you all's age.

 

[Giselle]

could have been married to four different women , got straight asked 3 times........

I have no issue with getting married, I have no issue with not getting married..... my mom and some members of my family have called endless family meetings about this....smh

From the age of 17 my life has been too unstructured and I guess I have too much of a laissez faire attitude to life...

Im going to marry my girl Im with now tho....

Why her and why now?
& how do you know that she will say yes?

 

[Flay Mayweather]

F.

 

[SouthernBelle]

The replies in here are huh yeah…..

Guess it hurts to know how black men actually views wanting to marry a black woman…. or lack thereof

I wouldn't take it personally, but it is clearly a reality that a lot of black women won't get married simply because a large portion of black men are not marriage minded. I just find it so interesting that people (in general) who are so against marriage could also say that they are pro black wealth creation and against out of wedlock children bearing/rearing. Without intact families, blacks will continue to be behind the curve. That's reality.

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

It's a little bit of choices B & C.

I don't know many females, and the ones I do know either don't like me like that or off the market. The 1 girl who I possibly could've seen having a long term relationship relocated & ended up getting engaged (that's another story for another time).

But honestly, I've been single for so long, that I don't feel the need to have a girlfriend/wife. I can accomplish what I what on my own, plus I'm still enjoying my freedom of doing what I want whenever I want (This is the major reason why I don't see myself getting married anytime soon). Not having to get wifey's approval on a making a purchase or move

 

[emoney]

30, A

 

[LezJepzin]

B

F- Meeting them too late

 

[Unknown Poster]

This is what's wrong with lots of men an women these days who are entering or are in their 30's. They don't want to grow up, they're selfish, self centered. They believe that life and fun ends when you're married with kids which is not true. There was a thread about this on lsa and women around you guy's age were saying some of the same things.

Then they had another thread where they were bashing people who got married. I think a lot of you are jealous or something. & when that was said over there, they brought up cheating and divorce.

& another thread talking about how its better to live with your parents even in your early 30's and living on your own doesn't make you an adult.

There is cleary something wrong with people who are you all's age.

I'm sorry but I'm team #GMB to the death.

I already have friends my age that are divorced. They got married early on some college sweetheart stuff then later it all fell apart because after a while they just couldn't stand each other.

What's marriage anyways but a relationship with a contractual agreement attached to it?

Bottom line i care about my livelihood and my money first and foremost. Im not busting my ass to build a fortune only to get married...get divorced...lose everything and sleep in a racecar shaped bed in a condo.

This happened to way too many people I know.

 

[Ninjaz In Paris]

I know a lot of hopeless romantic women who constantly tell me how wonderful real love is and they can't wait for "the one" & they'll know when they meet him...

The funny part is all of them are over 35 & still waiting out for Prince Charming with a very Hollywood versionized view of Romance so they think every relationship is supposed to be like "The Notebook" or something... it's wild...

The dudes I know too busy getting all this leftover social media low self esteem vagina to even care about getting married. People are falling for preconceived images and ideals of what love and family are supposed to be so once they hit that neutral state & the infatuation is gone they become selfish. This is what leads to cheating when someone more fun and new comes along and sparks that infatuation again making them believe they are "in love"...

The whole " I don't feel the same way I used to..." comes from immature people who don't understand how their own emotions and chemicals react to conditions.

Get Married Brehs... Go ahead and try to beat Psychology...

 

[The ADD]

Surprisingly logical and civilized in here

 

[HopeKillCure]

Because she said no

I know I know I know