when you are blacked out , you can still be a mostly functional human being... Your motor skills take over. So you can still talk, hug, shake hands, hold entire conversations, give directions , etc. For all we know you and her definition of "I was blacked out and randomly woke up with a guy on top of me" really means "I blacked out, someone approached me, I grabbed on him, told him take me to the house and I happen to sober up just in time" because thats probably what REALLY happened
blacking out doesnt mean you just take a roofie and immediately drop to the floor
you do shyt in between til you fall asleep and wake up andi t just blocks your memory of the activities you did. You could of offered to sucked 10 dikks that night in a bathroom while blacked out and never knew. But if someone reminded you of it, then its rape
Ive done near 900 parties now, ive seen everything. The most common one is girls not handling their alcohol/drugs, blacking out, going home with someone and then regretting it the next day. Thats not on the guy, thats on the girl (and her friends). I have entire videos of me blacked out on birthdays (I cant remember the events myself) but the videos show me having full on regular conversations with people about anything
them: "you dont remember bringing in all the taco bell from outside to inside the club
"
me: "we had taco bell inside the club?
I dont remember that "
just because I dont remember the taco bell doesnt mean I didnt offer to go get it