MEN, how do you do it? [relationships]

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

U said a lot of women, which is completely untrue. One min y'all talking about women being gold diggers and wanting guys with fancy cars the next min you guys talking bout how women want men that ain't established or don't got shyt. Which is it? Y'all are getting real annoying with your stereotypes.

It's true.A lot of women would rather keep their independence than hop on board with a man and sumbit to his leadership.

There's various types of women out here.They're not just a hive of like minded indiduals.

The types of women that I spoke about in my post are out there.I've experienced it.

People asked why men act the way that they do, I answered it from MY perspective.This is what I see.

 

[KinksandCoils]

It's true.A lot of women would rather keep their independence than hop on board with a man and sumbit to his leadership.

There's various types of women out here.They're not just a hive of like minded indiduals.

The types of women that I spoke about in my post are out there.I've experienced it.

People asked why men act the way that they do, I answered it from MY perspective.This is what I see.

Submit to his leadership?

You men want to treat women like children instead of partners. It's 2014 most women don't look to a husband as someone who tells her what to do and she must listen like a lil ass child. Husband and wife should work together. That's why some men are so damn abusive because they want control.

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

Submit to his leadership?

You men want to treat women like children instead of partners. It's 2014 most women don't look to a husband as someone who tells her what to do and she must listen like a lil ass child. Husband and wife should work together. That's why some men are so damn abusive because they want control.

That's the extreme feminist tainted idea of submission.It's not about treating women like a child.

Working together takes a lot of selflessnes & sacrifice.The problem is, nobody really wants to put in the work.People get together in an act of mutual exploitation.That's why I said people are selfish and feel entitled to happiness.Both genders are guilty of it.There's no innocent parties here.

 

[GiGi]

Many men underestimate the natural sex drive and erotic desires of women.

It is an extreme turn on to have a guy who is honest about just wanting a purely sexual relationship. The issue comes when men are not empowered or confident enough in their own sexual desirability to just propose a purely sexual encounter. The men who lack self confidence are the ones who lie, scheme and connive when it really is very unnecessary.

Just say that you only want sex. Its ok. We get it. No need to lie. If a woman isn't interested just move on because someone else will be ok with a sex only encounter.

 

[GiGi]

And you're still proving my point. So it's ok for a man to be selfish b/c he's getting what he wants? What about what the woman wants? If you as a man knows the woman you are with wants marriage eventually, but you KNOW that she is not the one you want to marry, what makes it ok to string her along just b/c your basic needs are being met. That's the ultimate sign of selfishness and unfortunately, it goes on way too much.

So much truth spoken in this post

 

[ThaBronxBully]

The Answer Is Easy, Selfishness

You Got People Out Here Killing Their Parents And Kids For Insurance Money So They Can Feel Like Ballers

Sex Is Nothing

 

[Taadow]

If I'm attracted to a girl and we can have engaging intellectual discourse, I'm usually gonna want something more than sex.

I'm finna spit this real talk:









I don't just want the p-uscy...unless that's all she got.

Chuuch.

 

[GiGi]

It's true.A lot of women would rather keep their independence than hop on board with a man and sumbit to his leadership.

There's various types of women out here.They're not just a hive of like minded indiduals.

The types of women that I spoke about in my post are out there.I've experienced it.

People asked why men act the way that they do, I answered it from MY perspective.This is what I see.

Why would women who have their lives together want to submit to or follow the leadership of men who do not have their lives together? There are a lot of men out there who simply are not worth submitting to.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

another thing about this thread...youre wasting your time asking a bunch of 20 y

this is mostly aimed at men..
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another thing about this thread...youre wasting your time asking a bunch of 20 yr olds about this kinda thing...most of these cats are not mature enough to give you an answer....and even more of them have never had a real long term relationship...

you need to talk to people in their 30s and 40s breh...

 

[MikelArteta]

Many men underestimate the natural sex drive and erotic desires of women.

It is an extreme turn on to have a guy who is honest about just wanting a purely sexual relationship. The issue comes when men are not empowered or confident enough in their own sexual desirability to just propose a purely sexual encounter. The men who lack self confidence are the ones who lie, scheme and connive when it really is very unnecessary.

Just say that you only want sex. Its ok. We get it. No need to lie. If a woman isn't interested just move on because someone else will be ok with a sex only encounter.

men remember when you hear to never take a womans advice

here it is breh

 

[Urbanmiracle]

My last gf is just one of those females who don't find any shame in having multiple sex partners because she is an "independent woman" and she really doesn't want to have kids or even settle down. She claims I was her first "real relationship" and towards the end she lost attraction to me due to either being used to the thrill of new sexual partner ever so often or the routine of relationships hampered her sexual drive. Myself, I want a family and kids. These ladies in this age are being more comfy with just being alone and picking whomever they choose to have sex at their own will and pace as needed. Its getting hard to find "traditional" females who wish to have families and settle down and find shame in multiple sex partners...

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

Submit to his leadership?

You men want to treat women like children instead of partners. It's 2014 most women don't look to a husband as someone who tells her what to do and she must listen like a lil ass child. Husband and wife should work together. That's why some men are so damn abusive because they want control.

What's wrong with submission? There isn't anything wrong with allowing your husband to take leadership under the right circumstances; of course, he should consult with you when making decisions, but a man (who provides for his family) should be allowed to sit in the driver's seat in his own household. Do you know what research has found? When a man feels emasculated, sex drive within the marriage decreases a significant amount. Women subconsciously (whether they're aware of it not) want a man who can dominate them. I'm not advocating for abusive/controlling husbands, but I think a good marriage consists of a wife submitting to her husband, if he's worthy of it -- which is why it's paramount to sift through the bullshytters and retain celibacy until he's man enough to want to commit to you by law, by God, and in front of your families and friends. If you respect yourself, then people will have to respect you! And I think a lot of the problems women face today is they've lost respect for themselves, sadly.

Back to the topic: OP, I think you've asked a very valid question. Society by in large is to blame. People (both men and women) abide by social rules. A few decades ago, it was shocking if a woman had more than 1 sexual partner, now you are considered a prude/goody two-shoes if your number is below 5 or a single digit. We hear and see sex EVERYWHERE! Girls as young as 12 are posting provocatively on social media, striving to get fictitious likes from strangers they'll never meet. Our whole society is being built upon hedonism; our new slogan is: Yolo. The young generation are getting their hearts broken at a much younger age, thus are developing the 'I don't give a fcuk' apathy-style mentality before their brain has even fully developed. This results in seeing many bitter adults who no longer believe in love, but lies to obtain what their physical body desires. Yes, these men (and women) should be held accountable, but how can we prosecute them when the current culture not only promotes their mindset but fights to sustain it?

 

[GiGi]

men remember when you hear to never take a womans advice

here it is breh

So basically you would rather NOT acknowledge that women also have sexual needs which we are sometimes ok with fulfilling outside of a relationship....but its better in YOUR opinion to simply lie to women to get what you want from them (even though you could get it WITHOUT lying)?

Are some of you just so conditioned to lying and manipulating that you can't comprehend what the women in this thread are saying?

Or do some of you simply thrive off of the idea of "conquering" women through deception?

 

[KinksandCoils]

What's wrong with submission? There isn't anything wrong with allowing your husband to take leadership under the right circumstances; of course, he should consult with you when making decisions, but a man (who provides for his family) should be allowed to sit in the driver's seat in his own household. Do you know what research has found? When a man feels emasculated, sex drive within the marriage decreases a significant amount. Women subconsciously (whether they're aware of it not) want a man who can dominate them. I'm not advocating for abusive/controlling husbands, but I think a good marriage consists of a wife submitting to her husband, if he's worthy of it -- which is why it's paramount to sift through the bullshytters and retain celibacy until he's man enough to want to commit to you by law, by God, and in front of your families and friends. If you respect yourself, then people will have to respect you! And I think a lot of the problems women face today is they've lost respect for themselves, sadly.

Back to the topic: OP, I think you've asked a very valid question. Society by in large is to blame. People (both men and women) abide by social rules. A few decades ago, it was shocking if a woman had more than 1 sexual partner, now you are considered a prude/goody two-shoes if your number is below 5 or a single digit. We hear and see sex EVERYWHERE! Girls as young as 12 are posting provocatively on social media, striving to get fictitious likes from strangers they'll never meet. Our whole society is being built upon hedonism; our new slogan is: Yolo. The young generation are getting their hearts broken at a much younger age, thus are developing the 'I don't give a fcuk' apathy-style mentality before their brain has even fully developed. This results in seeing many bitter adults who no longer believe in love, but lies to obtain what their physical bodies desire. Yes, these men (and women) should be held accountable, but how can we prosecute them when the current culture not only promotes their mindset but fights to sustain it?

There is nothing wrong with submission if a woman chooses to submit. If she doesn't she shouldn't feel forced to. I believe relationships and marriage should be a partnership.

 

[TheFemalePerspective]

There is nothing wrong with submission if a woman chooses to submit. If she doesn't she shouldn't feel forced to. I believe relationships and marriage should be a partnership.

I agree that no woman should be forced to submit; however, I disagree that marriage is strictly an equal partnership. A woman should find a man WORTH submitting to, imo. It doesn't mean that your opinions are not valid or that if he tells you to jump you ask him how high. It simply means that you respect his authority and allow him to make final decisions on family issues. Just like how every nation has a president, one leader that takes charge; just like how every company has a CEO that makes final executive decisions; you need a clear leader in every family for everything to run smoothly and efficiently. This whole equality thing is built upon feeding the ego. There are things that men are particularly good at and things that women excel at. Pretending that we're equally good at the same things is breaking the very foundations of the stable nuclear family, which is rapidly declining.