MEN, how do you do it? [relationships]

[Aceofspades404]

because as long as a man is getting loyalty, sex and cooked food and not constantly being nagged he's happy.

why would any man end a relationship with a woman who does that?

And you're still proving my point. So it's ok for a man to be selfish b/c he's getting what he wants? What about what the woman wants? If you as a man knows the woman you are with wants marriage eventually, but you KNOW that she is not the one you want to marry, what makes it ok to string her along just b/c your basic needs are being met. That's the ultimate sign of selfishness and unfortunately, it goes on way too much.

 

[Kenny West]

I agree, but does anyone ever feel like they're taking advantage?

would you continue to have sex with a person who can't mentally stimulate you, if so, isn't that person reduced to a sexual object?

Some sex partners are only there for the sex These chicks have side dudes who they just fukk without trying to deeply understand them and shyt.

And sometimes you're just physically attracted to someone you dislike

why don't men just tell women that they just want the p*ssy?

why play all the games?

If it were that simple everyone would do it. Not to say it doesn't work but speaking it bluntly makes majority of chicks feel uncomfortable.

I've only heard of that shyt working for famous dudes/married dudes/dudes in relationships (and she knows)

 

[MikelArteta]

Most women know.

Women just constantly try changing men

And you're still proving my point. So it's ok for a man to be selfish b/c he's getting what he wants? What about what the woman wants? If you as a man knows the woman you are with wants marriage eventually, but you KNOW that she is not the one you want to marry, what makes it ok to string her along just b/c your basic needs are being met. That's the ultimate sign of selfishness and unfortunately, it goes on way too much.

 

[Yup]

I wonder how relationships would be if women treated men the same way that many men treated women.
Based on the comments made in this forum that ive read...it seems guys want to get away with things that they would not like done to them. You want to sleep around but want your girl to be a saintly freak.
You want sex and are willing lie, trick and deceive to get it but expect the girl to figute it out and drop you.
You don't like girls that withhold sex so you left her but dont want her to enjoy it too much and do it with other guys.
Seems thay whatever the outcome the girl is always at fault

 

[KinksandCoils]

I find that most men don't give a shyt about a womans feelings unless they deeply care about them, or love them and even then they still don't care sometimes. I can't speak on what women do cause I don't have romantic involvement with them.

A man will tell you anything to have sex with you.

 

[Yup]

I think what have saved men throughout history is that society has pressured women to believe that they are not meant to enjoy sex...it is a man's activity. Therefore, guys play up the double standards because it is advantageous to them.

But society constantly changes what happens now when women become more open sexually and no longer ashamed to have multiple partners and also no longer care about getting a ring and having kids. What would happen then? Cause these women do exist amd increasingly so...

 

[Yup]

The argument I hear often is that men disassociate sex from emotional attachment but im not sure I believe that or else they would be ok with their significant others sleeping with dudes on the side.

I think guys have sex as openly because society is more accepting of it than they are of women.

 

[Matt504]

The argument I hear often is that men disassociate sex from emotional attachment but im not sure I believe that or else they would be ok with their significant others sleeping with dudes on the side.

I think guys have sex as openly because society is more accepting of it than they are of women.

very fair point.

 

[Turbulent]

I don't think that makes it ok to lie. Even if he thinks a woman is out his league. If a woman is dealing with you, she wants you. People never know what insecurities the other person has as well. So a woman should have the right to choose if she wants the same things as the person she deals with. A lot of guys lie for no reason, I'll just go a head and say a lot of people lie for no reason. To themselves and others.

I agree with your last point. I am not talking about women who ignore blatant signs and common sense. I am also not talking about women who think they can use sex to change a mans mind.

i agree that it doesn't make it ok. but i think that's the rationale or motive behind it a lot of times.

 

[Raava]

i agree that it doesn't make it ok. but i think that's the rationale or motive behind it a lot of times.

We have to agree to disagree on that one. There are plenty of guys who just don't care.

 

[Yup]

Point is both men and women want a relationships but perhaps not at the same time. Guys want a relationship when their experimental years are behind them....which depending on the guy who knows when that is.

But the other caveat is most men are not going to choose women within the age group but much younger. Either way I look at it men have been selfish over the centuries and even greedy. But now that women are starting to follow suit their getting pissed off and try to use the double standard to keep these young women in line but I foresee this no longer working in the years to come as we reach a sexual equilibrium for both sexes.

Then perhaps men will be complaining how women are not faithful and dont want a family and settle down...now that would be a sight to see....that is if its not already happening as we speak.

 

[Guess Who]

I find that most men don't give a shyt about a womans feelings unless they deeply care about them, or love them and even then they still don't care sometimes. I can't speak on what women do cause I don't have romantic involvement with them.

A man will tell you anything to have sex with you.

A man who is only looking for sex will tell you anything to sleep with you. A man that's looking for a relationship won't. The latter group is decidedly more rare, though.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've realized over time that if you ever want shyt to work, just look at your social media. Women will be in a relationship for years with the same nikka, and the only reason you know that is her status updates, which are 80% negative and 20% decent. If you're heading toward or over 30, this is what you have to be with any woman who is at the "I got baggage" age. Otherwise, your best bet is to meet a cool ass 21 year old who hasn't gone thru enough bullshyt yet. fukkin' around with a chick over 30, this is what you have to contend with:

*The fact that she's been treated like shyt numerous times and still hasn't learned her lesson.
*The party/club life which is still intriguing because she doesn't wanna believe she's gettin' old.
*That nikka who she swears is a piece of shyt/disrespectful/she can't stand... who's only a call/text away.
*The words that will never match the actions, because it's easier to say she's tired of games than to refrain from playing games herself.

You gotta be that nikka she complains about constantly... cause that's the only nikka that seems to keep his woman.

I've learned all from trial and error... every time I've started to get genuinely interested and expressed that interest, shyt has gone all downhill from there. The one time I decided to do that "act like you don't give a fukk, it'll make her like you more" was with a 23 year old who really just wanted me to be good to her. Because unlike these ones in my age group, she hasn't been plagued by years of emotional wreckage... yet. Now I couldn't get her back if I tried, so I'm out here dealin' with these old-ass idiots who only react to apathy.

 

[bl2k8]

The argument I hear often is that men disassociate sex from emotional attachment but im not sure I believe that or else they would be ok with their significant others sleeping with dudes on the side.

I think guys have sex as openly because society is more accepting of it than they are of women.

wtf are you talking about? The guy their woman is messing with might not give a fukk about her but she's more than likely gonna like the dude

 

[MikelArteta]

Point is both men and women want a relationships but perhaps not at the same time. Guys want a relationship when their experimental years are behind them....which depending on the guy who knows when that is.

But the other caveat is most men are not going to choose women within the age group but much younger. Either way I look at it men have been selfish over the centuries and even greedy. But now that women are starting to follow suit their getting pissed off and try to use the double standard to keep these young women in line but I foresee this no longer working in the years to come as we reach a sexual equilibrium for both sexes.

Then perhaps men will be complaining how women are not faithful and dont want a family and settle down...now that would be a sight to see....that is if its not already happening as we speak.