Let's Discuss: Between 40-60% of Black Women have been Sexually Abused before the Age of 18

[KinksandCoils]

I work with a white older woman who was saying that every family has a sexually predator in it whether they know it or not. I think that has some truth to it. And when I say family I'm not talking about the immediate family but the extended one like cousins and uncles.

Sexual abuse is so big for all women. I'm very cautious when it comes to hanging with men idk. I just had a discussion about this with a guy I work with. He was calling me uptight because I don't drink like that and I'm like I'm not gonna be drinking with u anyways....

 

[agnosticlady]

Exactly. A lot of black people are on the same tip as Sarah Palin or were raised by families with that mentality and don't even realize it. Sex education is sorely lacking, as is the whole "its incumbent on the child to show more sense than the rapist adult" shyt, plus the "I don't want to believe that the family friend/person I'm fukking would do this to my child". Denial is much easier than actually facing the issue, so its no surprise that's the route a lot of parents take.

The last part also plays a major role in how a lot of black people have poor relationships with their parents. There are young black girls who were being sexually abused and their mothers choose to do nothing. This has a huge impact on the way the relationship (if they choose to have one) this young lady will have with her mom as an adult.
Also a lot of young black girls are hyper sexualized at a very young age. People deny it, but it is true. I grew up in a working class black community and I vividly remember that whenever there was a neighborhood party (holiday, birthday, event, or whatever) there were black girl as young as 12 popping their ass and being cheered on. There are some that have mothers that cheer that on and say stuff like, "That's my baby! That's my girl!". I remember being in the 5th grade and one of the girls (Who was 1 by the way) was bragging about how there were guys trying to talk to her when she went to the movies with her cousin. She would talk about how her cousin would take her shopping when she bought her dildo's/vibrators. I remember being jealous because I wished that my parents would let me go hang out. Now when I look back I say to myself, "I was only 10. What would I be doing?". Every female likes to be physically attractive. I do remember my classmates being allowed to go out dressed like the pictures in the spoiler. Sometimes their mothers would help them pick out the outfit, didn't care anymore, or didn't know. Also I am not far removed from my teenage years and my sisters are in middle and high school so I know what I am speaking of. Furthermore, there are some young black minors that go chasing after older men. One girl who used to live in my neighborhood was 13 with a grown woman's body (Not her fault). She would try to flirt with my older brother who was 20 at the time, but he always ignored her.

When I was 13 I knew girls my age range(13-17) dressing like this

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[Bugatti Biceps]

I work with a white older woman who was saying that every family has a sexually predator in it whether they know it or not. I think that has some truth to it. And when I say family I'm not talking about the immediate family but the extended one like cousins and uncles.

Sexual abuse is so big for all women. I'm very cautious when it comes to hanging with men idk. I just had a discussion about this with a guy I work with. He was calling me uptight because I don't drink like that and I'm like I'm not gonna be drinking with u anyways....

I'm always wary around people who try and pressure other people into drinking. That always sounds like a setup to me.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

60% of 300 is 180 that's not half of black women

there is suffering in silence type of thing going on amongst black women, idk why but i doubt it has anything to do with them being seen as traitor to the black race
we as black people are taught to stfu if something traumatic happens to us

It's statistical averages man. It's using a strong sample size to predict aggregate outcomes. It probably has a 4+\- margin of error as standard. These numbers are freighting.

 

[bcrusaderw]

I'd like to know how they're defining "abuse." These figures seem grossly inflated to me, tbh.

A substantial number of Black teenage girls also reported sexual victimization. Among students, 11.2% of Black girls in a national high school sample reported have been raped (Thompson, McGee, & Mays, 2012), 52% of a Black midwestern high school and college students reported sexual coercion (French & Neville, 2008), and 14.2% of Black women who were enrolled in historically Black colleges and universities (HBCUs) reported a completed or attempted rape (Krebs, Lindquist, & Barrick, 2011). In a longitudinal study of young African American women (ages 15-21) who sought sexual health services at urban clinics, 25.1% were rape victims. When the study ended 12 months later, an additional 9.5% of the nonvictimized participants had been raped (Lang et al., 2011).

In adulthood, approximately 1 in 5 African American women reported that they had been raped at some point in their lifetime. More specifically, 18.8% of Black women in the National Violence Against Women Survey (NVAWS) (Tjaden & Thoennes, 2006) and 22% of the Black women in the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS) reported a lifetime rape. Also, the NISVS revealed that 41% of Black women experienced sexual coercion and other forms of unwanted sexual contact. These prevalence rates translate to an estimated 3.1 million Black rape victims and 5.9 million Black survivors of other forms of sexual violence (Black et al., 2011).

The Black Women's Health Imperative

Article from one of the sources.

 

[KinksandCoils]

Exactly....people who are overly zealous to have a drink with you. Or when they are drinking they get mad cause you aren't.

I'm always wary around people who try and pressure other people into drinking. That always sounds like a setup to me.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

We have a duty to protect children (male and female). The fact that this stat is so high is troubling. It's probably elevated for black male children as well. Access to help is a major issue. Black children are being "educated" in schools where they are being overly-punished and underestimated. That kind of environment doesn't breed trust for these children.Who are they supposed to turn to? In sexual abuse cases involving children especially the perpetrator is usually a relative or close family friend! That brings up the code of silence that seems to permeate many families as well. And on top of all of that people who are sexually abused often become abusers themselves. The issue is pervasive.

Agreed with this statement. Perfect example was of Anita hill vs Clarence Thomas, and the fact she suffered backlash from the black community.

 

[Poitier]

Yes, most parents don't want to subject their child to repeated emotional trauma. .

Many kids don't tell the parents due to emotional trauma.

But they do that by falling back on denial, and then when questioned about why they deny it, they inevitably blame the child using your third point, reliability.

Fam, tons of parents believe their kids. Reliability is an issue because kids aren't internally consistent and can be persuaded.

The first study examined all child sex abuse cases heard in Los Angeles County between 1997 and 2001 (nearly 3,800 cases). For the purpose of the study, child sex abuse was defined as “contact sexual abuse of any child under the age of 14”. Of all the cases examined, only 309 went to trial (a total of nine per cent) with other cases being settled following a plea bargain or dismissal of the charges.

And thats only for the kids who RECOGNIZE abuse or do so by accident WHEN IT OCCURS.

 

[bcrusaderw]

You seem to only want to address me and not address the topic nor any of the points I bring up. So that means if you can't derail the topic, but decide the direction, by choosing to address my gripe and myself instead of the points I bring up in relation to the topic, my responses to your personal attacks can't be derailment. That's how logic works. You want this to end? Address my points about the topic and stop addressing me, also admitting your 3rd post was fukkery would go a long way as well.

Reported for derailing.

 

[Bugatti Biceps]

This has a huge impact on the way the relationship (if they choose to have one) this young lady will have with her mom as an adult.

That falls into a lot of black children growing up in homes with a single mother, and the value they learn of a woman is only sexual. nikkas in and out of the house, etc etc. A good chunk of the black women I know who were molested as kids it happened at the hands of nikkas their moms were fukking with. Black children that grow up in a home where the mother only sees herself having valuable if men want to have sex with her crosses over to both the boys and the girls. The girls only see themselves as sexual objects, and their self esteem being dependent on how many boys/men want to fukk them, and boys see women as sexual objects to acquire and dominate, and if you are exposed to girls as young as 10 acting that way as a young boy, when you reach manhood they use that to justify pursuing young girls sexually.

 

[Bugatti Biceps]

Reliability is an issue because kids aren't internally consistent and can be persuaded.

This is case for most rape reports, or recalling memory in general. Hell, I can implant a childhood memory in you as an adult that never happened through the power of suggestion. The human brain is very fallible.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Yes, it absolutely is true for children. Many children get blamed for being sexually abused.

I respectfully disagree with this statement. I'm not sure if there's been cases of children being blamed for their own abuse in a sexual manner. If this was about domestic abuse, I would find this more plausible; however sexual abuse I'm having a hard time with. Just my opinion!

 

[Bugatti Biceps]

Reported for derailing.

Whoever you're reporting me too must realize you're actin childish as well.

You're reported for derailing and not adding anything to the discussion.

 

[bcrusaderw]

I respectfully disagree with this statement. I'm not sure if there's been cases of children being blamed for their own abuse in a sexual manner. If this was about domestic abuse, I would find this more plausible; however sexual abuse I'm having a hard time with. Just my opinion!

How many young girls are called "fast" when they reveal that they have been sexual relationships whether consensual or not with adult males? That's just one example.

Whoever you're reporting me too must realize you're actin childish as well.

You're reported for derailing and not adding anything to the discussion.

Reported for derailing.

 

[agnosticlady]

Exactly....people who are overly zealous to have a drink with you. Or when they are drinking they get mad cause you aren't.

SMH