Did your parents fail you?

[42 Monks]

My mom is one of the best woman I know, a perfect model for someone born in the late 50’s

Pops was THE man growing up to me, so much so I never had a need for a “role model,” that shyt was literally a foreign concept to me.

Now…they had their ways but they’ve always been there for me, and still are. Good people

fr. my mom literally worked herself to death for me

and I *still* had to get lucky out here. like the scope and magnitude of the parental task straight up doesn't register with people.

nothing gets under my skin quite like seeing bad parents set their kids up for failure - then act like they had no part in it. its probably the only thing that can genuinely piss me off at a glance these days.

 

[BeBorn]

Yes but I understand more that I'm a adult both parents were drug addicts and went through a lot of shyt my pops still alive but my mom passed but she was clean for 9 years before she relapse and died during those 9 years I can grasp that she truly care about me but didn't know what or apologize for what me and my brother went thru when we were younger me and my pops have no real connection honestly even tho we look exactly alike I can't remember any game or anything he put me on and went years without seeing him so I don't care as much or hold grudges really my mom was like you grown now get over it but I know she was ashamed I know things could have been different for me but I agree with most people here saying that getting older you find out what's going on so you can see it for what it is they failed and failed themselves also I take ownership of the life I've lived so it's nothing no fault of anyone else and makes no difference to try to place blame now just move forward

 

[Marco Zen]

Breh no lie, me and this pawg at the gym were talking about it and she legit said she told her daughter LAST NIGHT "I failed you as a mom" because the child doesn't know how to "cut cake"

I started laughing thinking she was joking this bytch didn't crack a fukkin smile she was dead serious

 

[F*ckthemkids]

What if your parents raised you in the heart of white supremacy?


We were all failed by our parents,but they didnt know any better,which makes them innocent.


All of you have been made aware,so if you continue to raise yours within white supremacy and they are negatively effected. I dont wanna hear about how you didnt fail them.

What does “what if your parents raised you in the heart of white supremacy?” Even mean?

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

fr. my mom literally worked herself to death for me

and I *still* had to get lucky out here. like the scope and magnitude of the parental task straight up doesn't register with people.

nothing gets under my skin quite like seeing bad parents set their kids up for failure - then act like they had no part in it. its probably the only thing that can genuinely piss me off at a glance these days.

Being a regular square ass parent apparently goes a long way breh. As a parent myself, me and my wife’s vices are damn near non existent, which is half the battle .

The other half is just being a decent human being

 

[Paradoxx]

religion is a factor for some but not my pa, who believes in god but doesn't give a damn about church or religion. let's face it, a lot of parents are just out here bussin nuts and going from there

Pretty much

 

[Afrodroid]

Yeah , my father failed me big, he abandoned our family for some cave beast. He died in 2017.

I don't know if I can consider that my mother failed me cause she just gave up on living and died when i was 11 years old, i think she couldn't bear the weight of taking care of two children(me and my sister) alone.

Despite everything, i don't harbor any resentment. I forgot about them a long time ago and just moved on with my life.

 

[Rawtid]

Yeah I feel you, and I'm trying but not trying hard enough. Did the college thing in my late 20s and slowly stacking up. But as an adult I lost that passion, excitement and expectations I had as a child. When you're a kid you feel like the world's yours you know.

I still feel that way. I honestly don’t feel there is too much I can’t do and I’m damn near 50. The world is different now and you should take advantage.

 

[badboys11]

My pops apologized before he died. So yeah

 

[Gritsngravy]

I didn’t grow up in the era of “feelings”. I grew up in the era of what is. And the fact of the matter is most of the people bytching about their parents are well adjusted people who come from good homes. They suffer from a lack of attention. Not a lack of love or support. Kids have tunnel vision, they only see what’s in front of them. Adults on the other hand don’t have that option. They have responsibilities and sometimes those responsibilities trump your feelings. Those responsibilities are what kept you alive and if you’re a grown man or woman and can’t get over that, tough shyt. The complete irony of this whole thing is a lot of kids who grew up with ain’t shyt parents got over their shyt and learned to live harmoniously with them in adulthood. Weird huh?

That’s your perception, but you don’t really know about the next man or woman
You say good homes but it could’ve been a completely different story for the person actually growing up in that house, it don’t matter what “era” you grew up in

 

[10bandz]

Nope fortunately I have pretty good parents that set a good example

Praying for y’all nikkas that had a shytty parent or parents. I think a lot about that, what if I had bad parents where would I be. Stay strong nikkas

 

[Pegasus Jackson]

What does “what if your parents raised you in the heart of white supremacy?” Even mean?

the suburbs.

 

[Rawtid]

All this thread did for me was confirm how low the bar is tbh

Now that I'm older and have seen what some of my peers do for their kids compared to others? Knowing what's out there?

It’s fukking insane how many people bring kids into the world then think that putting food on the table and essentially winging it while dropping their children off at public schools is going above and beyond.

What else should a parent offer other than their best effort? Comparison is the thief of joy and you can’t be mad your parents didn’t offer you something in comparison to someone else’s.

 

[Weaver31]

Once you realize your parents are learning this life shyt as they go just like you it will help put things in perspective..I find myself at the age they were when they had me and I can see why they did some of the things they did even though as an adult myself I would move differently..

/ thread....real shyt in this post

Life isn't like learning textbook material in a class. Dealing with life and people involve a lot of gray area. Parenting techniques should be adjusted per child and how the child develops and responds to growing and developing, school, social skills development, and other life events and challenges.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

That’s your perception, but you don’t really know about the next man or woman
You say good homes but it could’ve been a completely different story for the person actually growing up in that house, it don’t matter what “era” you grew up in

You didn’t get enough hugs, got it.