Did your parents fail you?

[Michael's Black Son]

Eh.

By 25 just be glad you’re healthy, have no kids of your own and have options. Even being broke means you still have your autonomy and freedom.

Would it have been great to have a few bands passed down to me and a better social network entering adulthood? Sure.

But you’re an adult. You find a way to get it or just whine about how someone failed you 20-30 years ago.

Take a deep enough dive and you’ll be damn near depressed how many people in your family failed the next generation that THEY created.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

What if your child doesn’t want to be a “legend”? You can impart practical knowledge and life lessons to learn from into your children, but planning out their future is dangerous.

You’ll be one of those parents singing “where did I go wrong?” When your child takes a path of their choosing.

imagine someone that doesn't want to be a legend . it's giving damage/baggage and that was my point of it would be my job to prevent those feelings of mediocrity

 

[BaggerofTea]

If you are grown blaming your parents. You failed yourself.

 

[Rawtid]

imagine someone that doesn't want to be a legend . it's giving damage/baggage and that was my point of it would be my job to prevent those feelings of mediocrity

Lol So if you don’t want to be a legend you’re damaged? Interesting. I personally have no desire, I can, however provide a loving, stable and supportive environment for my child to thrive and become the adult she wants to be.

 

[maxamusa]

Username to post is spot on OP; you should be a family therapist

 

[Marco Zen]

There is no objective measurement of parenting. So clearly you need to define your criteria for this subjective conversation, you fukking idiot

You are correct. I haven't presented a clear measurement of what "fail" can be defined as concerning this particular topic. Which is what makes it difficult for you to answer the question.

I understand.

Have a good day sir.

 

[Paradoxx]

kind of hate this phrase these days. i could understand maybe decades ago, but i think with all the advance technology and education and life experience and widely available shows like Dr. Phil... everybody should know what it takes to be a decent parent if they really want to, regardless of a lot of circumstances and just merely "trying". it's not rocket science

Not if you don’t have access to said technology and grow up in an area where most people don’t even know what the hell even satellite is

But to answer op question, my parents did okay but it came with too much hardship . I love my father and mother but I do want to kick my dad in the nuts for having a shyt ton of kids with three different women, resources were stretched thin . Then round house kick my mother for just going with it and making me and my full blooded siblings raise them.

Whole damn experience made me never want to have children, and the way I see marriage is a little twisted.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Lol So if you don’t want to be a legend you’re damaged? Interesting. I personally have no desire, I can, however provide a loving, stable and supportive environment for my child to thrive and become the adult she wants to be.

1) notice i said "a legend or something".... something meaning if not a legend than doing something exceptional in life or something like that.
2) but yeah we don't all have to have the same ideas. if we was all making the same moves then we would all lose

 

[F*ckthemkids]

Everybody is different, I don’t think we should judge other peoples feelings you not in that persons shoes to say what they should and shouldn’t deal with

I didn’t grow up in the era of “feelings”. I grew up in the era of what is. And the fact of the matter is most of the people bytching about their parents are well adjusted people who come from good homes. They suffer from a lack of attention. Not a lack of love or support. Kids have tunnel vision, they only see what’s in front of them. Adults on the other hand don’t have that option. They have responsibilities and sometimes those responsibilities trump your feelings. Those responsibilities are what kept you alive and if you’re a grown man or woman and can’t get over that, tough shyt. The complete irony of this whole thing is a lot of kids who grew up with ain’t shyt parents got over their shyt and learned to live harmoniously with them in adulthood. Weird huh?

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Not if you don’t have access to said technology and grow up in an area where most people don’t even know what the hell even satellite is

my dad grew up in a nigerian village lol. in a polygamist family. even without a tv he realized from a young age that the family couldn't afford all those damn kids and what did he do.... couldnt afford all his damn kids lol. like i said, it's not rocket science all he had to do was wear a condom to not continue the cycle. something i happened to pick up very quickly on

 

[CW_1991]

They tried their best.

 

[Paradoxx]

my dad grew up in a nigerian village lol. in a polygamist family. even without a tv he realized from a young age that the family couldn't afford all those damn kids and what did he do.... couldnt afford all his damn kids lol. like i said, it's not rocket science all he had to do was wear a condom to not continue the cycle. something i happened to pick up very quickly on

I grew up in similar conditions and also knew that but my parent specifically my father didn’t care or knew in depth because more kids meant more working the farm land we had and working outside jobs to bring more money home.

You also have to throw in religion that muddles things up.

 

[Givethanks]

You still have potential, unless you received a fatal diagnosis and only have a few days to live.

Yeah I feel you, and I'm trying but not trying hard enough. Did the college thing in my late 20s and slowly stacking up. But as an adult I lost that passion, excitement and expectations I had as a child. When you're a kid you feel like the world's yours you know.

 

[Jx2]

Nope. Love my parents and am thankful they gave time and attention to my sisters and I. Even little things, like instilling the joys of reading or making sure vegetables were a regular part of our diet. shyt that I notice my contemporaries lacking well into our 30’s. Minds and diet are absolute shyt at this this stage of the game

 

[hostsamurai]

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