Did your parents fail you?

[UpAndComing]

"My parents did the best they could" = Failure

No need to sugar coat it

 

[Savvir]

grandparents left a better legacy than my parents...

all I can say on this topic

 

[Chrishaune]

Technology changed fast on them. I can't blame them for not seeing how that would effect the world and the way it works.

Do I wish I learned more growing up, yeah. But the information is out there if you look for it to improve.

 

[Kuma the Bear]

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[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I grew up in similar conditions and also knew that but my parent specifically my father didn’t care or knew in depth because more kids meant more working the farm land we had and working outside jobs to bring more money home.

You also have to throw in religion that muddles things up.

religion is a factor for some but not my pa, who believes in god but doesn't give a damn about church or religion. let's face it, a lot of parents are just out here bussin nuts and going from there

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

OVERALL, THEY DID WELL BY ME. THEY WERE NOT PERFECT. THEY DID GIVE ME THE TOOLS TO FILL IN MY OWN GAPS THOUGH.

ANY FAILURES IN MY LIFE HAVE BEEN MY OWN MISTAKES. I'M JUST GLAD THEY TAUGHT ME PATIENCE EARLY.

 

[OfTheCross]

And if they did, what it have made any difference in your life if they admitted that to you?



I talked with a few people in my outer circle about this.. And also asked the ones with grown kids do they think they failed their kids in any way and have they ever admitted it.. almost all the women say yes they have and almost all the men say "hell naw I won't tell my kids I failed them"


From everything from not teaching how to drive, cook, cut cake, balance an checking account... Admitted failures as parents.

Dad taught me to drive...my mom probably taught me to cook, I never starved, I'm well-adjusted...I'd say they did a good job.

 

[Roid Jones]

And if they did, what it have made any difference in your life if they admitted that to you?



I talked with a few people in my outer circle about this.. And also asked the ones with grown kids do they think they failed their kids in any way and have they ever admitted it.. almost all the women say yes they have and almost all the men say "hell naw I won't tell my kids I failed them"


From everything from not teaching how to drive, cook, cut cake, balance an checking account... Admitted failures as parents.

 

[Roid Jones]

If you are grown blaming your parents. You failed yourself.

Basically, unfortunately not every grown person is an adult

 

[010101]

they gave me everything they have

whatever was missing they simply were not given

all is forgiven..........

*

 

[Still Benefited]

A lot of people have a misguided outlook on what parental failure is. There was a thread on Yummy Sandifer yesterday I think. His parents failed him. If your parents didn't teach you how to drive, what stopped you from taking the initiative? If they didn't teach you how to cook, why didn't you take the initiative?

If your parents were verbally, physically, emotionally abusive to you, and you can't connect, or create positive relationships with people. Your parents failed you.
If your parents were alcoholics, drug addicts, not present or couldn't provide stability for you and you arguably raised yourself. Your parents failed you.
If your parents let you run the streets with the wrong crowd, throwing your life away unchecked...They failed you.

People out here thinking because your parents didn't hug you enough, tell you they loved you enough, or spent enough time with you, they failed you. I don't know about ya'll, but my folks were busy as hell trying to carve out a life for us, and didn't have time to make sure that every single one of my needs were met. But I never missed a meal. I always had a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and never felt unwanted. When you're growing up it can be confusing, but when you're an adult and you're busy adulting your perspective changes.

What if your parents raised you in the heart of white supremacy?


We were all failed by our parents,but they didnt know any better,which makes them innocent.


All of you have been made aware,so if you continue to raise yours within white supremacy and they are negatively effected. I dont wanna hear about how you didnt fail them.

 

[froggle]

They set me up for that 6 figure, 6 cert life and I am not even mad....my only issue or failure is they shoulda been harder on your boy with the work ethic. So many wins thrown away cause I coast

 

[42 Monks]

All this thread did for me was confirm how low the bar is tbh

Now that I'm older and have seen what some of my peers do for their kids compared to others? Knowing what's out there?

Its fukking insane how many people bring kids into the world then think that putting food on the table and essentially winging it while dropping their children off at public schools is going above and beyond.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

My mom is one of the best woman I know, a perfect model for someone born in the late 50’s

Pops was THE man growing up to me, so much so I never had a need for a “role model,” that shyt was literally a foreign concept to me.

Now…they had their ways but they’ve always been there for me, and still are. Good people

 

[Pegasus Jackson]

My father gave me zero game about women or the importance of credit but he was a great provider and always there despite us not being super close. Can't have it all.