Did your parents fail you?

[F*ckthemkids]

if your parents ...



they failed you too.

Why do children need independence?

Why do children need independence? As a teacher my question is ‘why would you not want your child to be independent?’ Parents are children’s first educators and as a parent myself, I know how exhausting it can be. Often with our busy lives it is quicker and simpler to do everything for your...

www.earlyyearsstaffroom.com

and

smothering ..

needs= necessities. Therefore needs and wants are two vastly different concepts.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

needs= necessities. Therefore needs and wants are two vastly different concepts.

the article literally characterized independence as a "need".... like in the very first sentence and the title. so if they met every single need, then they gave you independence as well according to the article. dude reached far af and did several gymnastics with that one lol

 

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They tried their best.

 

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needs= necessities. Therefore needs and wants are two vastly different concepts.

needs needn't be sourced by them is the point i suppose i.e. hardship is required sometimes. the harder way for the child EVEN when it is a need.

i suppose is the point.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

needs needn't be sourced by them is the point i suppose i.e. hardship is required sometimes. the harder way for the child EVEN when it is a need.

i suppose is the point.

Then who is responsible for the needs of a child? A parent is supposed to provide guidance, and structure for a child. Children aren't meant to do whatever they please in the name of Independence. Should they be allowed to express themselves? Of course, but sound parenting is defined by boundaries.

But then again...Maybe I'm not the best person to discuss children with. Cause fukk em

 

[tuckgod]

They tried their best.

You’re a good son

 

[F*ckthemkids]

the article literally characterized independence as a "need".... like in the very first sentence and the title. so if they met every single need, then they gave you independence as well according to the article. dude reached far af and did several gymnastics with that one lol

That entire article is some BS. It's like How to get your daughter on the pole 101

 

[SwagmundFreud]

My mother did what she could. In fact, most instances she went well above her means.

Pops on the other hand……not so much.

I’m in my early thirties and I can count on one hand the times he’s actually done anything for me.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

That entire article is some BS. It's like How to get your daughter on the pole 101

i thought it was pretty common knowledge.... like letting a baby eat with their hands to feed themselves and strengthen hand eye coordination. letting them try to tie the shoes. etc

 

[Wildhundreds]

Then who is responsible for the needs of a child? A parent is supposed to provide guidance, and structure for a child. Children aren't meant to do whatever they please in the name of Independence. Should they be allowed to express themselves? Of course, but sound parenting is defined by boundaries.

But then again...Maybe I'm not the best person to discuss children with. Cause fukk em

You're correct. Children that are raised without boundaries usually short circuit when they enter a world that is ran with boundaries.. Boundaries usually point to rules, I can't rock with people who have a problem with rules.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

You're correct. Children that are raised without boundaries usually short circuit when they enter a world that is ran with boundaries.. Boundaries usually point to rules, I can't rock with people who have a problem with rules.

Neither can I. Always arguing shyt. Wanting things to be their way. All because their first example of authority let them slide on everything.

 

[hostsamurai]

You're correct. Children that are raised without boundaries usually short circuit when they enter a world that is ran with boundaries.. Boundaries usually point to rules, I can't rock with people who have a problem with rules.

Interesting, I was raised without boundaries, basically seen as an extension but I am a zealot for order.

Children respond to trauma and neglect in different ways, it's not a one size fits all response.

 

[Wildhundreds]

Interesting, I was raised without boundaries, basically seen as an extension but I am a zealot for order.

Children respond to trauma and neglect in different ways, it's not a one size fits all response.

Its more of a macro than micro. If the rule is to not touch a hot stove because you may burn yourself, would you touch it anyway? And if yes, would you complain about the results?

 

[Brandsdale]

finished college (they helped)
finished university (they helped)
always had food
always had a home
mom taught me to attend therapy


think they did a great job

 

[RealCrownHeights]

I’m sorry, I don’t get the “they did the best they could” line. Yea maybe if they were the first humans on earth and had no idea what raising a child would take.

Like come on you know it’s expensive and your broke, look around