Did your parents fail you?

[F*ckthemkids]

Who said they parents failed them because they didn’t hug them

Did you even bother reading the OP?

Cutting cake? Balancing a checkbook. Giving hugs and playing catch are interchangeable with those. If you or anyone else had a fukked up childhood that's one thing, but most people in my experiences don't resent their parents for being pieces of shyt. They resent them for not loving them the way they wanted them to.

 

[Digital Omen]

My father failed me when he went out for cigs and never came back before I was even 1 year old
I am now 45 and have only seen him physically twice in my entire life
Never got a happy birthday, merry Christmas, not a damn thing from him
Zero relationship, he's a complete stranger

I made my peace with that, dude went out and made a whole new life.
After he dipped he married again and had 2 kids who he raised
I've only met my half brother and sister once.
Follow them on IG and every birthday and Father's Day it's "I love my dad he's the best dad ever!" posts
I don't comment, just keep scrolling
Someone's best dad ever is also someone's worst dad ever at the same time.

To keep it real my mom failed me by marrying and getting seeded up by him
I give her the benefit of the doubt because she did the best she could and how was she to know he would be an A-1 scumbag and pretend I don't exist?
Anyway my half brother is gay and I can't have kids so his bloodline dies here
Peace to all the deadbeats

 

[Givethanks]

This shyt is generational.


My grandma failed my mom, and my mom failed me. But my life's great, I'm thankful for having a roof over my head, and something to eat every night even if it's struggle food.

only thing that sucks is that I realized what my potential could of been as a grown man and not as a child because it wasn't nurtured.


wouldn't trade my mom or dad for anything.

 

[Child_Of_God]

My father abused me and he was a serial cheater so yes he did failed me.

 

[Givethanks]

I like hearing people's stories man

 

[Gritsngravy]

Did you even bother reading the OP?

Cutting cake? Balancing a checkbook. Giving hugs and playing catch are interchangeable with those. If you or anyone else had a fukked up childhood that's one thing, but most people in my experiences don't resent their parents for being pieces of shyt. They resent them for not loving them the way they wanted them to.

Everybody is different, I don’t think we should judge other peoples feelings you not in that persons shoes to say what they should and shouldn’t deal with

 

[boriquaking]

nah, my mom is an angel and i give my dad shyt but my friends (usually the ones with no father) and other people i know give him props. at the end of the day though i like to say ... i did it my way haha


i kind of hate this phrase these days. i could understand maybe decades ago, but i think with all the advance technology and education and life experience and widely available shows like Dr. Phil... everybody should know what it takes to be a decent parent if they really want to, regardless of a lot of circumstances and just merely "trying". it's not rocket science

First off, my father was born in 51, my mother in 54. There was no doctor phil.

My dad had a stroke when I was 17 right after new years day and died on my 27th birthday. Unless you go through something like that you really wouldn’t understand.

:edit:

And even after he got sick, he really busted his ass for me as much as he could. I miss him every day.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

First off, my father was born in 51, my mother in 54. There was no doctor phil.

My dad had a stroke when I was 17 right after new years day and died on my 27th birthday. Unless you go through something like that you really wouldn’t understand.

"i can understand maybe decades ago".... this was the first out i gave. you seemed to overlook that part.

i wasn't specifically talking about you because you didn't even really say yes or no that your parents failed. but i was talking about the phrase "tried their best" in general which i still see being used today. even people that don't have kids yet seem to have already accepted mediocrity talkin about "i just hope i can have happy and healthy kids". couldn't be me. a kid of mine gonna be a legend or something

also my condolences on your father's passing.

 

[Ol’Otis]

Yes

 

[desjardins]

I guess it's degrees to the failure
My parents never sat me down and explained how APRs work or how to dispute credit inquiries so when i maxed out 3 credit cards in college and ruined my credit for 7 years was that them failing me or just me being a dikkhead
iono, some stuff is just life lessons. i almost think it's better if parents teach their kids how to think and make decisions vs coddle them and hold their hand on every lil life scenario

 

[letti cook]

yep but im too old to care anymore

 

[boriquaking]

"i can understand maybe decades ago".... this was the first out i gave. you seemed to overlook that part.

i wasn't specifically talking about you because you didn't even really say yes or no that your parents failed. but i was talking about the phrase "tried their best" in general which i still see being used today. even people that don't have kids yet seem to have already accepted mediocrity talkin about "i just hope i can have happy and healthy kids". couldn't be me. a kid of mine gonna be a legend or something

also my condolences on your father's passing.

I mean, some parents are fukked up adults you and I both know.


I say that to say, everyones “best” is different. And not everyone is cut out to be a parent tbh.

 

[Jekyll]

So people come from fukked up homes, them Tyler perry movies was loosely based on something, precious wasn’t complete bullshyt

It’s some fukked people out here I wouldn’t boil this conversation down to people wanting to live more affluently

Hence why I said define failed.

 

[Rawtid]

This shyt is generational.


My grandma failed my mom, and my mom failed me. But my life's great, I'm thankful for having a roof over my head, and something to eat every night even if it's struggle food.

only thing that sucks is that I realized what my potential could of been as a grown man and not as a child because it wasn't nurtured.


wouldn't trade my mom or dad for anything.

You still have potential, unless you received a fatal diagnosis and only have a few days to live.

 

[Rawtid]

"i can understand maybe decades ago".... this was the first out i gave. you seemed to overlook that part.

i wasn't specifically talking about you because you didn't even really say yes or no that your parents failed. but i was talking about the phrase "tried their best" in general which i still see being used today. even people that don't have kids yet seem to have already accepted mediocrity talkin about "i just hope i can have happy and healthy kids". couldn't be me. a kid of mine gonna be a legend or something

also my condolences on your father's passing.

What if your child doesn’t want to be a “legend”? You can impart practical knowledge and life lessons to learn from into your children, but planning out their future is dangerous.

You’ll be one of those parents singing “where did I go wrong?” When your child takes a path of their choosing.