Did your parents fail you?

[F*ckthemkids]

A lot of people have a misguided outlook on what parental failure is. There was a thread on Yummy Sandifer yesterday I think. His parents failed him. If your parents didn't teach you how to drive, what stopped you from taking the initiative? If they didn't teach you how to cook, why didn't you take the initiative?

If your parents were verbally, physically, emotionally abusive to you, and you can't connect, or create positive relationships with people. Your parents failed you.
If your parents were alcoholics, drug addicts, not present or couldn't provide stability for you and you arguably raised yourself. Your parents failed you.
If your parents let you run the streets with the wrong crowd, throwing your life away unchecked...They failed you.

People out here thinking because your parents didn't hug you enough, tell you they loved you enough, or spent enough time with you, they failed you. I don't know about ya'll, but my folks were busy as hell trying to carve out a life for us, and didn't have time to make sure that every single one of my needs were met. But I never missed a meal. I always had a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and never felt unwanted. When you're growing up it can be confusing, but when you're an adult and you're busy adulting your perspective changes.

 

[Jekyll]

Google "failed definition"

There is no objective measurement of parenting. So clearly you need to define your criteria for this subjective conversation, you fukking idiot

 

[boriquaking]

The wounded womb hurts the seeds its births due to the repetition of ignorance and suffering which is most peoples inheritance.

Sad but that is how it is and that is why the world is like this yet no one questions why children are born glowing and steadily their radiance dims until they become just like their parents...

Only to do it all again. Verbatim in most cases.

This is was very well articulated

 

[Womb Raider]

They tried their best.

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

What it have made a difference if they told you they acknowledge they failed you

Yes, because my father wasn't afraid to tell me what he failed at when it came to raising me so it made our bond stronger.

It would have made a bigger difference if my mom acknowledged her past failings because it would have stopped me from tossing her into the bushes and not speaking to her for over 10 years.

I have a rule....
If you fukked me over and want to continue to be a part of my life, you better own up to it. If not, we have no business fukking with each other.

 

[-G$-]

No.

This.

And hiiiiii.

 

[jeh]

No.

I'm so proud of you

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

nah, my mom is an angel and i give my dad shyt but my friends (usually the ones with no father) and other people i know give him props. at the end of the day though i like to say ... i did it my way haha

They tried their best.

i kind of hate this phrase these days. i could understand maybe decades ago, but i think with all the advance technology and education and life experience and widely available shows like Dr. Phil... everybody should know what it takes to be a decent parent if they really want to, regardless of a lot of circumstances and just merely "trying". it's not rocket science

 

[Gritsngravy]

The wounded womb hurts the seeds its births due to the repetition of ignorance and suffering which is most peoples inheritance.

Sad but that is how it is and that is why the world is like this yet no one questions why children are born glowing and steadily their radiance dims until they become just like their parents...

Only to do it all again. Verbatim in most cases.

Real talk

 

[Gritsngravy]

Define “failed”.

Did you have all the necessities growing up? Did they pass down everything that they knew, or are you mad that they didn’t teach you something they never knew?

Alot of these conversations boil down to people basically wishing they came from a more affluent lineage for mostly superficial reasons.

So people come from fukked up homes, them Tyler perry movies was loosely based on something, precious wasn’t complete bullshyt

It’s some fukked people out here I wouldn’t boil this conversation down to people wanting to live more affluently

 

[Gritsngravy]

A lot of people have a misguided outlook on what parental failure is. There was a thread on Yummy Sandifer yesterday I think. His parents failed him. If your parents didn't teach you how to drive, what stopped you from taking the initiative? If they didn't teach you how to cook, why didn't you take the initiative?

If your parents were verbally, physically, emotionally abusive to you, and you can't connect, or create positive relationships with people. Your parents failed you.
If your parents were alcoholics, drug addicts, not present or couldn't provide stability for you and you arguably raised yourself. Your parents failed you.
If your parents let you run the streets with the wrong crowd, throwing your life away unchecked...They failed you.

People out here thinking because your parents didn't hug you enough, tell you they loved you enough, or spent enough time with you, they failed you. I don't know about ya'll, but my folks were busy as hell trying to carve out a life for us, and didn't have time to make sure that every single one of my needs were met. But I never missed a meal. I always had a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and never felt unwanted. When you're growing up it can be confusing, but when you're an adult and you're busy adulting your perspective changes.

Who said they parents failed them because they didn’t hug them

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

They birthed me so no way did they ever fail me

 

[getmoney310cpt]

Once you realize your parents are learning this life shyt as they go just like you it will help put things in perspective..I find myself at the age they were when they had me and I can see why they did some of the things they did even though as an adult myself I would move differently..

 

[Wildhundreds]

A lot of people have a misguided outlook on what parental failure is. There was a thread on Yummy Sandifer yesterday I think. His parents failed him. If your parents didn't teach you how to drive, what stopped you from taking the initiative? If they didn't teach you how to cook, why didn't you take the initiative?

If your parents were verbally, physically, emotionally abusive to you, and you can't connect, or create positive relationships with people. Your parents failed you.
If your parents were alcoholics, drug addicts, not present or couldn't provide stability for you and you arguably raised yourself. Your parents failed you.
If your parents let you run the streets with the wrong crowd, throwing your life away unchecked...They failed you.

People out here thinking because your parents didn't hug you enough, tell you they loved you enough, or spent enough time with you, they failed you. I don't know about ya'll, but my folks were busy as hell trying to carve out a life for us, and didn't have time to make sure that every single one of my needs were met. But I never missed a meal. I always had a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and never felt unwanted. When you're growing up it can be confusing, but when you're an adult and you're busy adulting your perspective changes.

Gets no better than this IMO.

 

[Wildhundreds]

Who said they parents failed them because they didn’t hug them

You'd be surprised at what younger people hold against their parents.