dealing with modern women is unbearable

[The ADD]

What?
I think OP has some important lessons to learn from my story.

He asked for advice approaching/finding women. I suggest the random approach technique and remind him that shyt happens for a reason and is meant to be. He doesn't like my advice and refuses to ever randomly approach women again.

then magically, as if on cue, my story of random approach + things happening for a reason + cuz it's meant to be plays out in front of me.

This was literally the same night I was tryin to explain to OP about random approach/meant to be/for a reason. shyt's happenin in real time.

And then I reported back with solid evidence that random approach not only works but can have extremely satisfied results for both

And on top of that, you have a clear example of natural attraction, things happening for a reason & shyt being meant to be. My dude even said it to me, I couldn't believe it
Just makes the story so perfect







The random approach is versatile and can be for whatever you want it to be. If you want to use it for sex, use it for sex. If you want to use it for finding a quality woman, then use it for that.

You gotta start somewhere and you'll never know unless you try

Trust me, get out there!

I had $.02 to through in on how you weren't responding but then i saw the edit.

 

[Malta]

If u feel it's impossible to find quality here then we are just going to have to agree to disagree. I know a lot of quality people who have linked up within this IG era. Thing is most of them don't even have IG. They don't have time.

You feel the ONLY way dudes can take control is by traveling. I think that's BS because I see a lot of quality people every day. A lot of these dudes equate "quality" to a woman being a dude's guardian, prostitute, maid and personal cheerleader for nothing in return. They don't work on self-improvement, they don't take their careers seriously, they don't do anything to try and make themselves at all more appealing than they are in their base state. They just come here and whine. How is that taking control?

I know a lot of brehs who deal with nothing but quality even in this era. You are one of them So I don't get why you are with this woe is me bandwagon. Nobody has ever achieved anything by sitting around feeling sorry for themselves and waiting for the world around them to make things better. At least outside of extreme situations, which this definitely isn't. So nah I don't think telling dudes to do what they can to make the best of the situations they're in as bad advice.

Who said anything about impossible, why you going from one extreme to another? Finding someone you actually want to be around is difficult, you acting like it's JUST men saying that when women are saying the same.

I don't feel traveling is the only way a person can take control, but calling people losers for doing exactly what you're saying is some shyt. You want them to do things the way you've done them, which is just ridiculous. No two paths are the same, yet you want people to take the same worn out one you took, and if they don't then there's something wrong with them and not the path they're on. How do you know what these dudes are doing how can you make all these blanket statements, from the "IG Thot" shyt to now saying none of these dudes are working on self improvement.



My woman wasn't born in the US, had I not met her I'd probably be single, fukking women and tossing them to the side when I'm done with them because I am difficult to get a long with and can be very aloof. Just cause I found someone doesn't mean I can't understand the struggle people are having with modern dating. You seem to have some trouble with relating to other people and what they go through, just spilling out the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" rhetoric under another guise

 

[Entropy Fan]

How many attractive girls have you actually been in relationships with?

Handful in relationship, more that I've talked to and couldn't get over their lack of personality and overly entitled attitudes. And I've observed even more then that. It's extremely rare that an attractive girl is chill and likeable unless she has gotten her act together from failed relationships

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

Obviously you opinion is not based in the reality of average people. We are saying women aren't taking half b/c they bring equal things to the relationship. Therefore the 50/50 split means both people leave with what they brought in.

My uncle got a divorce and they only had to sell the house. He complains about everything. He loves to complain. But I never once heard him complain about the divorce. Like I said they sold the house, split the money and he bought himself and even bigger one. Both and he and his ex had good jobs. Each came out unscathed and still talk until this day. That Was Over 10 Years ago.

Most people I know had similar experiences. Do you ACTUALLY know a guy who was taken to the bank like that or are you just repeating what you heard ?

Are you saying in divorce, the out come is usually split 50/50?

Are you saying women dont get the benefit in a court of law?

You think most divorces end like your uncles?

Most divorces are ugly. I know people in a divorce right now and its the women with more and i tell her, now you see how men feel.

You females need to stop tryna explain away benefits you get just cause your a female.

If You had to pick who usually come out better in a divorce. You know damn well you'd say, generally women do. But instead you wanna act like everything is equal.

But im the one living in reality, ok.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Who said anything about impossible, why you going from one extreme to another? Finding someone you actually want to be around is difficult, you acting like it's JUST men saying that when women are saying the same.

I don't feel traveling is the only way a person can take control, but calling people losers for doing exactly what you're saying is some shyt. You want them to do things the way you've done them, which is just ridiculous. No two paths are the same, yet you want people to take the same worn out one you took, and if they don't then there's something wrong with them and not the path they're on. How do you know what these dudes are doing how can you make all these blanket statements, from the "IG Thot" shyt to now saying none of these dudes are working on self improvement.



My woman wasn't born in the US, had I not met her I'd probably be single, fukking women and tossing them to the side when I'm done with them because I am difficult to get a long with and can be very aloof. Just cause I found someone doesn't mean I can't understand the struggle people are having with modern dating. You seem to have some trouble with relating to other people and what they go through, just spilling out the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" rhetoric under another guise

OK, not impossible, but "difficult". I can name a lot of things in life worth doing that are difficult. Launching a good career. Being a good parent. Making change in your community. Should we not bother to try and do any of those things? And how is finding a good woman here any less difficult than leaving everything you know, along with whatever you have going on here, to find a mate abroad?

And you do think traveling is the only way one can take control and find a decent mate. You have written off the idea of doing so here, as you never offer any avenues or ideas to do so. You claim if you were single you would just fukk and toss women here, seemingly without even considering if they'd be worth building something with, for no other reason than them being American. You call me out for being out of touch, when you yourself have been in a serious relationship for a few years and use the same points of reference I do to speak on what's going on. So who is really the one who wants things done the way they done them? I have close friends who have left the US to go teach English and live abroad and they are very happy. It is something I would definitely recommend for people looking for a legit new experience and an opportunity to step out of their comfort zone. But most of the brehs on here whining about tourism talking about "imma find me a foreign " are just interested in sex tourism

You seem to have beef with the US.... which in many ways is legit. But you take that beef and project it onto the dating situation. You are completely unwilling to even entertain the possibility of finding a decent mate here, and you insist everyone else subscribe to your line of thinking. Look, I have no problem with brehs looking abroad and traveling, but I think they should exhaust all options here first in regards to dating. Traveling is highly valuable and everyone should do it as much as possible. I love to travel. But a lot of the dudes on here crying about women are not even trying. If @DrX put as much effort into bettering himself as he does in making threads here he'd probably be eating here

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Are you saying in divorce, the out come is usually split 50/50?

Are you saying women dont get the benefit in a court of law?

You think most divorces end like your uncles?

Most divorces are ugly. I know people in a divorce right now and its the women with more and i tell her, now you see how men feel.

You females need to stop tryna explain away benefits you get just cause your a female.

If You had to pick who usually come out better in a divorce. You know damn well you'd say, generally women do. But instead you wanna act like everything is equal.

But im the one living in reality, ok.

My reality is not your reality. I can't cosign b/c you say so. Believe what you want. My only point is that every divorce doesn't result in some helpless man's life being ruined.

And yes I think most divorces do end without one person or the the other losing everything.

 

[philmonroe]

Who said anything about impossible, why you going from one extreme to another? Finding someone you actually want to be around is difficult, you acting like it's JUST men saying that when women are saying the same.

I don't feel traveling is the only way a person can take control, but calling people losers for doing exactly what you're saying is some shyt. You want them to do things the way you've done them, which is just ridiculous. No two paths are the same, yet you want people to take the same worn out one you took, and if they don't then there's something wrong with them and not the path they're on. How do you know what these dudes are doing how can you make all these blanket statements, from the "IG Thot" shyt to now saying none of these dudes are working on self improvement.



My woman wasn't born in the US, had I not met her I'd probably be single, fukking women and tossing them to the side when I'm done with them because I am difficult to get a long with and can be very aloof. Just cause I found someone doesn't mean I can't understand the struggle people are having with modern dating. You seem to have some trouble with relating to other people and what they go through, just spilling out the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" rhetoric under another guise

Bootstraps is just another way for people to not take accountability for their actions honestly. Why can't you do something? Well see this that and the other then when a person explains why people are normally full of shyt its bootstraps talk being brought up. Truth is to improve in most things you have to initially do so through the use of bootstrap measures so I don't know why cats act like that's not how a lot of things start. They don't mainly start out as some grandiose project. People love having excuses for why they ain't at fault. To me that's a wack way to life where you have and or think you have no control over what you become.

 

[KingMalik]

Who said anything about impossible, why you going from one extreme to another? Finding someone you actually want to be around is difficult, you acting like it's JUST men saying that when women are saying the same.

I don't feel traveling is the only way a person can take control, but calling people losers for doing exactly what you're saying is some shyt. You want them to do things the way you've done them, which is just ridiculous. No two paths are the same, yet you want people to take the same worn out one you took, and if they don't then there's something wrong with them and not the path they're on. How do you know what these dudes are doing how can you make all these blanket statements, from the "IG Thot" shyt to now saying none of these dudes are working on self improvement.



My woman wasn't born in the US, had I not met her I'd probably be single, fukking women and tossing them to the side when I'm done with them because I am difficult to get a long with and can be very aloof. Just cause I found someone doesn't mean I can't understand the struggle people are having with modern dating. You seem to have some trouble with relating to other people and what they go through, just spilling out the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" rhetoric under another guise

Dude married a white woman, living a happy go lucky life in North Carolina. Even got one of those cute little dogs that black men with white wives have The nerve of this nikka ......he married the first PAWG he could find but, wanna laugh at other nikkas' struggle with black women

 

[BedRoomI'z]

there are some amazing women out chea

esp black women


black women are the highest rising group when it comes to education




i wish i cared about marriage like that
i wish i had a heart and shyt

i coulda been married right out of high school
i was with a chick and she wanted to get married while we were in college
and i was like

i havent even lived life yet



-i was proposed to by this chick back in 2010
-i broke up with a chick when i lived in boston and she got on the suicide shyt

all of those women are successful right now




--- my parents have been married almost 50 years
but somehow marriage just never appealed to me






i love seeing other black marriages work tho

Me too.
I have the exact same background, but as I got older I was like
to hell with marriage. I'm glad it worked for my folks but I have developed
as an adult and I want something more outta life than just that.

Travelling is cool, but I ain't about that rolling stone life.
Just a stable companion, money in the bank and I'm gucci.

We just gotta learn how to appreciate life for what it is. No matter
how many twists and turns we may encounter in it. Any day on this
side is a good damn day!

 

[Kenny West]

Im speaking on behalf of real men
Only some bytchmade simp would negotiate with a terrorist ass bytch

If you a real man and single you already should be cooking cleaning and working out

So what the fukk can you offer me besides p*ssy and money?

Bottomline

If you think a man being a man has no benefit to you

Thats cool dont get a real man
Go get a simp to bend to your will
A real man doesn't have to give you shyt if he doesn't want to

Yall bytches acting like god didnt invent yall to help a man but real men can handle

Cooking and cleaning without you
If you want to be around a real man you should be smart enough to help him out

What the fukk did Adam do to deserve eve
Nothing
He was a fukking man thats all

And he gave up a rib to have that hardheaded bytch who disobeyed him and god anyway

Know your fukking role

It's up to the men. Y'all talking about women not wanting leaders is because you don't know how to lead them. And it aint about leading them, it's about leading your life in a way thats attractive to a woman. I'm not saying women because you try and live for them or do things to impress them, you'll end up like OP wondering why the game aint working.

Quit looking for women to be the ones to tell you how to live or whats right or wrong. They dont know what they want and if they do, very few actually know how to go out, get it and sustain it.

My life turned around with women once I realized my happiness and life meant nothing to them so to be out, doing what you want to do, having the fun you want to have, making the money you feel comfortable with are all the things that women notice and it draws them in. They are visual, emotional beings who live in the moment. They are attracted initially to looks or that "flash", but to sustain it, you gotta bring something to the table that these women aren't getting from someone else. Whether that be conversation, humor, security, sex, leadership, intelligence etc. And if you give it to them in a package, they ain't playing a role, but they'll try and improve their standing and be more of a partner to you then playing a role.

Men have the fairy tale fantasy as much as women when it comes to a partner. Why would a woman want to be with a man who complains about shyt all the time when you are supposed to be a "leader"? Put your head down, take care of yourself and if no women want that, be happy you're avoiding all these idiots who think they deserve something without earning it. You put your life, success and happiness first, you wont need a woman to validate it for you so you can pick and choose which women are actually going to add to your life instead of merely just being apart of it.

Went through the same epiphany. All that you gotta be this, you gotta have this, you gotta do that to make women happy....it's all bullshyt,

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

Damn @Malta really be having dudes like

HOF level posting.

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

My reality is not your reality. I can't cosign b/c you say so. Believe what you want. My only point is that every divorce doesn't result in some helpless man's life being ruined.

And yes I think most divorces do end without one person or the the other losing everything.

So first you tell me you dont have knowledge of any divorces. Then out of nowhere, you got first hand knowledge of your uncles divorce.


Then you tell me im not living in reality of an average person. Then i tell you the (real)reality of most divorces. Then you say your reality is not mine.


No one said every divorce. Is was speaking on generally on divorce. It doesnt have to be bad for the woman to come out better. His life doesn't have to be ruined but he can still get an unfair judgement.

Then you come full circle from not knowing of any divorces, to knowing of one. Then dismissing my knowledge of some and example giving to only believe your opinion of how most marriages end.

Classic case of im going to believe what i want to believe regardless of what anyone says and lack of proof.

Edit: dodged every question i asked and still got females caping and dapping her post.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

Im a muthfukkin man thats all im offering you

If you dont want a man kick rocks

Its that simple

I pity you lazy worthless women

Dont have kids because you know what thats extra work you will be doing

Just stay at your house us men stay at our house

And when we feel like fukking we will call you

Problem solved

bytches always asking what are you offering just so a bytch can

Cook
Clean
fukk and suck
Dont get fat

bytch that is not a big deal because us real men cook
Clean
Workout
Without you right now bytch

Only thing we need you worthless bytches for is your p*ssy

Which by the way bytch was given to you for free

What the fukk did you do to earn a p*ssy

Nothing so shut the fukk up with that

What do you have to offer shyt

Whatever a man requires of you to be in his presence bytch you do it

Or get the fukk from round


Thats real simple bytch

Damn

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So first you tell me you dont have knowledge of any divorces. Then out of nowhere, you got first hand knowledge of your uncles divorce.


Then you tell me im not living in reality of an average person. Then i tell you the (real)reality of most divorces. Then you say your reality is not mine.


No one said every divorce. Is was speaking on generally on divorce. It doesnt have to be bad for the woman to come out better. His life doesn't have to be ruined but he can still get an unfair judgement.

Then you come full circle from not knowing of any divorces, to knowing of one. Then dismissing my knowledge of some and example giving to only believe your opinion of how most marriages end.

Classic case of im going to believe what i want to believe regardless of what anyone says and lack of proof.

Edit: dodged every question i asked and still got females caping and dapping her post.

I know people who have had divorces doesn't mean I know anything about them. How is seeing someone NOT complaining knowledge?

My point is how bad can it be if your complaining harder than they are?

Again your reality seems to be based in the negative but what I have ACTUALLY observed does not line up with your views.

But you're right. What you THINK won't change what I have seen.

 

[Mugenight]

Hold this neg for being a fakkit

Alright then