dealing with modern women is unbearable

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Thanks for your answer, because this is also a question i've asked myself.

But i disagree with the bolded, even though it was a preface for the rest of your post. The traits arent unique but are more hardwired according to sex, even if you are with the same sex one is certainly more alpha than the other. Theres always a lead and decision maker, thats why you'd want those same qualities even if you had a female partner.

Starting to think the answer starts with what i cant do first...

can you expand please?
I agree that one partner is always the alpha. Since that exists in same sex couples that's why I feel that it's not a male or female thing.

Do you really think those traits are hardwired into us and relate to sex or is it socialized into us?

Ftr I do feel for me that it's hardwired and completely natural. But then I see these women who are just not maternal or nuturing or any of th ed traits we associate with being women

:mindblown:

Really thought provoking. Thanks breh.
 

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Okay, sleep on it and please come back.

To me this kind of makes the 'what do you bring to the table' argument void because at the core its for lack of a better example, were arguing about having a good or bad roommate.

I know that domestics are also important, but your also attracted to that man because he compliments your life somehow...

:dead: I know this sounds really unromantic but no man I've ever been with has ever brought anything unique to me, they brought qualities I like but they all had the same qualities. Maybe the way I view things is different than you because you're asking one of those "fairy tale" questions, where you want me to make it seem like my fiance is this one of a kind guy that never existed before him.

You probably believe in soul mates too, huh? I don't.

Do you want to know what I love about my fiance? He's really nice, we get along, we both have qualities that other person doesn't have, like he's calm and I'm not and he's super romantic and I'm not (he would probably tell you something "unique" about me even though it's not unique). He's very wise, he's very straight forward, he can come off a bit harsh but he says it's because English isn't his first language. He's an introvert, I'm an extrovert, I like that because I like people to listen to me talk about nothing without interrupting. We share the same morals, we're both homebodies, we both have broad sense of humors, we live similar lives, I like spending money, he likes spending money on me. There's a lot that I like about him and a lot of the qualities he has compliments my life, even the things I don't like about him compliments my life. Like if he doesn't like something, he'll say it. Like if I'm wearing some thing that's ugly he'll say it's ugly even if I don't ask but he'll say I look good but my outfit is ugly. :dead: I also like that he knows when I'm joking and when I'm serious, like I can tell him to drop dead and he'll laugh because he knows I'm not serious.

See, I pretty much like everything about him (expect how brutally honest he is and how hard it is to scare him) but he's like clone of all the guys I've been in a relationship with, the only things that gives him an edge is his height, his income, and his accent. My dad even says that I've dated the Mexican, Black, and Arabic version of the same guy. That's why I say he doesn't bring anything unique but I think he's unique compared to most men in the world. Does that make sense or no?


edit: damn I typed a lot, I'm sorry :mjcry:
 

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:dead: I know this sounds really unromantic but no man I've ever been with has ever brought anything unique to me, they brought qualities I like but they all had the same qualities. Maybe the way I view things is different than you because you're asking one of those "fairy tale" questions, where you want me to make it seem like my fiance is this one of a kind guy that never existed before him.

You probably believe in soul mates too, huh? I don't.

Do you want to know what I love about my fiance? He's really nice, we get along, we both have qualities that other person doesn't have, like he's calm and I'm not and he's super romantic and I'm not (he would probably tell you something "unique" about me even though it's not unique). He's very wise, he's very straight forward, he can come off a bit harsh but he says it's because English isn't his first language. He's an introvert, I'm an extrovert, I like that because I like people to listen to me talk about nothing without interrupting. We share the same morals, we're both homebodies, we both have broad sense of humors, we live similar lives, I like spending money, he likes spending money on me. There's a lot that I like about him and a lot of the qualities he has compliments my life, even the things I don't like about him compliments my life. Like if he doesn't like something, he'll say it. Like if I'm wearing some thing that's ugly he'll say it's ugly even if I don't ask but he'll say I look good but my outfit is ugly. :dead: I also like that he knows when I'm joking and when I'm serious, like I can tell him to drop dead and he'll laugh because he knows I'm not serious.

See, I pretty much like everything about him (expect how brutally honest he is and how hard it is to scare him) but he's like clone of all the guys I've been in a relationship with, the only things that gives him an edge is his height, his income, and his accent. My dad even says that I've dated the Mexican, Black, and Arabic version of the same guy. That's why I say he doesn't bring anything unique but I think he's unique compared to most men in the world. Does that make sense or no?


edit: damn I typed a lot, I'm sorry :mjcry:
So what makes this guy "better" then those guys?
 

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I am not going through this entire thread but I am sure it is filled with "men" that are :cape:'ing to a military standard for these worthless modern hoes. :smh:
 

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Hmmm thats the best word I could think of at the moment.
Why are you with your man now and not with one of the other guys?

because I'm not.

I'm not like you guys where someone needs to be better for me to prefer them over someone else. I just want him and not them. I don't know why, no the other guys aren't bad, no I don't hate them.

now lets just leave this alone before you guys blow it out of proportion.
 

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because I'm not.

I'm not like you guys where someone needs to be better for me to prefer them over someone else. I just want him and not them. I don't know why, no the other guys aren't bad, no I don't hate them.now lets just leave this alone before you guys blow it out of proportion.
Yeah I was just interested as to the "why" per say.
But I guess I was just trying to start shyt so whatever.
 

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:dead: I know this sounds really unromantic but no man I've ever been with has ever brought anything unique to me, they brought qualities I like but they all had the same qualities. Maybe the way I view things is different than you because you're asking one of those "fairy tale" questions, where you want me to make it seem like my fiance is this one of a kind guy that never existed before him.

You probably believe in soul mates too, huh? I don't.

Do you want to know what I love about my fiance? He's really nice, we get along, we both have qualities that other person doesn't have, like he's calm and I'm not and he's super romantic and I'm not (he would probably tell you something "unique" about me even though it's not unique). He's very wise, he's very straight forward, he can come off a bit harsh but he says it's because English isn't his first language. He's an introvert, I'm an extrovert, I like that because I like people to listen to me talk about nothing without interrupting. We share the same morals, we're both homebodies, we both have broad sense of humors, we live similar lives, I like spending money, he likes spending money on me. There's a lot that I like about him and a lot of the qualities he has compliments my life, even the things I don't like about him compliments my life. Like if he doesn't like something, he'll say it. Like if I'm wearing some thing that's ugly he'll say it's ugly even if I don't ask but he'll say I look good but my outfit is ugly. :dead: I also like that he knows when I'm joking and when I'm serious, like I can tell him to drop dead and he'll laugh because he knows I'm not serious.

See, I pretty much like everything about him (expect how brutally honest he is and how hard it is to scare him) but he's like clone of all the guys I've been in a relationship with, the only things that gives him an edge is his height, his income, and his accent. My dad even says that I've dated the Mexican, Black, and Arabic version of the same guy. That's why I say he doesn't bring anything unique but I think he's unique compared to most men in the world. Does that make sense or no?


edit: damn I typed a lot, I'm sorry :mjcry:

I don't know if you on some :mjpls: but this at least your reasoning sounds logical why you like the guy. It doesn't sound like some of the baser reasoning women use to describe why they chose the men they are with.
 
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