dealing with modern women is unbearable

[philmonroe]

I meant in general, that's the appeal of instagram. Most people are on instagram for validation/attention via popularity.

Oh ok I agree with that but I still don't think its as bad as cats make it. Sometimes some of us guys sounds like haters ole she getting attention ass nikkas. Most people like attention so what? I think that's my problem with it how people react to it esp guys because on avg we not getting attention that easily so it seems it comes from a place of jealousy.

 

[Bless't]

Only IG thots are seeking validation? So all those chicks who are posting their fitness pics aren't seeking validation? all the regular ass women that flood IG with pics of themselves day after day aren't seeking validation? Come the fukk on.

Here's the problem, you're nowhere to be found when women are saying there are no quality men, but let the thread be about there being no quality women and you're there shytting on dudes.


How does sitting on on a message board constantly talking about other dudes help their situation? You're always in these threads talking trying to high side these dudes, you're in the travel threads trying to talk from a high horse, meanwhile anyone from SOHH who remembers you can recall you getting caught up in that ugly broads PMs asking her all kinds of sexual shyt while you were married and talking about your dikk. Were you filtering when you were passive aggressively simping?

 

[Action Mike]

He's willing to work with me, I told him I have no problem doing most of the cleaning and cooking if he's willing to help me and he said we'll just split it. He cooks some nights, I'll cook the others, we clean up together, we split bills, we buy each other things, we take care of each other so no one feels unappreciated. If he's too tired, I'll do it, If I'm too tired, he'll do it, if we're both too tired order pizza and clean up another day.

It's really one sided with most of the weight on the female with the guys on here, they don't realize that that's why women don't want to do anything. If they were just a bit more understanding, they would get a better reaction.

Fair enough. Sounds pretty standard to me.

But what i was getting at was what as a MAN does he uniquely bring into your life, and what as WOMAN you bring into his.

I'm not looking for a specific answer just picking your head. Other brehettes can chime in.

 

[Malta]

What the fukk are you so mad about breh???

Telling dudes to take responsibility and control of the results in their life is solid advice, period. Lot of these brehs have been crying about the same shyt for years. Nothing has changed. So how is what they are doing helping?

I don't give a damn about the 6 or 8 women here.... brehs will run them all off soon enough anyway. I just hate seeing dudes assuming the roles of victims and spiraling deeper and deeper into lameness. Is that so wrong?

Ain't no anger, I'm not about to shyt on nikkas for having difficulty with women, I don't shyt on women for having difficulty with men cause I readily admit most nikkas are shyt


And when they take control of their lives and say they're going to travel, you're in that thread saying they're losers

How are dudes playing victim by saying women today are shyt? I sure as fukk wouldn't want to be single today if I wanted a long lasting relationship, ass is easy to come by but quality people are not. No amount of filter is going to change a finite and dwindling resource and high quality people are in fact rare.

 

[philmonroe]

Dealing with modern day dating if you have some type of moral or Conservative attitude is borderline unbearable. As a man trying to be a gentlemen in a era of women wanting to be demonstration how independent they are and how sexually open they are its ruff, as a woman trying to find a guy that's not gonna try and have sex with every chick in sight when your back is turned, that wont abuse or treat you like BS in the name of love.... it can be hard.


If you dont have any of those reserves though, then I dont know what the big deal is. Women aint being women these day's and men aint really being men. I'll die single before I settle, and that's the truth.

WTF is a gentlemen though lol? I'm not even being funny because being a "gentlemen" is one what should be normal so you get no props for that and two most that claim such are Russell Wilson fugazy with it so it looks bad. They no different than the other guys but front like they are to get the p*ssy. Not always but its enough of,them that unfortunately fukks it up. I agree with the rest outside of the last line because that sounds like some shyt chicks say when they with their girlfriends drinking wine lol.

 

[Action Mike]

Bruh I dated a girl from Southside (50's hood) who was a lead singer in her church. The night I met her she made it clap for me Those superficial attributes don't mean much with regards to the quality of character, no disrespect to your cousin

Ultimately if a dude wants a quality woman he is going to have to bring quality to the table and filter, filter, filter. Plus having an inflated ego doesn't mean shyt if you want a relationship and aren't able to attract the quality of person u want in real life.

What qualities do you bring into your marriage?

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

It was so much easier back in the day, when you'd call them a witch and they would get burned at the stake.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

It's up to the men. Y'all talking about women not wanting leaders is because you don't know how to lead them. And it aint about leading them, it's about leading your life in a way thats attractive to a woman. I'm not saying women because you try and live for them or do things to impress them, you'll end up like OP wondering why the game aint working.

Quit looking for women to be the ones to tell you how to live or whats right or wrong. They dont know what they want and if they do, very few actually know how to go out, get it and sustain it.

My life turned around with women once I realized my happiness and life meant nothing to them so to be out, doing what you want to do, having the fun you want to have, making the money you feel comfortable with are all the things that women notice and it draws them in. They are visual, emotional beings who live in the moment. They are attracted initially to looks or that "flash", but to sustain it, you gotta bring something to the table that these women aren't getting from someone else. Whether that be conversation, humor, security, sex, leadership, intelligence etc. And if you give it to them in a package, they ain't playing a role, but they'll try and improve their standing and be more of a partner to you then playing a role.

Men have the fairy tale fantasy as much as women when it comes to a partner. Why would a woman want to be with a man who complains about shyt all the time when you are supposed to be a "leader"? Put your head down, take care of yourself and if no women want that, be happy you're avoiding all these idiots who think they deserve something without earning it. You put your life, success and happiness first, you wont need a woman to validate it for you so you can pick and choose which women are actually going to add to your life instead of merely just being apart of it.

You can just close the thread after this.

 

[The Mad Titan]

WTF is a gentlemen though lol? I'm not even being funny because being a "gentlemen" is one what should be normal so you get no props for that and two most that claim such are Russell Wilson fugazy with it so it looks bad. They no different than the other guys but front like they are to get the p*ssy. Not always but its enough of,them that unfortunately fukks it up. I agree with the rest outside of the last line because that sounds like some shyt chicks say when they with their girlfriends drinking wine lol.

The bold is part of my point, I dont claim to be a gentleman. I'm a nice guy and that' s all I claim. But getting women has never been a problem for me. Getting a woman that's up to my standards.... that's a different story.

I dont have some crazy list either, its really basic values.



lmao @ your last sentence tho. I can't front re reading it... But its true though, I got way to much extra money time and freedom to settle with someone that's just gonna annoy me, be a headache or be a financial burden for the rest of my life while lacking the values I want in a woman

 

[PeridotPuss]

You can just close the thread after this.

Completely agree.

 

[Elle Driver]

Oh ok I agree with that but I still don't think its as bad as cats make it. Sometimes some of us guys sounds like haters ole she getting attention ass nikkas. Most people like attention so what? I think that's my problem with it how people react to it esp guys because on avg we not getting attention that easily so it seems it comes from a place of jealousy.

It's because women's looks are valued more than a man's (as a result of men).

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Ain't no anger, I'm not about to shyt on nikkas for having difficulty with women, I don't shyt on women for having difficulty with men cause I readily admit most nikkas are shyt


And when they take control of their lives and say they're going to travel, you're in that thread saying they're losers

How are dudes playing victim by saying women today are shyt? I sure as fukk wouldn't want to be single today if I wanted a long lasting relationship, ass is easy to come by but quality people are not. No amount of filter is going to change a finite and dwindling resource and high quality people are in fact rare.

If u feel it's impossible to find quality here then we are just going to have to agree to disagree. I know a lot of quality people who have linked up within this IG era. Thing is most of them don't even have IG. They don't have time.

You feel the ONLY way dudes can take control is by traveling. I think that's BS because I see a lot of quality people every day. A lot of these dudes equate "quality" to a woman being a dude's guardian, prostitute, maid and personal cheerleader for nothing in return. They don't work on self-improvement, they don't take their careers seriously, they don't do anything to try and make themselves at all more appealing than they are in their base state. They just come here and whine. How is that taking control?

I know a lot of brehs who deal with nothing but quality even in this era. You are one of them So I don't get why you are with this woe is me bandwagon. Nobody has ever achieved anything by sitting around feeling sorry for themselves and waiting for the world around them to make things better. At least outside of extreme situations, which this definitely isn't. So nah I don't think telling dudes to do what they can to make the best of the situations they're in as bad advice.

 

[The ADD]

Only IG thots are seeking validation? So all those chicks who are posting their fitness pics aren't seeking validation? all the regular ass women that flood IG with pics of themselves day after day aren't seeking validation? Come the fukk on.

Here's the problem, you're nowhere to be found when women are saying there are no quality men, but let the thread be about there being no quality women and you're there shytting on dudes.


How does sitting on on a message board constantly talking about other dudes help their situation? You're always in these threads talking trying to high side these dudes, you're in the travel threads trying to talk from a high horse, meanwhile anyone from SOHH who remembers you can recall you getting caught up in that ugly broads PMs asking her all kinds of sexual shyt while you were married and talking about your dikk. Were you filtering when you were passive aggressively simping?

The use of "high side"

The rest

 

[philmonroe]

The bold is part of my point, I dont claim to be a gentleman. I'm a nice guy and that' s all I claim. But getting women has never been a problem for me. Getting a woman that's up to my standards.... that's a different story.

I dont have some crazy list either, its really basic values.



lmao @ your last sentence tho. I can't front re reading it... But its true though, I got way to much extra money time and freedom to settle with someone that's just gonna annoy me, be a headache or be a financial burden for the rest of my life while lacking the values I want in a woman

I don't like even claiming nice and don't because if you are that whatever it is others will say it for you. I just don't like telling people what I am anyway esp stuff like nice guy because the connotation is lying ass sucker nikka tbh. Maybe you in the wrong city but if you have a basic list and can't find it in a big city if you stay in one maybe its on you to roll to different areas. I mean you can't be the only quality person in your city gotta be a few chicks there that's on the same level. I just won't believe that no matter who says it nothing personal esp if you're in a big city. I'd be more likely to believe it if you in bumblefukk though but even then if your list is simple still should be some chicks that fit it.

Well at least you see how funny that last sentence sounded though lol. Maybe you really just want to be single and use these things to justify it? Just saying some people really don't want to settle down and come up with reasons for it. I know I don't want to right now because I can't be faithful not because its no good women out here. I know my eyes looking very crazy eyeish right now and don't want to hurt a chick by saying I'm going to be committed.

 

[Strawberry]

@Strawberry

What?
I think OP has some important lessons to learn from my story.

He asked for advice approaching/finding women. I suggest the random approach technique and remind him that shyt happens for a reason and is meant to be. He doesn't like my advice and refuses to ever randomly approach women again.

then magically, as if on cue, my story of random approach + things happening for a reason + cuz it's meant to be plays out in front of me.

This was literally the same night I was tryin to explain to OP about random approach/meant to be/for a reason. shyt's happenin in real time.

And then I reported back with solid evidence that random approach not only works but can have extremely satisfied results for both

And on top of that, you have a clear example of natural attraction, things happening for a reason & shyt being meant to be. My dude even said it to me, I couldn't believe it
Just makes the story so perfect

Edit nevermind

Lol that's cool...but I'm not looking to get laid...I'm looking for a spouse that I can built with...I'm looking for a future wife...I'm at that age

The random approach is versatile and can be for whatever you want it to be. If you want to use it for sex, use it for sex. If you want to use it for finding a quality woman, then use it for that.

You gotta start somewhere and you'll never know unless you try

Trust me, get out there!