dealing with modern women is unbearable

[Strapped]

Why is this 47 pages long

it needs to be longer mayne

 

[Playa With Tha Passport]

it needs to be longer mayne

Why

 

[UpAndComing]

Maybe she was like that because her father did all those things. I know personally my dad has and still pays for everything. From the house to buying all of our cars. And even though I don't live at home anymore, he'll still give me spending money and I never pay for anything when I'm out with him and my mom. I get sad sometimes because I know that I'll never find a man like that. Not even just as far as spending money but taking care of stuff around the house, fixing stuff. My dad never ran the streets and is always at home spending time with his family. He's not perfect but he's GOAT to me.

All these demands

Do you cook and clean to perfection?

 

[Action Mike]

I know this sounds really unromantic but no man I've ever been with has ever brought anything unique to me, they brought qualities I like but they all had the same qualities. Maybe the way I view things is different than you because you're asking one of those "fairy tale" questions, where you want me to make it seem like my fiance is this one of a kind guy that never existed before him.

You probably believe in soul mates too, huh? I don't.

Do you want to know what I love about my fiance? He's really nice, we get along, we both have qualities that other person doesn't have, like he's calm and I'm not and he's super romantic and I'm not (he would probably tell you something "unique" about me even though it's not unique). He's very wise, he's very straight forward, he can come off a bit harsh but he says it's because English isn't his first language. He's an introvert, I'm an extrovert, I like that because I like people to listen to me talk about nothing without interrupting. We share the same morals, we're both homebodies, we both have broad sense of humors, we live similar lives, I like spending money, he likes spending money on me. There's a lot that I like about him and a lot of the qualities he has compliments my life, even the things I don't like about him compliments my life. Like if he doesn't like something, he'll say it. Like if I'm wearing some thing that's ugly he'll say it's ugly even if I don't ask but he'll say I look good but my outfit is ugly. I also like that he knows when I'm joking and when I'm serious, like I can tell him to drop dead and he'll laugh because he knows I'm not serious.

See, I pretty much like everything about him (expect how brutally honest he is and how hard it is to scare him) but he's like clone of all the guys I've been in a relationship with, the only things that gives him an edge is his height, his income, and his accent. My dad even says that I've dated the Mexican, Black, and Arabic version of the same guy. That's why I say he doesn't bring anything unique but I think he's unique compared to most men in the world. Does that make sense or no?


edit: damn I typed a lot, I'm sorry

Now that's what I'm talking about.

I didn't mean unique as himself (even though we all are), I meant the things you pointed out even though you've experienced them with other men.

No I don't believe in soul mates, the real world isn't a fairytale but your happy.

 

[Action Mike]

can you expand please?
I agree that one partner is always the alpha. Since that exists in same sex couples that's why I feel that it's not a male or female thing.

Do you really think those traits are hardwired into us and relate to sex or is it socialized into us?

Ftr I do feel for me that it's hardwired and completely natural. But then I see these women who are just not maternal or nuturing or any of th ed traits we associate with being women



Really thought provoking. Thanks breh.

It's all good. More hardwired, as the social aspect was born from that.

 

[ALonelyDad]

Stop hanging out with social media women, there are plenty who are not on social media and are fine. But I do agree with you, those social media oriented women are the worst, my girl better not have a phone

 

[Dwolf]

Girl

Thats not even what I meant. I couldnt think of a better word

 

[mcdivit85]

You tried....but I didn't mention anything about either sex treating the other poorly, but I kinda see what you're getting at.....

But you offered a construct in which a woman can be "good" by her own volition alone without any mention of how she treats a potential male counterpart. Her being "good" is solely based on how she treats herself. At the least, this would insinuate ambivalence towards the treatment of her mate.

So, can a man be "good" while doing the same?

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

what do you offer in a relationship? You want a woman that works, takes care of the kids, takes care of you, cleans the house, and cooks. What are you going to be doing?

How rude to ask an opposing question before even having the courtesy to answer mine. Alas, I shall oblige. By the way, you forgot to mention her buying gifts....also called oblation. But I digress.

I offer friendship.

I offer comfort and good company.

I offer guidance when requested.

I offer dates.

I offer gifts.

I offer protection privately and publicly.

I offer new career/business ideas and steps for completion.....that actually contribute to the bottom line of said woman.

I offer sexual companionship.

I offer time and space in my home....including space for her things to add convenience to her life.

I offer trips and weekend getaways just because.

I offer NO LESS than I expect her to give in return. I'm not selfish and self-centered when it comes to how I treat people, especially my lady.

One thing you have to keep in mind is that if a man is thorough, then he doesn't have to ask much from a woman. She just gets to doing....if she's real that is. So, many women like yourself, assume that thorough dudes, like myself, are forcing these women to do these things. When in reality, they do it because THEY WANT TO DO IT.

But may you answer my question now, babes?

Peace

 

[live it to the limit]

All these demands

Do you cook and clean to perfection?

Huh? I simply said why she might have felt that way. And then I said how my father does things and how I doubt I could find a man like him. There's no demands. Did u even read what I wrote?

 

[PeridotPuss]

But you offered a construct in which a woman can be "good" by her own volition alone without any mention of how she treats a potential male counterpart. Her being "good" is solely based on how she treats herself. At the least, this would insinuate ambivalence towards the treatment of her mate.

So, can a man be "good" while doing the same?

Peace

You're inferring things that I'm not trying to imply.

I described that a woman should determine her "goodness" for herself based on how she conducts herself and lives her life, not solely (and perhaps without any consideration of) how she treats a male partner.

Listen close - That is not the same thing as treating someone poorly, if someone male or female believes they can treat others like shyt and still be "good people" I believe this happens every day. ... I think it takes a certain level of insecurity if one requires validation or support for their perceptions of self

Point is, as a woman, how I feel about ME has nothing to do with men in any way. ...if a man wants to feel the same way about women can't knock em.... it's how I live....what's good for the goose is good for the gander...but it still has nothing to do with treating others poorly

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

I get what you are saying-we as women appreciate all that work you do around the house, but let me just say-

Mowing the lawn once a week, maybe an hour or two at the most per week. Shoveling and salting in the wintertime-on average the same amount of time and it is dependent on the weather. Cleaning the car, lifting heavy things-yes, those are done on occasion but not on a daily basis and they don't take that long. On the high end these tasks can be completed over about 3 hours during a week.

Now, comparing those tasks to cooking and cleaning-If a woman prepares 2-3 meals a day, this can take from 15 minutes to maybe an hour per meal. A neat, tidy home requires an investment of at least 30 minutes to an hour each day, maybe more if you have children. On the lower end of the scale lets say a minimum of an hour of cooking and 30 minutes of cleaning per day. This works out to about 10.5 hours a week.

The woman is putting in a lot more time with cooking and cleaning, and these are tasks that are done every day. This is different from tasks that are done once or twice a week or very infrequently.

I'm not trying to say that each partner's contribution is not important and needed, but let's be realistic about the amount of time that each has to invest in getting things done.

Lawn care is more than mowing; its also trimming hedges, edge work, raking leaves, watering the grass, snaking the drain in the back yard etc. Many men will spend the entire afternoon doing this. Shoveling and salting may not happen every day in the winter but we get up every morning to warm the car and remove frost from the windshield (while she is still in the warm bed).

As I stated to another poster, most women don't cook 2-3 times a day. They cook once or twice through out the week and the rest of the time its left overs or delivery and one night of the week is date night. Dont get me wrong left overs can be just as good, lol. Cooking today is not as involved as it used to be; people rarely make food from scratch. instant sides, microwaves, self cleaning ovens, etc have made this easier.

Time is one investment but there are others. Physical labor may not take as long as cooking but the toll on a mans body is far grater, especially as he gets older. Shoveling heavy snow pushing mowers up and down hills etc, is strenuous and can lead to injuries. I'm joking but no woman has thrown out her back making chicken lol.

 

[UpAndComing]

Huh? I simply said why she might have felt that way. And then I said how my father does things and how I doubt I could find a man like him. There's no demands. Did u even read what I wrote?

Oh so it means you can't cook and clean to perfection. Gotcha

 

[UpAndComing]

Saw this on Facebook

Caption:
Had to put him in check. Lol


This is the modern woman's fantasy. The only relationship they want. They don't like a man to lead a relationship, cause they secretly want to lead
Look at that simp, so proud that he is getting checked. Probably asked her 2 hours later if he can get checked again

 

[The ADD]

Saw this on Facebook

Caption:
Had to put him in check. Lol


This is the modern woman's fantasy. The only relationship they want. They don't like a man to lead a relationship, cause they secretly want to lead
Look at that simp, so proud that he is getting checked. Probably asked her 2 hours later if he can get checked again

Thought that was two women