Can men be vulnerable with women?

[BK The Great]

From experience no, it will be used against you.

 

[Smokin Rider]

Nah I learned my lesson. Yall keep talking about the right one but I think 98% will throw it back in your face. I had a woman who loved me and I told her things I never shared with nobody, she was compassionate but when an argument came months later, she threw it back in my face. She apologized and cried the next day saying she didn't mean it, saying she loved me she just can't control her emotions. I believe that to be true for most women, they operate on how they feel and will say whatever, we work off logic and we know some things are just off the table to speak on negatively if we care for someone.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Man once you get my age
You really don’t give a fukk
If a bytch gon leave or bring shyt up as a weapon
I will escort her goof ass right to the door and be happy with my dog
My wife seen me cry maybe twice in our whole relationship
When I found out I had cancer
My daughters graduation
And has never brought it up because I told her
You can leave any day you want
I’ll be fine
You can cheat on me
I’ll be fine
You can take everything in this fukking house
I’ll still be fine
I’ve had my heartbroken a million times
Had bytches do the most treacherous shyt known to man
And I came out on the back end of that
And put my life back together without a bytch and only my mother, sister, daughter and day ones
So at this stage in my life a bytch can’t hurt me
I’ve seen it all and I’m not going to deny who i am at 43 just to keep p*ssy and a headache around
My wife ain’t left and we on 7 years this November
Even if she left on our anniversary
I’ll still be straight
nikkas is scared to be alone
That’s all I’m reading in this thread
A bytch will leave just because
You can be hard as a rock
But it’s always another nikka bigger, stronger, faster than you
Once you become comfortable in your skin and know the truth about not only women but people
shyt is liberating
I would be remiss if I didn’t say it wouldn’t hurt if she left me but the shyt I’ve seen
Nah, she wouldn’t even compare to my biggest hurt
And I’ve told her that with a straight face
I’m a sociopath to women at this point

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

This shyt in here sounds like dudes are afraid to be themselves, to express how they feel. And why? Because your girl is going to throw it back in your face? Break up with the bytch lol

I thought Coli posters were six certs or whatever. Can’t you guys get another girl who will allow you to be open or something lol

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Yes your should absolutely be able to talk to your woman. Now if you picking wrong that's on you. Don't do this with every girl but also don't try to carry everything in your mind.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Nah I learned my lesson. Yall keep talking about the right one but I think 98% will throw it back in your face. I had a woman who loved me and I told her things I never shared with nobody, she was compassionate but when an argument came months later, she threw it back in my face. She apologized and cried the next day saying she didn't mean it, saying she loved me she just can't control her emotions. I believe that to be true for most women, they operate on how they feel and will say whatever, we work off logic and we know some things are just off the table to speak on negatively if we care for someone.

And this is just your reaction to hurt and carrying baggage from it.

Black men are not going to therapy like that and if you can't confide in a woman then chances are you need therapy And don't even know it.

 

[Neuromancer]

Superman is Clark Kent powers don't make the man See Superman and Legion of Superheroes by Geoff Johns or Superman on Warworld

 

[Neuromancer]

Nice take. I told my Wife, “men who can’t be vulnerable with a prospective partner is tough.” Do I believe women can/will weaponize our emotions? Possibly, but we as men should have the emotional intelligence to understand if a woman brings up past behavior of vulnerability, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are attacking us.

Slippery slope.

If you know your girl would have something slick to say if you cry during Lion King, is that automatic bush status?

I think people should treat others how they want to be treated. What happens if you bring up your girl's behavior of vulnerability? How is it taken? Gotta be even.

 

[Mr. Manhattan]

Only with ur mom and grandma

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

NO!! She will resent you and eventually use it against you.

 

[Piff Perkins]

My issue with this convo is that it's one sided. Are men really going to pretend like they never bring up their girl/wife/etc's vulnerabilities during a fight? Let's be real here. This convo reminds me of the "women are emotional, men aren't" thin that goes around despite men committing violent crimes every day due to being emotional.

 

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Can your man share his feelings with you? Are you his safe space?

Absolutely

 

[Timbs]

I opened up to a pawg and it turned out she was

 

[PartyHeart]

Men can and should be vulnerable with a woman they are serious about.

The irony is that a woman who senses that a man will not be vulnerable with her will eventually leave because she will see it as a rather obvious signal that he’s not serious about her, or not serious about maintaining the relationship. And she will do this even if, and perhaps especially if, she loves him (or is falling for him if it’s early stages). Because it’s not a very secure position to be in, to be in love with someone who you know is keeping you at arms length. And above all most women seek security in their partner (all forms of it).

I’d actually advise my sons that a good “test” for a woman is if she doesn’t seem to care that you keep it surface level with her. She’s either 1. also not willing to be vulnerable with you and is possibly hiding something, 2. she doesn’t really care to know you deeply and is there for superficial reasons, or 3. both of those things.

 

[The Guru]

Generally, no.

It will come back on you. This is one thing consistent about stereotypical female nature I hate. You should be able to be open with your lady, but every woman I've ever been serious with has brought it back up at the most awkward or vulnerable moment to help win a fight or prove a point.

I imagine there are some you can, but I don't think I have observed it or been told by any of my friends their woman is the unicorn.

It's not even about winning a fight or proven a point. It comes from a frustrated, insecure and angry attitude that needs to feel that it can hurt you.