Approaching girls in 2024 as a mid 30s breh

[ThrobbingHood]

I'm 35

What were you doing the past 15 years of your life?

 

[Roid Jones]

Haven't read the whole post, but

1) Massive, irrational, almost delusional self confidence is step #1. Basically you need to be trying new stuff and winning in other areas of your life, ALL THE TIME. This is typically where most guys fail. They try to technique their way into broads, and typically hate the grind and don't know what to do with feedback they're getting from females.

This, dudes always want to find a silver bullet but it does not work like that, also I like what you said about confidence being grounded in something, dudes always think they can manufacture confidence out of thing air, nah work has to be put in, learn a skill, get a hobby, get better at your current job etc

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Agree to disagree.

From my perspective, I don't care at all about random people in public, because I know I'm a megastar (requires a lot of discipline and earned self-esteem) and nothing will get in my way, certainly not my own perceived social constructs. If I see a woman that I think, I can't just let her walk out of my life without doing anything, I will approach. Do I strike out a lot? Yes, but so what.

I can approach without fear of embarrassment because I know whether the approach works or not I'm going to be fine with or without her.

I was listening to an interview between 19 Keys and Tariq Nasheed from a few years back. They talked about how back then, you had to be social and approach women. Now these clowns send emojis as their opening conversation starter.

Game goofy clowns.

 

[mag357]

A bytch offering me her ig is lowkey worse than rejection.

I couldn't have said it better.

I wish I was articulate enough to express how much of a lame ass nikka she must think I am to even suggest some sht like that.

U think I'm a charity case bytch.
U want me to be one of ur followers, so I can watch ur shtty IG posts. While u never interact with me, bytch.

Iz u crazy hoe

 

[Jasonmask]

It’s not rocket science. Honestly we millennials should have the upper hand by now. These zoomers don’t have that aura like we do they don’t know how talk like that. Not sayin it’s all of them I know some that still get laid a lot but they are like OG zoomer (‘97) any year after that I hear a lot them guys and girls say they never been in a relationship or didn’t have a first kiss until senior year.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Man, I miss cold approaching. Back then, it was a rites of passage. There was nothing like making sure my mouthpiece was still crisp. Not every woman was receptive but that’s what made it fun.

If I wasn’t engaged now, I’d be cleaning up much easier today: older, wiser, better shape, better clothes and net worth. I still casually flirt but respectfully.

I know once I put that ring on my finger, it’s gonna be hard to fight them off.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

A bytch offering me her ig is lowkey worse than rejection.

I couldn't have said it better.

I wish I was articulate enough to express how much of a lame ass nikka she must think I am to even suggest some sht like that.

U think I'm a charity case bytch.
U want me to be one of ur followers, so I can watch ur shtty IG posts. While u never interact with me, bytch.

Iz u crazy hoe

I had to force a relative to talk to women. He’s young but he’s getting there. I told him straight up if she’s not giving you her number then abort the mission.

She doesn’t respect you enough to give you her number. It’s a huge insult to only give social media as means of contact. As a man, you control the discourse, don’t accept a consolation prize.

 

[mag357]

This, dudes always want to find a silver bullet but it does not work like that, also I like what you said about confidence being grounded in something, dudes always think they can manufacture confidence out of thing air, nah work has to be put in, learn a skill, get a hobby, get better at your current job etc

It's facts ur spittin.... But for the dudes who don't have that confidence. They gotta fake it, start approaching, get rejected, realized they didn't die.
And keep going from there. They will eventually get minor wins and gain confidence.

There's nikkaz that excel in different areas of life but still can't find the courage to interact with women they don't know.
They gotta just jump into the fire.

 

[mag357]

I had to force a relative to talk to women. He’s young but he’s getting there. I told him straight up if she’s not giving you her number then abort the mission.

She doesn’t respect you enough to give you her number. It’s a huge insult to only give social media as means of contact. As a man, you control the discourse, don’t accept a consolation prize.

nikkaz is preaching tonight.

Alot of Dudes won't understand but it really is an insult.

 

[Insensitive]

OP in particular seems to have an anxiety about getting memed/embarassed and a general social anxiety. Sometimes the acquisitions (that you ain't supposed to lead with anyway) aren't gonna beat that demon.

Outside of wearing and driving certain things, your finances shouldn't be known in the stage OP is trying to move past. But he's said dressing isn't an issue.

I'm looking at the personal achievements as empowerment not necessarily
something to sell to the women he's in talking stages with.

He should feel Iike "that dude" at 35 because the past 17 years should've
put him in position to be just that. Any rejection at that point should just be
charged to the game.

It's like losing a game after being in the gym, studying all of the tapes, having
the best diet etc. At that point, he's at his best and should take comfort
in knowing it was never going to go any other way.

 

[Da Bull Ace]

Having confidence is 9/10 of the battle. Stop getting caught up on what could go wrong and start thinking like “damn she fine, I wonder if I can get her number” and just have a regular convo. If a girl feeling you you’ll be able to tell based on how the convo goes.

And remember that not every girl you like is gonna like you, that’s just life. A rejection is just saying yall aren’t compatible, but at least you have closure in finding out if you had a chance. 10 girls can say no, all it takes is 1 yes, search for the yes.

 

[desjardins]

Like everything in life... practice makes perfect
The more you try the better you will get. To take some pressure off go in knowing you won't even try to get the number. Try to master breaking the ice with simple small talk. Being comfortable talking to women is the foundation of any "game"

 

[re'up]

I have never had social media....but some of you are a little off on what instagram is used for in current dating/sex, someone offering IG is not rejection, they want to do the whole "like your pics and you like mine" but also first to see your pics, see your lifestyle.

you can read a lot by just looking at someone, how open to connection they might be. Holding your gaze, smiling, looking at you up and down. A lot of these are kinda replaced by emojis and texts, but it still works. This is more questionable, but if you can learn to read people by how they dress....what that says about them, that sharpens your chances. We all display who we are by how we dress, conscious or unconsciously.

 

[WIA20XX]

I have never had social media....but some of you are a little off on what instagram is used for in current dating/sex, someone offering IG is not rejection, they want to do the whole "like your pics and you like mine" but also first to see your pics, see your lifestyle.

They're leaving money on the table.

 

[Shadow King]

I'm looking at the personal achievements as empowerment not necessarily
something to sell to the women he's in talking stages with.

He should feel Iike "that dude" at 35 because the past 17 years should've
put him in position to be just that. Any rejection at that point should just be
charged to the game.

It's like losing a game after being in the gym, studying all of the tapes, having
the best diet etc. At that point, he's at his best and should take comfort
in knowing it was never going to go any other way.

But we know the players who are that prepared, and proud of it, never feel that way.