Approaching girls in 2024 as a mid 30s breh

[#BOTHSIDES]

I've noticed that I get eye contact quite a bit, probably because I'm decent shape and dress pretty well. It's that split second gap between the eye contact and making an approach that I need to just go do the damn thang


Otherwise I will forever just have these coworkers on my dikk and I can't do anything about it because I try not to fukk coworkers and especially not date them just off principle

Your first few approaches might suck. You might be nervous but that’s part of it

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

Go to places where people go to socialise don’t look for women in places where people go for goods or services.

Clubs bars barbecues parties concerts carnivals festivals universities colleges outdoor celebrations


I personally wouldn’t approach in grocery stores, gyms or public transport the usual Coli breh places a woman usually came to that place for a specific purpose and is very likely to not want to be bothered.

I know when I’m shopping I wanna get my stuff and get the hell out.

shyt I met my girl in whole foods lol

 

[Ozymandeas]

Nikka you better start a Hinge profile and gtfoh.

You too old for this.

 

[RennisDeynolds]

What you want to do is make as much sexual innuendos or references as you can in the time you chat

Example: "yeah these Hawaiian coconuts are said to be an aphrodisiac . Just the scent of that milk gets me hard . FVCK! A ha ha!"


Don't worry about being too bold, you said it's a tourist spot. One and done type shyt


Now you claim to be in good shape . This can help you evade security and the cops if shyt gets out of hand

 

[FukkaPaidEmail]

I'm 37 and I still shoot my shot IN PERSON every time I see a cute chick. I'm a silly nikka so it's funny and flirtatious usually, so rejection ain't even really a possibility. If I see the chick is feeling me, I keep fukkin with her. If not, I keep it moving.

I get on new women all the time and I don't use the Internet to get chicks AT ALL unless you count the chicks I went to school with that I smashed years later.

That’s because here if you a nikka with a career/good paying stable job you destroying 99.9% of the dudes here

Its like shooting fish in a barrel

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

attraction is not a choice we are who we are attracted to. if shes not attracted to you off the rip don't waste your time. you just gotta know how to spot if she's being nice or if she likes you. And if she likes you she will make things easy for you. So keep the interaction short and look for signs she is interested. If she's not shell let you know. and any bytch that makes you "fight" for her isn't worth the time so no means no IMO.

 

[Bigen King]

You too damn old to be having social anxiety when it come to approaching women.

Touch grass

 

[re'up]

Take YOUR AirPods out too, and limit the phone. That right there will open up a little bit for you. The more open you are, the more open others will be.

Take in body language, and how someone carries themselves.

Have something to say, somewhere you can guide the conversation if you start one.

 

[cyndaquil]

You too damn old to be having social anxiety when it come to approaching women.

Touch grass

You too damn old to be tryna put someone down who is genuinely tryna improve themselves.

 

[WIA20XX]

Haven't read the whole post, but

1) Massive, irrational, almost delusional self confidence is step #1. Basically you need to be trying new stuff and winning in other areas of your life, ALL THE TIME. This is typically where most guys fail. They try to technique their way into broads, and typically hate the grind and don't know what to do with feedback they're getting from females.

2) Your visual game - face, body, hair, clothing, accessories, cars, etc - needs to always be on 10. Always improving, always handling details.

Social Skills

3) Verbal Game - the first words you say really don't matter that much. You don't need to be a pimp/poet with the vocabulary either.

4) Reacting to her response to whatever you put out there is how you turn a 15 cents into a dollar.

3&4 are heavily dependent on having a previous history of talking to strangers, about nothing, about something, all of the time.
If you're totally at ease shooting the gift with randoms - that comes across in your body language.

And when you're calm, she's calm. It's how parents calm down children. They're calm, the child slowly (and ideally) matches their body language.

On the receiving end, obviously if you're aware that someone's trying to handle you emotionally - you can turn up - that's part of why women love to return things to stores - they can bully the other side with emotions. (also why there are a lot of Black Head Administrators...I digress)

- which leads me to #5

5) Nonverbal Game

How fast or slow you talk?
Whether you enunciate?
Whether you pause?
Are you jittery or calm?
Do you make eye contact?
Do you hold eye contact?

All that stuff plays into how she receives you and evaluates you.

6) Do you have a GOOD plan?

Do you truly understand what you're doing? Cause if it were me, I'm looking for efficiency. Yelling at randoms on the beach is anything but efficient.

But brute force rapping at females, will end up boosting your confidence, lowering your anxiety, and make you smoother overall - BUT consider this

The chick is off to a surf lesson with a guy that's cooler and in better shape than you are. You think she's gonna notice your texts, when he's taking her out to some secret lagoon or locals only spot?

So even after you level up your looks and your rap - you still gotta deal with how much a girl's interest will decay over the rest of the day/rest of her trip there.

So, If you're 30 something, and she's 25, GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.

But, If you're 30, in shape, and she's 35 and recently divorced/on a girl's trip - you might be in there.

WIA

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

I am trying to get over my fear of rejection and approach these women but often find it hard because everyone has a god damn phone in their hand and earbuds in


I think I have a fear of getting clowned in public even though I know I shouldn't care. In a place with some privacy it's not a big deal, but in a crowded area with tons of eyeballs I get cold feet. Especially if the chick is walking towards me and id have to stop her to talk to her. It feels like I'm being intrusive


Whats the strategy? Numbers game? Selective shots?

I find that if in a situation where I have the chance to talk to them for prolonged periods of time, I have a great shot because I'm intelligent and funny and dont take myself too Seriously. Cold approaches in public is a lot harder.


What y'all brehs doing?


Background: I'm 35 and in decent shape but not ripped by any means. 5'9" and pretty good looking but not a model or some shyt.

Breh I stopped cold approaching regularly in 2004 as a college freshman.

Got a few numbers and dates...but most of the time, girls had phones in their hands and friends on each hip. Women are easy 1x1 but tend to get sassy when they have backup around. A dude with enough game and looks can overcome that...but even the top Macks are going to fail 50% of the time at least.

Glad I'm married because the streets are rough.

Try meeting chicks at MeetUp events. Find local coed rec leagues. The more niche the hobby, the better. Book clubs. Basically....you want to meet women in a relaxed atmosphere where they're not on-guard. Ladies these days see all the shyt online and will be uncomfortable as fukk when dudes approach them...especially if you're not a "10" in their eyes.

 

[maxamusa]

OP you should lead with your wallet.


Sit next to her at the bar.....place your rental keys on the bar along with a designer wallet bulging with money.


Order a double of claze Azul and start talking about how you can't wait to go to Fiji next week to the bartender (you're not going; it doesn't matter)



you're welcome.

 

[maxamusa]

i'm tired of men making excuses
who cares if the woman as a phone in her hand or earbuds

just fukkin say "excuse me" and talk to her. if she rejects you, apologize for bothering her and move along. she's a human being, not a fukkin lion.


SIMPLE

Excuse me is a great opener. She'll probably have to excuse herself to go to the bathroom and dry her panties off with one of these after hearing that

thats game

 

[Givethanks]

What do you do for work?

Are you apart of any clubs/rec teams/volunteer orgs/ etc?

Do you have female friends/friends in real life that aren't weird?

 

[MicIsGod]

To coldly approach women or random strangers on the road, you have to have little to no fear of public reprisal and embarrassment. I value self respect and the self dignity way more to approach it that way, i refuse to contribute to the pandering of some of these toxic women's egos

Real answer.