Approaching girls in 2024 as a mid 30s breh

[DetroitEWarren]

Never done a cold approach in my life
Good luck out there

I've never used a dating site or inboxed any random Detroit chicks on any social media site to try to get on.

Literally every chick I've ever smashed was a cold approach or a link thru a friend.

 

[TL15]

I am trying to get over my fear of rejection and approach these women but often find it hard because everyone has a god damn phone in their hand and earbuds in


I think I have a fear of getting clowned in public even though I know I shouldn't care. In a place with some privacy it's not a big deal, but in a crowded area with tons of eyeballs I get cold feet. Especially if the chick is walking towards me and id have to stop her to talk to her. It feels like I'm being intrusive


Whats the strategy? Numbers game? Selective shots?

I find that if in a situation where I have the chance to talk to them for prolonged periods of time, I have a great shot because I'm intelligent and funny and dont take myself too Seriously. Cold approaches in public is a lot harder.


What y'all brehs doing?


Background: I'm 35 and in decent shape but not ripped by any means. 5'9" and pretty good looking but not a model or some shyt.

“I know it’s not very original but you caught my eye and I’d love to see if we could be compatible if you aren’t seeing anyone. My name is ( name ). *extend your hand* if you’re uncomfortable exchanging numbers how about we exchange instagrams and start there?”

That’s it. Just say that. It’s assertive but friendly, it’s not pushy or cheesy but it’s direct enough that if she is interested you’ll get her IG and start the conversation there.

 

[JP_614]

Honolulu, Hawaii on my way to work in Waikiki

Heavily trafficked tourist area

shyt you In Waikiki man you got your pick of the litter. Go outside and walk the beach and just talk and open your mouth. Trial and error.

 

[shopthatwrecks]

I am trying to get over my fear of rejection and approach these women but often find it hard because everyone has a god damn phone in their hand and earbuds in


I think I have a fear of getting clowned in public even though I know I shouldn't care. In a place with some privacy it's not a big deal, but in a crowded area with tons of eyeballs I get cold feet. Especially if the chick is walking towards me and id have to stop her to talk to her. It feels like I'm being intrusive


Whats the strategy? Numbers game? Selective shots?

I find that if in a situation where I have the chance to talk to them for prolonged periods of time, I have a great shot because I'm intelligent and funny and dont take myself too Seriously. Cold approaches in public is a lot harder.


What y'all brehs doing?


Background: I'm 35 and in decent shape but not ripped by any means. 5'9" and pretty good looking but not a model or some shyt.

clowned in public... u talking to grown women or girls...

most a bytch can say is no not interested ...


say awww shucks and keep it moving...


goto the library pass notes.. do u like me yes or no.....

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

Go to places where people go to socialise don’t look for women in places where people go for goods or services.

Clubs bars barbecues parties concerts carnivals festivals universities colleges outdoor celebrations


I personally wouldn’t approach in grocery stores, gyms or public transport the usual Coli breh places a woman usually came to that place for a specific purpose and is very likely to not want to be bothered.

I know when I’m shopping I wanna get my stuff and get the hell out.

 

[cyndaquil]

I've never used a dating site or inboxed any random Detroit chicks on any social media site to try to get on.

Literally every chick I've ever smashed was a cold approach or a link thru a friend.

Lol cuz in Detroit that's how you get set up

 

[Ethnic Vagina Finder]

So what? That just means more rejections but at the end of the day there's still chicks who will fukk with you.

I watched a hispanic man get at a hispanic woman who worked at the Nike store yesterday. I know some Spanish and he was like "hey I like you" she was like nah no chance and walked off and breh kept it pushing and I basically forgot it happened when I went back into looking for clothes until today when I read this thread

Don't nobody give a fukk

You’re overthinking it. It really depends on the setting. For example, if she’s in the grocery store and you make eye contact and you feel she’s digging you simply walk up to her and ask her where something is at. It don’t really matter, you just want to have an excuse for follow up eye contact. You gotta know how to read the room and the situation.

 

[African Peasant]

And even then everyone will usually think she's a rude bytch. Laugh at you a bit in their heads or outside then move on

And you will probably never meet these cats ever on your life.

At the end of the day, you got NOTHING to lose to approach a broad.

 

[cyndaquil]

You’re overthinking it. It really depends on the setting. For example, if she’s in the grocery store and you make eye contact and you feel she’s digging you simply walk up to her and ask her where something is at. It don’t really matter, you just want to have an excuse for follow up eye contact. You gotta know how to read the room and the situation.

Breh did you mean to quote me? My emphasis was literally on the fact nobody cares. You can basically approach whoever and the only person who cares and remembers is you

 

[fifth column]

Use the “what’s in it for her approach” you have to say something that makes her react to something about her. You saying hi or I would like to get to know you means nothing to her.

 

[feelosofer]

Dating and sales are the same skill set. Be resilient. Don't fear rejection and be willing to take 99 nos for the few yeses. You are in a dense area with lots of places to go. I would try a more laid back place like a lounge or even a restaurant and just start making conversations.

 

[The Jewnited States]

Today's mission: go talk to women without worrying about the outcome.

Gotta build up my getting rejected muscle

 

[ZEupTWN]

Agree to disagree.

From my perspective, I don't care at all about random people in public, because I know I'm a megastar (requires a lot of discipline and earned self-esteem) and nothing will get in my way, certainly not my own perceived social constructs. If I see a woman that I think, I can't just let her walk out of my life without doing anything, I will approach. Do I strike out a lot? Yes, but so what.

I can approach without fear of embarrassment because I know whether the approach works or not I'm going to be fine with or without her.

Real talk this is the type of disposition and mentality you gotta have if you wanna do well and do it at your own pace without stretching yourself(basically gaming these hoes))…Definitely gonna deal with a lot of rejection simply cause the average jawn is use to dealing with simps, but the ones who recognize will be fully onboard w/o doing all that extra shxt cause they tend to be confident women themselves who know what they want….

And this got nothing to do with money and clout really it’s something that should ideally be ingrained in us early…That’s why you got so many of these dude who got it but still struggle with women and most are to stubborn/bigheaded to actually work on themselves so they seek solutions or put on a fake vain persona..

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

I am trying to get over my fear of rejection and approach these women but often find it hard because everyone has a god damn phone in their hand and earbuds in


I think I have a fear of getting clowned in public even though I know I shouldn't care. In a place with some privacy it's not a big deal, but in a crowded area with tons of eyeballs I get cold feet. Especially if the chick is walking towards me and id have to stop her to talk to her. It feels like I'm being intrusive


Whats the strategy? Numbers game? Selective shots?

I find that if in a situation where I have the chance to talk to them for prolonged periods of time, I have a great shot because I'm intelligent and funny and dont take myself too Seriously. Cold approaches in public is a lot harder.


What y'all brehs doing?


Background: I'm 35 and in decent shape but not ripped by any means. 5'9" and pretty good looking but not a model or some shyt.

Don’t worry op…once you do 1-2 approaches a day you’ll feel empowered and it becomes addictive… you’ll also feel good just having tried even if you get rejected… 90% will reject you nicely. “I’m sorry I have a bf” etc

Also instead of out in the wild… you can go out at night in which women are expected to be approached—bar, lounge, etc

During the day… keep it simple and straight to the point. “Hey how are you, I wanted to meet you. Thought you were cute. Etc… then ask for her info. If she’s younger… she’ll probably say IG… older will give you a number

@Pull Up the Roots what u think? How u get hoes?

 

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There is no hope for him. At 35, his fear will never change.