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My boss said that she believes marriage is for poor woman more than anyone else these days. When we asked her to clarify she said that she doesn’t believe marriage can really work(in general) unless there is a level of dependency. For instance A poor woman that is not capable of taking care of herself, is more likely to stay married to her man even when unhappy, because she depends on him. In other words she believes that in order for marriage to last or be necessary there has to be a level of dependency between both parties that will keep them “stuck” together. Once that dependency gets removed(which she believes started to happen when women were able to take care of themselves financially, a couple of decades ago) it won’t work. She doesn’t think “love” works as a reason or incentive for marriage. It’s too fleeting, and she admits this is especially the case for women.
She’s married btw, and both her and her husband make good money. She said her wake up call for staying with her husband was when he had to travel and work out of state for a few months, and she was forced to be a single mom of their kids. She realized that she just couldn’t live that type of life(as a single mom) hence she found the anchors that keep her with her husband for now. It’s interesting perspective. I believe she sees marriage as a business arrangement.
Wonderful response..it's interesting, a penalty of personal and financial successes.. or even the process of attaining such successes.. is that finding love and/or being in committed relationships is no longer an added benefit but is reduced to a calculated risk.
What about you? Is marriage a thing based on emotion or logical conclusions for you?