Young Men Giving Up On Marriage, Because "Women Aren't Women Anymore."

[MMA]

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They are having a hard time because marriage/divorce regulations are broken. There financial institutions are broken too even if they are the majority benefactors. Now you put both of those situations together you hand off too much power to one side just like in the past - one will abuse it and that's what white woman have done. They simply have switched roles on whose going to do the fukking over. Now the children of these adults, are seeing the issues their parents went through and want no part in it.

You create evil without an understanding of the consequences, be ready to deal with the aftermath with your kids replacing their future kids with cats and dogs.

 

[Easy-E]

You just said something here...

A few years ago, it was this broad I was kinda liking just a little bit. We were talking one day and I was saying how she was having her chit together. She said "I don't wanna struggle..."

I can understand that, nobody wants to struggle...but as an American Black Nicca, my life is struggle. So I didn't pursue anything with her on that level.

We're still cool to this day...FF to now, she's getting closer to 30, she done got a li'l chunky, and she still ain't got no man. Just a couple days ago, she was asking my opinion on things perpendicular to this thread. To quote Ice Cube, "she worried sick, but I'm chillin'...she coulda rolled with this villain (lol)".

Point is, like you saying people are looking for marriage to be a different thing than what it is.

And our sisters swear they have a love that no other woman of another race can duplicates

Wait I'm pro-black and want everything blacki'd black

But, I don't wanna hear that after you complaint about jail, poverty, lack of social status, children, etc.

One thing I'm done with is single mother slander

Yes, we need to stop lionizing women simply for being single mothers, but, apart of being black in America is that you may be unmarried and with a child

On the road of life, marriage is just two people getting in the same car, now, it's not a space ship

 

[Antwon Mitchell]

I've said it before alot of women nowadays are just using marriage as a "financial come up" has less to do with love like back in the days, sure back then the economy was different compared to now but still .

I got into a slightly heated debate on Facebook last Sunday with some women who've made it clear that their sole purpose on wanting to get married is to relieve them of paying bills, so I asked "well if we were married and i payed every bill in the house top to bottom EVERYTHING...what are you going to do for me in return?"

A couple of women never responded back so I knew their answer was basically nothing (outside of sex & subpar cooking) one dude gave me a heads up tho that some women won't even give their man sex regardless, but as far as the women who did answer shyt most was on some "we'll see" shyt.

One woman tried to play mental games giving me a runaround talking about "as women our paychecks were meant for joyful shopping/playtime whereas you as a man was meant to work only just to pay bills" .

 

[Taadow]

And our sisters swear they have a love that no other woman of another race can duplicates

Wait I'm pro-black and want everything blacki'd black

But, I don't wanna hear that after you complaint about jail, poverty, lack of social status, children, etc.

One thing I'm done with is single mother slander

Yes, we need to stop lionizing women simply for being single mothers, but, apart of being black in America is that you may be unmarried and with a child

On the road of life, marriage is just two people getting in the same car, now, it's not a space ship

Yeah.

...and that's a good way to put it, getting in the same car.
But it can't work (CAN'T) if those two people don't wanna go to same places.

 

[Kex]

News flash: Most of you grandma's wasn't shyt & most of your mommas weren't either.

Women haven't changed. Society has. I wish we would stop glorifying the generation before before cause both men and women have mostly never been up to standard. People just didn't talk about it. Or stayed together for financial reasoning.

How you granddaddy had a wife and a whole family across town but this generation take the cake?
How you and your brother/sister got different daddies but these women today just invented slinging p*ssy?

I bet if some of ya'll went back to your home town and ask the ole head about your grandma back in the day they probably have a story

Generational traumas/curses in the age of social media

 

[panopticon]

Hmmm...I just watched this YouTube video kinda sorta about this topic.


I think with most black men and women have kinda been pitted against each.

Society tells black women they are strong and independent... what do you need a man for? Black men see this and go so she says that she doesn't need me so why even bother trying to help.

People are trying to make black women seem more masculine and black men the latter when they want to step up and help.



I believe the ass hats on the coli call it simping. I call it treating a lady with respect. As long as she is giving it... I don't see the problem in helping.


Marriage is about give and take and most people wanna take and never give. Being open , vulnerable, accepting, loving, etc etc gets you a spouse... Not singing lil webbie. Women don't wanna be submissive. Being submissive doesn't mean you have to be a slave... But letting a man direct the path his family should go provided that it is the right path.

Men should allow his girl/wife to have a voice as well. Don't just say I'm the man and I know what is right. You'll just be pushing her away and to that I can do bad all by myself mentality.

As soon as black men and women realize they should be uplifting and not tearing down.... You'll see more black love out here winning.

 

[panopticon]

“cooking is overrated in 2019”

I love this site

 

[Matt504]

News flash: Most of you grandma's wasn't shyt & most of your mommas weren't either.

Women haven't changed. Society has. I wish we would stop glorifying the generation before before cause both men and women have mostly never been up to standard. People just didn't talk about it. Or stayed together for financial reasoning.

How you granddaddy had a wife and a whole family across town but this generation take the cake?
How you and your brother/sister got different daddies but these women today just invented slinging p*ssy?

I bet if some of ya'll went back to your home town and ask the ole head about your grandma back in the day they probably have a story

Generational traumas/curses in the age of social media

No one's ever interested in having a genuine conversation about this topic that's why most of the historical analysis is viewed through rose colored glasses, where the only women deserving of praise are likened to a lost race.

 

[Elle Driver]

You think otherwise, sis? Especially in the context of black brehs being attacked especially?

Black men yeah but not all men.

 

[futureDevelopment]

You see, this the shyt that nikkas have to put up with.

When the fukk has cooking been overrated

Y'all nikkas must be fat. I eat for healthy sustenance most days, punctuated with restaurant food or fast food.

I would do the same if I was cohabitating. Microwave food tastes just as good as most bytches can cook (if done right), so I'm not all that impressed by cooking.

Maybe it's the "being served" part you guys are clamoring for? The rest of it is overrated, especially if you can afford to eat out now and then.

Plus there are only so many hours in the day, so I could never understand taking an hour to cook something that will take 10 minutes to eat, and then half an hour for clean-up ... so cooking wouldn't be high on my list of priorities when choosing a "wife".

I'd far rather have the bytch who exercises with me than one who will cook for me on the regular. Since I prefer relatively healthy meals generally, we can cook (microwave) for each other, matter of fact.

Spoiler: One of my microwave recipes -- you'll thank me later...

Not to go too off-topic, but here's a microwave recipe of mine. Try it and tell me it's not the bomb.

Tyson pulled chicken breast + honey roasted peanuts + birdseye chicken flavored rice (which is a little salty) + vegetables with rice (which is unseasoned, so it mitigates the saltiness of the chicken-flavored rice).

All the ingredients are precooked, so all you need is a microwave. Dump enough in a bowl for your meal and microwave for about 2 minutes. Stir, then another 2 minutes.

That shyt is delicious, especially when you're hungry. Takes 5 minutes to prepare.

Beats that high-fat, high salt, greasy shyt you guys are eating every day, giving you high blood pressure and high cholesterol and diabetes running rampant in the community, with no time left over for exercise or your side hustle.

 

[panopticon]

You just said something here...

A few years ago, it was this broad I was kinda liking just a little bit. We were talking one day and I was saying how she was having her chit together. She said "I don't wanna struggle..."

I can understand that, nobody wants to struggle...but as an American Black Nicca, my life is struggle. So I didn't pursue anything with her on that level.

We're still cool to this day...FF to now, she's getting closer to 30, she done got a li'l chunky, and she still ain't got no man. Just a couple days ago, she was asking my opinion on things perpendicular to this thread. To quote Ice Cube, "she worried sick, but I'm chillin'...she coulda rolled with this villain (lol)".

Point is, like you saying people are looking for marriage to be a different thing than what it is.

Posted this in a different thread, similar topic though

Its tough out here for everybody.

Each sex is trying to hold the other responsible for failures whose root cause isn't under their control. We're dealing with the socioeconomic fallout of hundreds of years of discrimination and oppression - and yet at the same time, are expecting our counterparts (male or female) to behave and achieve as though none of that ever happened.

This abysmal dating culture (which seems to make everyone equally miserable) is downstream from our socioeconomic situation. Fix that, and the culture will improve on its own.

 

[Chapter_BLK]

This is an odd place to draw the line

"The rise of women as providers and decision-makers in the household has turned some men off married life."

Not really. I'm just examining this claim in particular. I'd imagine where the husband makes substantially more, the feeling of the role of being provider wouldn't be so challenged.

And as far as the other comment you made, I wasn't assuming that divorced males or those who had kids were excluded, only that the findings may not entirely or even largely reflect that of men who had the experience of being in that kind of scenario and decided it wasn't worth it.

 

[PL368Z]

Obvious reactionary propaganda is obvious.

The war on men is on the same level as the war on Christianity or white genocide, conspiracy theories made up by lames with a persecution complex.

 

[Taadow]

News flash: Most of you grandma's wasn't shyt & most of your mommas weren't either.

Women haven't changed. Society has. I wish we would stop glorifying the generation before before cause both men and women have mostly never been up to standard. People just didn't talk about it. Or stayed together for financial reasoning.

How you granddaddy had a wife and a whole family across town but this generation take the cake?
How you and your brother/sister got different daddies but these women today just invented slinging p*ssy?

I bet if some of ya'll went back to your home town and ask the ole head about your grandma back in the day they probably have a story

Generational traumas/curses in the age of social media

Even though you just projected because everybody's grandfolks wasn't the same (sorry about yours)...

You just pointed out the difference...when people then did fucced up chit, they didn't talk about it - and for the most part, neither did others. There was (*gasp*) "code".

 

[Kex]

Even though you just projected because everybody's grandfolks wasn't the same (sorry about yours)...

You just pointed out the difference...when people then did fucced up chit, they didn't talk about it - and for the most part, neither did others. There was (*gasp*) "code".

Please don't be a sassy man and act like the generation of elders before didn't do the stuff i mentioned.

Like someone just said before we cant never have a genuine conversation about this.

Not talking about stuff doesn't make it *GASP* any less fukked up. What's the code? Hide your dirt until it manifest into your offspring?