Would You Seriously Date and/or Marry A "Pick Me?"

[xoxodede]

I wonder if black feminists get angry and dissapointed at the fact that a man is 100x more likely to choose the "pick me" over them.

Maybe - but I guess the "feminist" would have to see and think he is worthy of being chosen by.

 

[Fandroid]

Maybe - but I guess the "feminist" would have to see and think he is worthy of being chosen by.

"worthy of being chosen"


Beggars can't be choosers.

I guarantee all men are more okay with a pick me than a shea butter feminist.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

I am

eta: I saw I put "BW" - meant "BM"

Thanks

This explains a lot actually

 

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I wonder if black feminists get angry and dissapointed at the fact that a man is 100x more likely to choose the "pick me" over them.

See you need to stop telling this lie. This is what makes the pick mes and the male panderers crazy.

I've seen it happen time and time again. Ur promoting this myth that agreeability = genuine attraction.

Meanwhile there are tons of chicks who will agree with any idiocy that comes out of a dudes mouth. There are simps who will worship the ground a woman walks on.
And they'll still be lonely as hell getting passed up for others who ain't trying half as hard as they do.

Why? Because agreeing with you has nothing to do with what ur dikk and what a woman's vagina desires.

People not being honest in this thread. Ya'll breeding psychos. LMAO!

 

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Just like men will tell other men that simping won't get u p*ssy. It's the same dynamic here. But nobody is going to admit to it b/c they like hearing what they wanna hear.

Ya'll gon have some legitimate crazy bytches running around in the streets on some "B-b-but I DID EVERYTHING RIGHT AND THATS WHAT HE CUFFS?!"

See it EVERYDAY.


Edit: I love life sometimes. Irony gets me every time.

 

[Fandroid]

See you need to stop telling this lie. This is what makes the pick mes and the male panderers crazy.

I've seen it happen time and time again. Ur promoting this myth that agreeability = genuine attraction.

Meanwhile there are tons of chicks who will agree with any idiocy that comes out of a dudes mouth. There are simps who will worship the ground a woman walks on.
And they'll still be lonely as hell getting passed up for others who ain't trying half as hard as they do.

Why? Because agreeing with you has nothing to do with what ur dikk and what a woman's vagina desires.

People not being honest in this thread. Ya'll breeding psychos. LMAO!

I've never heard of a dude being turned off by a female catering and pandering to them. That's actually been a standard gender role since the advent of western marriage.

 

[xoxodede]

This explains a lot actually

 

[Biscayne]

I notice it's only applied to Black women in regards to Black men. It's never applied to swirlers

BINGO!!!!!!!

Black women who date out and actually want to find a White man are actually encouraged to be "Pick Me's" by other Black Women in order to secure that White man of their desire. I saw a Christelyn Karazin vid(the lady who invented the term "swirling") when she talked about how some Black Women want certain White men, but aren't willing to fix themselves to get that man. She talked about this one sista who emailed her about wanting an athletic musclebound White Man, and Christelyn was like "Yeahh, but do you see yourelf? You're a little overweight. This dude dedicates his life to fitness and The Gym, and you don't".

Even though Christelyn was right in theory, she would never tell a BW who was overweight to lose weight in order to get a BM with an athletic physique. She'd be labeled a "Pick Me" if she did so. She'd would tell BW who wanted a BM in that same scenario, to date out and find men regardless of race, that appreciates her instead of changing herself for a BM who can't see her inner beauty.

 

[Indiglow Meta (R$G)]

Seems disingenuous to define pick mes as 'typically just cute' or 'typically overweight' ...when there's no evidence anywhere to support the notion that non-pick mes are any more attractive or any more fit. So I strongly disagree with anyone making level of attractiveness apart of the definition. I think that attempt speaks volumes about the OPs bias.

To answer the question in the opening post, nobody wants a mate who goes too much in either direction, nobody likes extremes. Nobody wants a woman without a backbone or her own opinions, that's boring. But on a spectrum, it's better to be submissive than combative. It's true that if you're more physically attractive, you can afford to be more combative...but as a general rule, men want women to fall in line, not jump to the front.

We can use Johnetta Elzie for the "non pick me/septum/blm" rep.
She was the face of the movement before Hoe Culture Refugees from Instagram found an untapped resource. A costume change, WOKE™ instead of kush-n-wisdom quotes under the same pics. An aesthetic rebrand.

 

[FeloniousMonk]

So, I really wanna know - is a woman like the one in the video really attractive to you?

No.

 

[Chill]

no

 

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I've never heard of a dude being turned off by a female catering and pandering to them. That's actually been a standard gender role since the advent of western marriage.

Men love bad chicks, crazy p*ssy, all of that. They like trying to tame these chicks. Dudes will give lip service to pick mes but the majority of dudes who married or cuffed literally got drug through an emotional gauntlet by some chick either in that relationship or in a previous one. It's just a part of life. U live and u learn. I also think that's why divorce rates are so high these days. People mistaking the "excitement" factor for what makes a good stable relationship.

Trying to cuff "free-spirit" p*ssy. Turning hoes into housewives. Lmao! You can praise and agree with pick mes all day long but ur dikk say something completely different.

Or maybe u one of those unicorn reasonable dudes who seeks simplicity and peace in the tumultuous early years of his life, instead of appreciating good chicks when he 80, got worms, and got reamed by several chicks economically after divorces and baby traps.

Stay safe bro. bytches be crazy outchea these days and crazy nikkas love em.

 

[Biscayne]

See you need to stop telling this lie. This is what makes the pick mes and the male panderers crazy.

I've seen it happen time and time again. Ur promoting this myth that agreeability = genuine attraction.

Meanwhile there are tons of chicks who will agree with any idiocy that comes out of a dudes mouth. There are simps who will worship the ground a woman walks on.
And they'll still be lonely as hell getting passed up for others who ain't trying half as hard as they do.

Why? Because agreeing with you has nothing to do with what ur dikk and what a woman's vagina desires.

People not being honest in this thread. Ya'll breeding psychos. LMAO!

Just like men will tell other men that simping won't get u p*ssy. It's the same dynamic here. But nobody is going to admit to it b/c they like hearing what they wanna hear.

Ya'll gon have some legitimate crazy bytches running around in the streets on some "B-b-but I DID EVERYTHING RIGHT AND THATS WHAT HE CUFFS?!"

See it EVERYDAY.


Edit: I love life sometimes. Irony gets me every time.

But the definition of a "Pick Me" isn't even that of a woman who agrees with EVERYTHING a man says. The term comes from Twitter feminists who would sooner label a woman who thinks "Not all Black Men are trash" as a "Pick Me" than a Coli dude would label a dude who thinks "Not all women aren't good for nothing golddiggers" a simp or Male Feminists. You'd be labeled a "Pick Me" by some of the women who use the term on Twitter everyday.

 

[delta]

So, let me first visually show an example of a classic "Pick Me:"



- typically overweight
- typically just cute
- typically low standards and lack of self-love/esteem.

The Coli's Definition of a "Pick Me:" A Black woman or woman who takes up or supports Black men.

The Real Definition or MY Definition of a "Pick Me:"
- a black woman or woman who wants a man so bad ; or is invested in keeping her man from stepping out - due to her "basic" homely status. A chosen "Pick Me" lives in fear that her man/husband and relationship can be taken away at any time - more so than the average woman.

- a trained mouthpiece for repeating the same ish she hears some Black men say about Black women.

- no matter what "A Pick Me" will side with a man even when other Black men don't agree with them. Her goal is male acknowledgment/validation, a compliment, her beloved "it's still good Black women out here" label --- and the BIG payoff -- that DM/Message leading to that late night call.

"A Pick Me" go-to tactic is called:

The Sleuthing Thirst Trap: she investigates the Black man, takes on/adapts his views on "females" and" "bytches" then she waits for her turn or hopes a BM will see "she's a great catch." Usually, a Black men likes her comments + viewpoints so he responds/reaches out -- she smiles ... then she makes her move.

Note: "A Pick Me" success rate is interestingly really low - because men are visual - so her personality may be what some men would like.... cause they feel like they are with their homie -- but when they see pictures or her in-person -- a friendship is the only thing entered into -- or a "inside only" Friends with Benefits situationship. She usually agrees - but she wants more - so the "Pick Me" is back on the prowl.​

Lastly, my view on dating: I date a lot. Every relationship I have even been in - I go/went through the dating phase -- 5-8 + dates - doing all types of stuff (events/concerts, cooking classes, working out together, museums, biking, parties, dinner, etc) - free and paid. I usually prefer the man to choose the date. I like surprises. They usually are creative dates where we get to know each other well. I only date those who enjoy and understand why dating and going out on date(s) are a mandatory step in getting to know someone who you are interested in.

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So, I really wanna know - is a woman like the one in the video really attractive to you? Meaning her personality and her views? Do you think it's ok for a woman to act like that - using "nikka" and "bytch" every other word? Though a lot of you seem to like and take up for "Pick Me's" - would you really be with one?

Be nice please and leave my reps alone

that bytch aint just cute or just overweight


you would probably fukk precious

 

[xoxodede]

that bytch aint just cute or just overweight


you would probably fukk precious

I'm a woman though...