She isnt wrong
However women have a penchant for picking men who make them crazy
We're taught to help fix, change and support men so doing so makes us feel fulfilled.
However, we arent taught as much to invest in ourselves so that we can attract a man who has his shyt together.
When you feel unfulfilled and youre with a someone who is established, then you will feel insecure and unworthy. Plus if you're taught to be a helpmate to someone who doesnt need help then you feel like you dont have a place. So you go back to the vices that fulfill your needs.
That goes for men too who are taught that they need to support and protect women. Then they date women who put themselves in dangerous or irresponsible situations.
It's why the dating field is so fukked up because we have a society of unhealthy codependent/narcissistic relationships.
We need to teach people to fulfill their own needs. This way when you meet someone who also is meeting their own needs, everyone feels fulfilled and no one feels drained or like a burden and you can have a healthy balanced relationship.
That is the solid foundation needed for strong bonds, relationships and communities.