Why is it so hard for some Dudes to get laid

[Scott Larock]

I've never had any confidence when it came to women. My self-esteem has been shot since elementary school. I got rejected left and right in all the ways possible. I have been given rejection hotline numbers, had brehs try to hook me up but the girl didn't find me attractive and so on. shyt hit me hard when I went to stone mountain park with my then friends and they all brought along a chick while I was the odd man out. These dudes tried to lecture me on it one night but I told them to fukk off. I've been out in the Bay for 5 years and its the same shyt. I don't have any friends still so I just do shyt solo. Doesn't help that I'm 5'6", got an barely average dikk, no car/license, and working a dead end job. I'm nearly 26 so it feels like its time to give up. I've gave up online dating shyt back in October after failing over and over again through the years.

That's really nothing I've been through worse but I wont say, I will say I wish I was 26 though, much older than you.

I'd invest the free time you have in a gym membership and a Spotify subscription. If you healthy consider a blunt every now and then and just mellow out. Pick up tarriq nasheed old pimp books to have something to read on the treadmill at the gym.

Gotta get that mind right first.

I work a dead end job and I'm way past 26, what
you wrote Imo is quite timid to me.

As for a car just do security and rank up the overtime, get a weekend gig too. You I a good spot to me bro.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

No homo but some dudes are going fishing with the wrong rods. Just need to change up that rod.

So change up the women?

 

[old_timer]

@Colicat i'm thinking there might be a good book here..
but aight so i completed a review of every post in "most daps"
some people listed multiple reasons so i tried to pick out 1-2 main points from each post
i excluded humor, personal attacks, rants about Dubai, cryptic answers, off-topic, braggadocio, etc.
(i also discarded the theory i posted..haha)
here are the remaining answers given by 79 posts in "most daps"
(i apologize if i mis-characterized anyone's answer..)

Why is it so hard for some Dudes to get laid??

1. Accept being sexless – maybe it just wasn't meant to be? (121)
2. Acting excessively needy/desperate (47, 35, 163)
3. Approaching wrong type of women for casual encounters (7)
4. Dealing with mental health issues such as depression (84)
5. Discouraged by seeing other men easily succeed while they struggle (11, 153, 53)
6. Either you have the ability to easily connect with women or you don't (105)
7. Evolution/biology/nature – not every man is intended to mate (158, 97, 159)
8. Excessive competition, long-shot odds (83)
9. Excessive thirst from some guys makes it harder on other guys (9)
10. Failure is part of finding your true lane (185, 184)
11. Geographical limitations/restrictions (52)
12. Insufficient experience and knowledge (26, 27)
13. Lack of charisma (28)
14. Lack of confidence (27, 14, 28, 148)
15. Lack of self-love (26)
16. Men feel like failures, are broke, or have nothing else to offer (160, 232, 154)
17. Men isolate themselves or become reclusive (25, 123, 118)
18. Men self-sabotage by lack of effort because they fear rejection (25, 23, 120, 83, 35)
19. Men should wait until they are successful before approaching women (45)
20. Need to pursue other goals in life and don't want the distraction (80)
21. Poor conversation skills (147)
22. Porn and internet-induced misconceptions (15)
23. Reach exceeds their grasp and they have unrealistic expectations (2, 15, 190, 184, 62, 57)
24. Socializing is an undue burden (123, 129)
25. Wanting to avoid the excessive headaches and/or wasted effort (41, 134)
26. Women have excessive expectations (32, 153, 81)

 

[Ronnie Lott]

shyt it ain't sad to me, im just living my life.

I'm just sayin breh, I know nikkaz that look like Biggie and still bag hoes left and right

 

[Stone]

Honestly I'm at the age (23) where I'm a little too old to be inexperienced. So I imagine any encounter would be left with me getting some combination of and .

That's the biggest thing and having to potentially explain why I've never gotten that far

I've already pulled a Pete Carroll before so that's not something I want to do either.

 

[RiffRaff]

A lot of my nikkas told me they just got tired of the flakiness. Gone are the days you press a chick until she eventually falls for you and y'all live happily ever after, nikkas ain't jumping through hula hoops, when xvideos a mouse click away

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

I'm just sayin breh, I know nikkaz that look like Biggie and still bag hoes left and right

yea but other factors come into play though.
I ain't got nothing to bring to the table, plus the physical side is all flawed.

 

[aboss4real24]

alot of down south nikkas r having problems with gurls



Ya swag is off down there

 

[Wild self]

alot of down south nikkas r having problems with gurls



Ya swag is off down there

It's a generational thing. A lot of 90s babies everywhere are struggling socially with women. NYC has them harassment laws for men and down south has an abundance of women that are singlem

 

[King Poetic]

For a lot black man in a America I can understand..

If u a white man u shouldn't have a problem at all....the world is yours...

 

[Kenny West]

Art barr kept it the trillest

 

[Mandarin Duck]

For a lot black man in a America I can understand..

If u a white man u shouldn't have a problem at all....the world is yours...

This just aint true.
Black men are eating very well.

 

[old_timer]

So is low conscientiousness is easygoing and low agreeableness is defined as analytical/detached?

low C would also be unreliable, undisciplined, spontaneous, disrespectful, criminal tendencies
low A would also be vain, competitive, skeptical, distrustful, machiavellian

https://www.123test.com/personality-test/

that's a free "unofficial" test for big 5
i just did it now
my scores were very close to a full test i took a few years ago

it is only a theory that i was sharing..human nature is very complex

 

[Draje]

I could probably have a lot of 4s and 5s who would hold me down and treat me right but I want too shelf p*ssy but I'm too lacking in confidence to get it.

I'm too ugly for the girls i want.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

I was sitting here going through this thread http://www.thecoli.com/threads/no-p-ssy-can-lead-to-depression.292516/page-16 and started to wonder.Why is it so hard for certain people to get laid? I know looks and money might play a part but that's not always the case. what's yall opinion on this

looks and no game

i mean some dudes have NO clue... you talk to women and ask them what's some horrible/funny shyt dudes have tried... you'd be like after the 3rd story... now imagine every girl probably has about 20 stories... and another 100 she can't even remember...


being Hitch isn't as easy as the movies make it... "just walk up looking like will smith in a 5k suit and say all the right things" yea SOUNDS easy


i remember in 7th grade talking to this OG nikka....


him: yo you know what the best line is to get a woman

me: what


him: walk up, look them right in the eyes and say "daaaaaaaaaaamn boo you got the same eyes as my ex girlfriend"


me: that sounds fukking stupid





now imagine that being one the "best", worst lines i've ever heard... shyt my boy told me he tells every girl he has a wifey... cause "women want you more when you with someone"


nikka you know how many bytches you just got cut off from, telling each of them you basically a cheating ass nikka... when you don't even have to cause you single


then he turn around and be the hater every night.... hollering at 300 girls to get 2 numbers, while i focus in on one to take home for the night