I think both sides are too damn sensitive. The females don't wanna be held accountable for anything (never wrong), and the men are prone to being butt hurt too much.
However, i've come to the conclusion that a big catalyst for this is the lack of jobs. It used to be back in the 60's and 70's that there were companies who had factories in neighborhoods with a lot of black people. You could work at these factories without a degree and make a decent living.Then these companies pulled those factories out because they could have them overseas for much cheaper. So what's left? Fast food jobs, that's what's left. Even the grocery stores pulled out, so you only have liquor stores left. Remember seeing that old abandoned grocery store in the hood? So then the white flight occured, white people started leaving while the blacks stayed as the cities as a whole tanked.
So when you have a bunch of poor, uneducated people, those ignorant teenagers are going to be having unprotected sex and bringing kids into the world they aren't prepared/ready for. The boys can't handle that responsibility, so they dip out. So these ignorant ass girls are left to raise these kids, and maybe they have help from the grandparents if they're lucky. Basically it's a cycle and these kids usually don't stand a chance. Sometimes there's a certain situation, and a bright kid who can overcome it all. Avoid all the negative influence, the gang banging, drugs, pregnancies etc. and end up getting a scholarship to college, but it's rare.
Kids didn't learn about positive black role models in school,, they're only taught about all the "great white men" of the past. George Washington, Christopher columbus, Ben Franklin, Abe Lincoln etc. etc. You may hear about MLK and MAYBE Malcom X if you're lucky. Black kids can't relate to hearing about all these white men, they need to hear about all the blacks who have succeded in the midst of all the recial tensions and segregations. I'm talking about all these black inventors who are responsible for a lot of shyt we use today, but have basically been forgotten. They didn't even teach me about them in black schools, my own mother had to educate me about them. So these black kids look to the only role models they see and are aware of, athletes and rappers. I don't need to tell you how it goes from there.
nikka everybody knows men are supposed to be the ones who build the community
Because they have a large role in the problem also and if me saying that makes me a bytch then so be it
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Let me post negative "scientific" studies to say anything about BM ya'll would freak out
