So, I'm asking to get roasted because I'm bring up fair points on this issue?
What's The "POINT" Of Having A Kid If You AREN'T Married? (I DON'T Get It)
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Dameon Farrow
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They're blessings. At least that's what they tell folks on Facebook. I had to shake my head at a female I knew on my timeline who was crying about her 3 baby daddies and none of them help her. I knew she had kids but didn't know it was by 3 different dudes. I said to myself I would never admit that on Facebook. But then I looked at the comments and understood why. She got sympathy. Lots of calls for prayer.
But we can't pray for you to keep your legs closed?
But we can't pray for you to keep your legs closed?
I agree, a kid is an enjoyment when you can raise them in a productive household. You (general term) screwing around for fun will make the child's life harder. Especially, if there is NO father figure in the home.They're blessings. At least that's what they tell folks on Facebook. I had to shake my head at a female I knew on my timeline who was crying about her 3 baby daddies and none of them help her. I knew she had kids but didn't know it was by 3 different dudes. I said to myself I would never admit that on Facebook. But then I looked at the comments and understood why. She got sympathy. Lots of calls for prayer.
the bossman
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yea really. If it wasn't for the fact that I want to have kids and a family one day I would not be interested in marriage.
people always got all these random exceptions here and there. at the end of the day the numbers don't lie. majority of the time kids born into a situation with married parents typically fare better in having a chance at a quality life than those born to unwed parents
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that contract doesn't guarantee a strong family unit*
Commitment is love and maturing together.
unfortunately for your point, shyt ain't that simple. most people period ain't really committed to shyt til after reality hits. After that abortion window passes, it's crunch time, leaving people to play catchup for the rest of that child's life. But let me switch up real quick
That other thread of yours I posted in, I was talking to you about mindstate which you passed right over.
So let me ask you this, and keep in mind most people are in reactive mode instead of proactive, what do you suggest to get them to take a more proactive approach
My proactive approach is DON'T have sex unprotected and until you are committed to that person.
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you could've had this convo without bringing up marriage ¿
you think commitment love and maturity are guaranteed by marriage/the guise of monogamy¿
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OK, let's go a bit further.
What about those people with impulse control issues?
What about people with personality\emotional issues?...
...People who grew up in communities where o.o.w. kids are normal and stable families are rare.
What do you say or how do you go about normalizing that?
Let me pick your brain for a minute
Not a guarantee, but a statistical strength.
Kids from two-parent households grow up more stable, achieve higher education, lower levels of drug abuse and alcoholism, lesser chance of imprisonment, higher net-worths, etc.
They have therapy for those who have control/personality issues, so you can work on them.
It varies why folks have kids out of wedlock.
Most pregnancies are unplanned. Some women (or men) wanna trap their partners. Some folks deal with pressure from parents and other family members to reproduce. Some have kids because their friends and family have them...they don't wanna be left out. Some have kids because they don't wanna have kids when they are too
because they feel having kids when you are old and flabby is too late.
I made this point before, when you black and 30+ and don't have kids...people will wonder whats wrong with you. They may think you undesirable, cant get a girl/man, gay/lesbian, selfish career person, weird, infertile, etc.
But I agree with OP...its best to raise kids with a family structure and a mom AND a dad. No matter if you have boys or girls.
Most pregnancies are unplanned. Some women (or men) wanna trap their partners. Some folks deal with pressure from parents and other family members to reproduce. Some have kids because their friends and family have them...they don't wanna be left out. Some have kids because they don't wanna have kids when they are too
because they feel having kids when you are old and flabby is too late.I made this point before, when you black and 30+ and don't have kids...people will wonder whats wrong with you. They may think you undesirable, cant get a girl/man, gay/lesbian, selfish career person, weird, infertile, etc.
But I agree with OP...its best to raise kids with a family structure and a mom AND a dad. No matter if you have boys or girls.
AquaCityBoy
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How do I cape for hoes?Youfor hoes, but at the same time, you make fun of virgins.
How does that make sense?
