What's The "POINT" Of Having A Kid If You AREN'T Married? (I DON'T Get It)

[NoCones]

They have therapy for those who have control/personality issues, so you can work on them.

OK
Scenario: a teenager from a low income single parent home(no dad) was raped a few years before. She is prone to acting out and possibly has a personality disorder buts it's not diagnosed. Her friends tend to be thottish and her neighborhood has few 2 parent homes Due to some peer pressure and not wanting to feel left out she had sex a few times and got pregnant. But she never learned how to really build a relationship because of her environment.
How would you expose her to a real environment to foster the need for a stable home?

* Bear with me. I'm going somewhere with this

 

[SirReginald]

OK
Scenario: a teenager from a low income single parent home(no dad) was raped a few years before. She is prone to acting out and possibly has a personality disorder buts it's not diagnosed. Her friends tend to be thottish and her neighborhood has few 2 parent homes Due to some peer pressure and not wanting to feel left out she had sex a few times and got pregnant. But she never learned how to really build a relationship because of her environment.
How would you expose her to a real environment to foster the need for a stable home?

* Bear with me. I'm going somewhere with this

First, the girl should join an outreach program and report the guy who raped her (Yes, it may be hard saying something, but it has to be done). Also, there's therapy because she has a lot of issues that needs to be worked out.

 

[SirReginald]

BUMP

 

[Wild self]

How do I cape for hoes?

I ain't gonna save another man, but you Crack on virgins, but you blindly defend women and irrational behaviors.

But back to the thread. People who defend kids being born, or prefer, OOW while not growing up in a two parent household can't see the dysfunction, while wanting people from perfectly fine families to engage in the same behaviors as them. Hate to say it, but kids being born to unwed parents is a cancer.

 

[NoCones]

OK, my point is this...

My proactive approach is DON'T have sex unprotected and until you are committed to that person.

this answer doesn't take into account all the different personal situations\societal pressures that go into building someone's frame of mind. It's cold, and over simplistic

First, the girl should join an outreach program and report the guy who raped her (Yes, it may be hard saying something, but it has to be done). Also, there's therapy because she has a lot of issues that needs to be worked out.

this answer is more in the lane of someone who takes into account all the little nuances that go on in life and ACTUALLY wants people to do better. You smarter than that first post, breh.

Do better

 

[SirReginald]

OK, my point is this...
this answer doesn't take into account all the different personal situations\societal pressures that go into building someone's frame of mind. It's cold, and over simplistic

this answer is more in the lane of someone who takes into account all the little nuances that go on in life and ACTUALLY wants people to do better. You smarter than that first post, breh.

Do better

You still don't get my point of the OP right?

 

[AquaCityBoy]

I ain't gonna save another man, but you Crack on virgins, but you blindly defend women and irrational behavio

You have no evidence of me doing that, but I'll let you cook.

 

[SirReginald]

Good discussion.

 

[Black_Panther_JS]

You know you can sign a prenuptial right?

yeah but you still gotta agree on terms
then the girl gonna be crying about it too

 

[SirReginald]

yeah but you still gotta agree on terms
then the girl gonna be crying about it too

Yeah, but if you explain to her that protects both of them I'm sure she'll be fine with it.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

What's the point of anything? We're all gonna die anyway.

 

[NoCones]

Call me old-fashioned, but what's the point

Let's touch on the issue, you ARE bringing a child into this world WITHOUT a family structure. Now, I'm talking about ALL races/ethnic groups in general What's the plan for when the child comes? How will he/or she have a good foundation/family structure? You do need a village to raise a child In today's world (USA Wise) you don't really have that anymore
Already gave you my examples on this. Now me personally, born into a 2 parent married family. But pops left when I was 6 cuz he cheated. We had the structure on paper but it was no guarantee. That village shyt is still active in the form of grandparents, aunts, neighbors all married legally. So I don't know where you getting that from.
Also, what's the point of having unprotected sex? It's reckless and you are at RISK of bringing a child into this world.
I hope you hitting up your neighborhood schools spitting this gospel instead of the coli cuz teenagers doin this shyt ain't exactly hitting up their parents for birth control at 13, 14(when I started fukkin). My momma didn't hand me condoms til I was 16 a year after my one and only pregnancy scare which she still don't know about . Grown ass men and women that's between them. Long as they got that understanding, I'm good fukk a license.
I've made a pledge to myself to NOT have a child until I'm married My point, people should atleast settle down or marry before bringing a kid into this world
Lmao
Kids NEED a strong family structure. Read my first post
Those types of traditional values are needed in some way. I say this as a centre-leftist

P.S. I say this as a person who was brought up with BOTH parents. They were married for 23 years at that point. Now, they have been together for 40 something years.

Ok congrats

You still don't get my point of the OP right?

Do you see mine?
Broad strokes, fam, broad strokes

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Some people have babies without being married

Doesn't mean there's no family structure. I've seen people have a baby, not get married but stay together. It happens.

 

[SirReginald]

Ok congrats
Do you see mine?
Broad strokes, fam, broad strokes

Some people don't have what you and I have though. Also, there's stats to back this up breh.

 

[knickscrusaderm]

Not a guarantee, but a statistical strength.
Kids from two-parent households grow up more stable, achieve higher education, lower levels of drug abuse and alcoholism, lesser chance of imprisonment, higher net-worths, etc.

Isn't it still a two parent household if both parents are committed to each other WITHOUT marriage? .