but i'm nice naturally
am i fukked?
It's not really the generosity factor more than it is about having certain standards and principles that you will uphold no matter what. It's more about not going for certain things and maintaining an aura of respectability around yourself. Most of these 'nice guys' do anything a female wants whenever she wants and let her act any way around them and worst of all, they stay concerned with what she thinks way too much.
What rules do you have that a female must follow if she is to deal with you? What things will you say no to? If she says, "Can I chill with my male friend this weekend? He wants to invite me to a party," what will you say? The nice guy will say something along the lines of, "Sure, I trust you baby. Go ahead and have fun." Why? Because his whole mentality is around PLEASING a woman, therefore making him her inferior. A real man will be like, "Listen, don't ask me something like that again. If you're going to deal with me, it's going to be me and you... not me, you and the male homies. If you can't respect that, we should save ourselves some time and go our separate ways because it's not going to work out."
Don't worry about how your actions just directly affect a woman's emotions. Your first goal is to maintain respect way before it is about pleasing. Realize that you are not here to cater to her emotional state. That's the problem with nice guys. They don't have a personality of their own. They sort of morph into whatever they imagine the girl they are currently in the presence of wants. They turn into butlers and do whatever it takes to 'please' her. That is following, not leading. Realize that any one woman is not that important. What what she has between her legs, billions of other beings on this planet have. What makes her important is her actual personality and morals and how she deals with you and how you connect with her.
Another key is recognizing that a woman fits into YOUR program. You don't fit into hers. That's why I say have higher priorities than a woman. Have things that you are into and enjoy doing on a regular basis. These should be activities that you put ahead of rushing out to hang out with her. People like to play these phone games to give the illusion they are busy, and it works for a little while... but as with all tricks, tactics and routines, it falls apart. GENUINELY make yourself busy. You might tell your woman, "I'm about to be out here hunting, so I won't be back until 9 tonight." She will sit there and think about you, wondering what you're doing. The 'nice guy' will sit at home wondering what she is doing and waiting up on her. In other words, playing the role of a woman. Women want to wait up on a man, not the other way around. Don't be no koala bear and stay all on a woman's back.
So with that said, your life should be enjoyable way before you start dealing with a woman. Maybe you like hunting, working out, relaxing at a lounge, bowling, playing the guitar, writing or whatever. Focus on enjoying your life FIRST. Focus on handling your priorities FIRST. When you do that, you are naturally LEADING. You end up being a way more interesting person in general because you have things you like to do and are able to expose her to a new world.
If you take a woman out, either she likes it or she doesn't. If she doesn't, don't try to rearrange things next time and please her. Find another woman that's into what you're into. A woman is supposed to follow up behind the man, not the other way around. A key realization most nice guys fail to make is that not every woman, especially a pretty woman, is for you. If you take her out somewhere and she doesn't like it and is whining and complaining, that's highly likely to be a female you don't want to be dealing with.
One of the key things women love is CONFIDENCE. You can't develop real confidence by being a woman appeaser. You can never read a woman's mind and know what she wants. She doesn't even know what she wants. Therefore, you are shooting in the dark and you cannot develop confidence on such instability. By doing your own thing and focusing on your OWN interests, you can be WAY more confident, because you actually know what you want. How that transfers into dealing with the woman is that you now maintain control. Instead of saying something like, "Baby, what movie would you like to see? And would you like to go to a dinner too? And what restaurant?" you can say, "Say baby, I'm going bowling tonight. Come on out with me... and after we gonna hit up the steakhouse after." Or you can flip it up, get her input, and yet still maintain control of the situation... "So after we go bowling, we gonna go out to eat. I want you to pick a restaurant that's a little different than our usual."
None of that involves not being nice, but what it does involve is not being a punk. Women don't like punks, followers and men that lack confidence. A leader maintains control without being controlling. That's what you have to do as a man. As much as this feminism nonsense has flooded society, talking about that 50/50 men and women are completely equal nonsense, women naturally gravitate towards men they look up to and can respect and feel safe around. If all of these women wanted complete equals, they'd go mess with other women.
Negroes got brainwashed with television, rnb, and just a host of other material that promoted sucker behavior. Then they get these expectations of the kind of guy they should be, which is this goofy, appeasing character, and they find out it doesn't work and get bitter. Disappointment is the gap between one's expectations and reality. You were brainwashed with an unrealistic image of what a man should be and you get disappointed when reality doesn't reward that false image of manhood. That's why I don't really watch television, nor do I listen to RnB music that much unless it's grooving. That slow, sappy, whiny RnB is a no-go with me.
THIS is why women usually go for 'thugs' over the 'nice guys.' The thugs embody many more of these characteristics than the 'nice guy'. They don't care about what a woman thinks and they go out and do their own thing. They can take control and demonstrate their strength. They can expose a woman to a whole new world she hasn't seen before. You too can do all these things and yet maintain your generosity. Stop letting these women change you around and LEAD and LIVE. Stop trying to please women and instead focus on finding the one who naturally finds pleasure with the way you live your life.
Anyway don't give these bytches any room to breathe and feel like they are amazing. No matter how beautiful a woman is, someone somewhere made her cry and made her feel worthless. Being evil is more rewarding than being good.
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