What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[OsO]

You can't live your life thinking your woman is gonna suck every dikk in he vicinity.

If she has a male friend from years chances are he is friendzoned.

Friendzoned after they explored a sexual relationship, sure.

 

[Scaaar]

-by the sounds of it, buddy is right to keep an eye on her male friends. you just tryna orbit around; looking for an opportunity to snake your way back into her life. it has nothing to do with not trusting her, it has to do with not trusting níggas like you

ol “you can’t have frweeendss” ass nígga

a orbiter tried that shít with me and I wrung his neck like I was done doing dishes

-her still picking up the line for you don’t mean shít. what woman doesn’t love attention ?

-she had a better option come around, accept it. but you over here begging and pleading prolly stalking IG stories.

you sound like buddy

He definitely dirty mackin trying to accuse her new dude of being manipulative. Those the type of dudes that get hands put on them especially if he already told you to stop talking to his woman. OP out here stalking new dude page and subbing him on Facebook lol

 

[Scaaar]

Well the other day, Friday morning she texted me asking if I called her which I obviously didn't so I took that as her showing that she still wants to talk to me.

Lol, nah I would never do anything crazy to myself, it ain't ever that serious it's just I value friendships and I feel like the way me and her vibed I'm just puzzled how she'd be willing to act like none of it mattered.

I believe she meant what she said because she's an honest upfront type of woman but y'know at the same time I feel she's trying to please this guy and his expectations and so I get a feeling that she's conflicted about the situation.


I've also thought about this too and maybe I need to say fuk it as some of you have suggested but my conscience is just, I don't know.

I see why the dealing with women thread has over 100k posts....you brehs are food out here dealing with women in this manner. Lol

 

[Scaaar]

I'm 29.

I guess we were affectionate in that at times during our conversations, we'd exchange heartfelt thoughts and feelings about each other, saying how much we care about each other, and she was the one to first express how special I am to her, and I returned the gesture.

One time, I mentioned after she told me she was getting her feet done, I told her she had pretty feet and explained what I'd do to them, y'know, I wasn't trying to be kinky or sexual intentionally but rather just playful banter, and she got all ecstatic, telling me that's what she wants to hear when I call her.

There's been other times like when she got all graphical on that phone where I didn't even inquire to know or bring up a conversation, she just randomly and voluntarily brings it up on the phone going on about how her p*ssy looks, how she keeps it, y'know even telling me she was playing with herself one late night when I texted her asking what she was doing.

What kind of woman would tell a man all that information if she wasn't trying to be affectionate?

Shyt, one time we met and went to the mall, and I was walking around the store with her carrying the outfits she was going to buy, and the cashier mistook me for being her man, saying I see men coming in here all the time with their women all the time; she never corrected the lady either.

There's been a lot of subtle affectionate gestures in our calls and texts, maybe I'm just thinking too hard. Some of the subtleties had to be picked up on my own but others, I wouldn't even notice.

So she's giving you all these hints. She literally put the ball in your hand and you didn't do anything?!? You just friend zoned yourself and wonder why she went and got another man?......smh

 

[Scaaar]

Nobody will ever tell me who I can be friends with. I have friendships almost as old as I am. I'm not throwing that away from someone who will be gone in a year or 2.

The level of control people try to inact on one another in the name of a "relationship" is wild.

You have a point. But OP's case they're not friends. It's a situationship that he failed to seal the deal on. It's only been 2 months and you see how he is acting he's using the friend term to hide how he truly feels about that lady. Hell no I wouldn't want him around my chic. But if she insists on talking to him I'd break up with her and let them have each other lol.

 

[Scaaar]

…fam if don’t keep it moving, let her and her man live, and go find another emotional support chick to have girl talk with

He going out sad over a chic he only knew 2 months....she got him wrapped around her finger and he didn't even hit yet. She's playing his emotions to her benefit and he thinks it's because they're friends?!!.....smh

 

[Diddly Drogba]

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You have a point. But OP's case they're not friends. It's a situationship that he failed to seal the deal on. It's only been 2 months and you see how he is acting he's using the friend term to hide how he truly feels about that lady. Hell no I wouldn't want him around my chic. But if she insists on talking to him I'd break up with her and let them have each other lol.

I was commenting on myself not the OP.

As far as his situation, they are not friends. They were dating (sorta) and some other guy won her attention.

I didn't comment on the situation because it had already been addressed. I don't feel the need to repeat what others have said if the opinion has been accurately and fully expressed.

If the terms of your relationship are romantic exclusivity then yeah I can see why the person continuing to date would be an issue.

However, this culture of throwing friendship and family away for romantic partners is why we have so many social problems in Western society.

The idea of exclusively or almost exclusively leaning on people who as basically strangers for social and emotional support is a horrible idea especially in a society where romantic relationships are center around using your partner to fillful your own inadequacies or ideals.

It doesn't last and now you have diminished or destroyed the relationships that are the ones that will actually sustain you.

No one will pick my relationships or friendships for me. But the idea of being in a romantic relationship as a whole is extremely unappealing to me.

 

[colicolicoli]

This thread just helped me move on from a similar situation.

Guy friend zoned me but wants to send me messages all day and all night about nothing.


I’m ghosting.

 

[Neuromancer]

He definitely dirty mackin trying to accuse her new dude of being manipulative. Those the type of dudes that get hands put on them especially if he already told you to stop talking to his woman. OP out here stalking new dude page and subbing him on Facebook lol

Sounds like the case.

 

[Neuromancer]

This thread just helped me move on from a similar situation.

Guy friend zoned me but wants to send me messages all day and all night about nothing.


I’m ghosting.

Good on you. Don't waste your time.

 

[Scaaar]

I was commenting on myself not the OP.

As far as his situation, they are not friends. They were dating (sorta) and some other guy won her attention.

I didn't comment on the situation because it had already been addressed. I don't feel the need to repeat what others have said if the opinion has been accurately and fully expressed.

If the terms of your relationship are romantic exclusivity then yeah I can see why the person continuing to date would be an issue.

However, this culture of throwing friendship and family away for romantic partners is why we have so many social problems in Western society.

The idea of exclusively or almost exclusively leaning on people who as basically strangers for social and emotional support is a horrible idea especially in a society where romantic relationships are center around using your partner to fillful your own inadequacies or ideals.

It doesn't last and now you have diminished or destroyed the relationships that are the ones that will actually sustain you.

No one will pick my relationships or friendships for me. But the idea of being in a romantic relationship as a whole is extremely unappealing to me.

I agree about keeping your social structure around you that you had before the relationship. You need family and friends to maintain your sense of self in a relationship since that is what attracted your partner to you anyway. But orbiters is where I draw the line. I don't want someone that you were romantically or sexually involved with around unless y'all had a kid and it's a co-parenting thing. But if you want to fight or argue to keep those type of orbiters around that's your choice. I just will choose not to entertain it as a serious relationship either.

 

[Mugenight]

It's not something I believe in based on personal experience.

 

[Hamsterdam921]

OP tried to snake oil salesman his way into some p*ssy and it didn’t go his way. You clearly had feelings for this girl and all that other shyt you talking is just word salad. She don’t want you move on brother

 

[BunchePark]

female friend?


You sounding real Carl Thomas my nikka

All that running to Facebook and blocking people is doing too much

Can't check no bytch with a typed out paragraph my nikka you gotta check them hoes live and direct