What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[Yaboysix]

Former scum Bag here...


I'm gonna ALWAYS wanna Fck if the Opportunity presents itself...

Ain't nobody just Cool with people they ain't attracted too...I don't Care if she the Fat homegirl...

You might see an IG post that make ya lil antennas go up..



And we ALL know how Nyggas are...I ain't even gonna speak on ya woman having a male friend while y'all in a relationship

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

I don’t date women with males friends… period… yeah it COULD be innocent but I’ve seen way too much in my adult life happen when it comes to this very topic so I’m not taking a chance….

if I find out she has multiple male friends, I instantly throwing her in the category of “not taking her serious, I’m just here to fukk and have some fun with her” no way I’m wifing her up… I’ve had one or two females friends in my life and guess what? I ended up fukking one of them and the other I was TRYING to fukk….

Women seem to also be very stupid when it comes to the dynamic of males friends in many cases… they swear up and down how a certain guy doesn’t “want” them in that way, and how they don’t look at the guy in that type of way either… when in reality that guy is 100% tryna fukk…. he either just hasn’t gotten the opportunity yet, or he is beating around the bush and doesn’t have the balls to just be upfront with what he wants, so he tries to play the “friend” role to try and get closer to her, hoping one day she’ll look up and suddenly be attracted to him. Either that or she’ll give him the puss when her boyfriend starts fukking up…

Regardless, it’s not a position I wanna be in as a chicks boyfriend…. shyt lowkey makes the boyfriend look like a sucker too… your woman splits time between you and a group of OTHER MEN?? yeah miss me with that.

 

[Yaboysix]

Former scum Bag here...


I'm gonna ALWAYS wanna Fck if the Opportunity presents itself...

Ain't nobody just Cool with people they ain't attracted too...I don't Care if she the Fat homegirl...

You might see an IG post that make ya lil antennas go up..



And we ALL know how Nyggas are...I ain't even gonna speak on ya woman having a male friend while y'all in a relationship

 

[Amo Husserl]

It's not that serious if nobody cheatin' on nobody.
Problem comes from the likelihood of cheating.
And that's based on a couple factors...
Like how long they known each other.
How they met and what their relationship is like.
And where the other person in the relationship fit in their friendship.

Woman can have guy friends if she ain't cheatin'.


Woman got guy friends who tried to smash different. They gotta go.

 

[Morose Polymath]

OP has "That Part" in his sig, of course he would go out like this

 

[The BasedFather]

Only going off the title, but women with guy friends have either fukked at some point or it’s some guy orbiting around waiting for his chance to smash. Don’t trust no chick talking about he’s a brother or they’ve known each other from HS or college

 

[Kasgoinjail]

I dont have male friends
I used to think it could stay platonic and I realised.they just being respectful

 

[OliviaTwist]

By your own admission you’ve only known her a few months and within those months you’ve tried to explore a romantic relationship. That’s not what I would define as a “good friend.” It would be a little different if this was a person you grew up with and maybe back in high school or college tried to date and realized yall would be better as friends. But I wouldn’t categorize a failed relationship from September as one of my good friends. Especially someone I’ve blocked before.

Do you have any male friends because I don’t understand why you would place so much value on a “friendship” that’s only been around for 2 months. And you also sound a little too hurt for this relationship to be as platonic as you claim. Just because it never got sexual doesn’t make it platonic. It’s the intention. If I was someone you were currently dating that right there would give me pause.

Plus from what you describe it sounds like you’re a placeholder and that’s not fair to you. If she wants to respect her relationship that’s cool but don’t let her back and use you as a back up emotional support animal if/when it goes south.

And for the record you ARE supposed to amend your opposite sex friendships to stay respectful to the person you’re dating. I don’t care how long I’ve known you or met you before your current girlfriend/ wife, I’m not spending all day talking and texting with another woman’s man . Even if there is zero intention or chance for anything inappropriate Optically that’s just not a good look.

 

[Givethanks]

I'm not saying Gay people can't change tires but imagine watching her "gay" best friend doing that.

 

[Scaaar]

If y'all have had sex or anything then her boyfriend is in the right. If y'all haven't done anything then hey boyfriend is still in the right. Why would I want someone around my woman that y'all have a close bond and have intimate personal convos with?!? She's keeping you in the tuck breh just in case this relationship doesn't work you're sounding like the safe option and not the first option. So be weary cause she'll definitely try to manipulate you to stay around which it seems she's already doing. If you truly want to keep it G just fall back from the situation entirely. If it doesn't work with them she'll come and find you.

 

[Scaaar]

Yeah, she did mention about giving her some space but I just feel like it's unfair to me and to her because I get a sense that she does want to talk to me due to the fact she claimed we wouldn't talk anymore but still answering my call and texts.

I feel like she's trying to satisfy this guy because she really likes him but she's conflicted about me because before him and her got serious. We used to be a bit affectionate telling each other how much we care about one another and even saying I'm special to her and vice versa.

Now cause of this situation there's some tension between us, I can tell by her tone, and I feel that's because she conflicted about how she feels about me despite being with this other guy.

Well why didn't y'all just date each other?!! You definitely need to get outta this situation. This isn't a friendship at all. Y'all were both emotionally manipulating each other

 

[Scaaar]

Yeah, but this is why I have a problem with this situation.

Even tho she claimed to give him the same requirements that he couldn't have any female friends, I know as a man, most of us aren't going to completely stop contact with female friends or associates just for one woman especially early in the dating stage.

I feel like he's tryna to isolate her but maybe I'm just assuming but I doubt he's not talking to any other women, platonically.

You're dirty mackin bro. Don't hate on that man for coming in and scooping your girl up. You should have locked her down but you were trying to be too cool and play it day by day. Take it as a lesson to be upfront about your intentions from the jump

 

[Scaaar]

This thread is comedy.

You can group Men in here responding into two categories. Those who have and will more than likely continue to get ran over and played by Women and those of us who recognize game.

OP you definitely do not fall in the latter for having this dialogue.

Right! In here talking about how it's unfair that he can't talk to that man's woman anymore. That ain't your chic bro. Go find your own chic and if they don't work she might come back. It's apart of the game. You should have locked her down if you wanted her lol

 

[OsO]

Well, initially she hit me up in September, with the intention of us hooking up but around the beginning of October we had a falling out because y'know I'm more of the exclusive type when it comes to dating, where she was open to going on dates with other dudes until she found the right one.

Also, we had some arguments because of that but also she felt I wasn't returning the energy when she wanted to see me. I kept delaying due to work but also other reasons; I just wanted to take my time.

So after that, we stopped talking for nearly two weeks. We blocked each other on Facebook at the time, but then around the 3rd week of October, she called me, and we rekindled, but only as friends due to what happened before, and I was cool with that.

Oh so this was a lesbian relationship, got it.

Lol just f*cking with you breh

In terms of the thread premise, genuine friendships between males and females can happen but they are rare. Hence the insecurity on both sides when it comes to their partners having friends of the opposite sex. Women know women, and men know men, hence, the insecurities.

 

[Scaaar]

Well that assumes that there’s equal weight in the friendship and that it’s TRULY just friendship. In your case it’s not a real friendship because there’s underlying romantic feelings and tension. You’re being dishonest with yourself claiming otherwise.

Also, let’s be honest here. Most male/female friendships are just keeping the door open for foolishness and 90% of the time in such cases there’s history there whether physical or mental.The exception is not the rule.

If I’m “good friends” with a woman it’s usually because I smashed/would smash at the least or had a full relationship at the most.

Preaching breh! He knows that there are underlying feelings that's why he's so bothered. Most of the female "associates" around are all situation-ships. If I get into a real relationship they're all getting bushed just like if they get into a relationship I understand and fall back. Most have come back after their relationship ended. You just gotta be honest with yourself and the people you're dealing with and it doesn't sound like OP did that at all.