What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[DapMeUp!]

So I haven't read the thread but this topic is close to home with a woman I'm seeing right now.
Don't see me ever being serious with her as she has guy friends.
Not only that she hit me with the infamous "I don't really get along with females" line, so most of her "Friends" are guys

 

[The Pledge]

How do you get a side dude role but don't play by the side dude handbook.

Play your role

 

[Braman]

You have a point. But OP's case they're not friends. It's a situationship that he failed to seal the deal on. It's only been 2 months and you see how he is acting he's using the friend term to hide how he truly feels about that lady. Hell no I wouldn't want him around my chic. But if she insists on talking to him I'd break up with her and let them have each other lol.

This. OP is not on our side idk why nggas are replying as such. He the opps. Just a ngga trying to smash is one thing that’s on the chick. But I hate a bff ass ngga and yes very often when you’re talking to a chick in the beginning you gotta let her know to eliminate this ngga. There is no room in a relationship for 2 male voices I’m the only one.

I hate a ‘Is she really going ouuuuut, with hiiiiim’ ass ngga. A ‘What’s she see in this guy’ ass ngga.

One of my favorite performances in movie history is James Wood in Casino. Lester Diamond. He played this role PERFECTLY. The slimy, cowardly ‘guy friend’ who’s scavenging around your chick. He couldn’t even look Deniro in eye…then they put the beats on him

 

[Unbothered]

I haven't responded to all of the quoted messages yet, but I appreciate the advice every one of you has given me, even the ones who clowned me for this situation; it kinda gave me some insight on how to move forward.

I was gonna call her today, but we had a little spat yesterday, and she blocked me on Facebook and Messenger but not my phone number, tho. I figured I'd just leave her alone for a while, maybe hit her up around Thanksgiving, y'know.

The thing about her is that no matter how ticked off she gets at me, she still leaves the door open for me to contact her; I'm assuming it's like what some of you have said: low-key, she's got me wrapped around her finger with slight manipulation tactics.

One of the reasons why we didn't kick it off the first time before she blocked me was because we argued, and I called her a narcissist due to some misunderstanding about something in particular that I won't say because, understandably, she had a reason to block me during our first encounter.

 

[BuckFilly]

I haven't responded to all of the quoted messages yet, but I appreciate the advice every one of you has given me, even the ones who clowned me for this situation; it kinda gave me some insight on how to move forward.

I was gonna call her today, but we had a little spat yesterday, and she blocked me on Facebook and Messenger but not my phone number, tho. I figured I'd just leave her alone for a while, maybe hit her up around Thanksgiving, y'know.

The thing about her is that no matter how ticked off she gets at me, she still leaves the door open for me to contact her; I'm assuming it's like what some of you have said: low-key, she's got me wrapped around her finger with slight manipulation tactics.

One of the reasons why we didn't kick it off the first time before she blocked me was because we argued, and I called her a narcissist due to some misunderstanding about something in particular that I won't say because, understandably, she had a reason to block me during our first encounter.

Post the text messages

 

[Unbothered]

Post the text messages

Well, this was the message I sent her yesterday afternoon after I called her to tell her to have a good day...the reason I called her repeatedly was that I had bad reception at my doctor's appointment, so I wasn't sure if the text went through, I called afterward, and she answered we spoke briefly.

Then, about half an hour around 12:30, I sent her the message below on messenger explaining why I blew up her phone. I checked back around 4:30 and saw that she blocked me I called her phone 3 times around 5:00, but she ain't answer, so I left her a text telling her that I meant no disrespect on messenger.

I don't think I was too out of bounds with the property remark but just tryna school her that she's a grown ass woman and don't need to be acting like she's in a leash or some shyt to this guy.

 

[Dontdoit3]

I haven't responded to all of the quoted messages yet, but I appreciate the advice every one of you has given me, even the ones who clowned me for this situation; it kinda gave me some insight on how to move forward.

I was gonna call her today, but we had a little spat yesterday, and she blocked me on Facebook and Messenger but not my phone number, tho. I figured I'd just leave her alone for a while, maybe hit her up around Thanksgiving, y'know.

The thing about her is that no matter how ticked off she gets at me, she still leaves the door open for me to contact her; I'm assuming it's like what some of you have said: low-key, she's got me wrapped around her finger with slight manipulation tactics.

One of the reasons why we didn't kick it off the first time before she blocked me was because we argued, and I called her a narcissist due to some misunderstanding about something in particular that I won't say because, understandably, she had a reason to block me during our first encounter.

i think you should Get the hint and leave her alone if she’s starting to block you? How you get attached so fast to the point where you’re this desperate to maintain a “friendship” with her. She already proved she’s willing to drop you in a sec to get with her new bf.

Just like the relationship boat passed by with her, let the friendship boat pass by as well. Even if they break up and she comes back (as a friend because you’re only playing yourself if you want to wait around for her to choose you) she’s just gonna move on when something better comes up. Snap out of it and Find another “friend.” The bf is right to be wary of your agenda

 

[Scaaar]

This. OP is not on our side idk why nggas are replying as such. He the opps. Just a ngga trying to smash is one thing that’s on the chick. But I hate a bff ass ngga and yes very often when you’re talking to a chick in the beginning you gotta let her know to eliminate this ngga. There is no room in a relationship for 2 male voices I’m the only one.

I hate a ‘Is she really going ouuuuut, with hiiiiim’ ass ngga. A ‘What’s she see in this guy’ ass ngga.

One of my favorite performances in movie history is James Wood in Casino. Lester Diamond. He played this role PERFECTLY. The slimy, cowardly ‘guy friend’ who’s scavenging around your chick. He couldn’t even look Deniro in eye…then they put the beats on him

I'm glad someone else peeped it. He's moving grimey out here and trying to disguise it like he's hurt and confused lol. He openly said they were having phone sex and he wants other dude to still be cool with him orbiting around. What type of friends have phone sex lol. If he gets the beats put on him by the other dude he's perfectly justified in it. Out here poisoning their relationship because you were scared to step up and claim that women.

 

[Unbothered]

I think you should Get the hint and leave her alone if she’s starting to block you. How do you get attached so fast to the point where you’re this desperate to maintain a “friendship” with her? She already proved she’s willing to drop you in a second to get with her new bf.

Just like the relationship boat passed by with her, let the friendship boat pass by as well. Even if they break up and she comes back (as a friend because you’re only playing yourself if you want to wait around for her to choose you) she’s just gonna move on when something better comes up. Snap out of it and find another “friend.” The bf is right to be wary of your agenda

The problem is that even if I don't contact her I know very confidently she'll eventually contact me because she did it last Friday after we spoke that Thursday. She texted me asking if I called her, claiming she had a missed call alert, but I didn't call or text her at all that morning until she texted me asking that question. Then I told her to have a good day and enjoy her weekend.

It's not that I'm desperate to keep it going, but I know she's not serious about ending contact with me as much as she's put on, so that's why I keep responding and hitting her up now and then.

She blocked me on Facebook and Messenger the last time, only to unblock me and hit me up on my cell back in mid-October.

 

[Primetime21]

Well, this was the message I sent her yesterday afternoon after I called her to tell her to have a good day...the reason I called her repeatedly was that I had bad reception at my doctor's appointment, so I wasn't sure if the text went through, I called afterward, and she answered we spoke briefly.

Then, about half an hour around 12:30, I sent her the message below on messenger explaining why I blew up her phone. I checked back around 4:30 and saw that she blocked me I called her phone 3 times around 5:00, but she ain't answer, so I left her a text telling her that I meant no disrespect on messenger.

I don't think I was too out of bounds with the property remark but just tryna school her that she's a grown ass woman and don't need to be acting like she's in a leash or some shyt to this guy.

That hoe is nothing but trouble and you gonna FAFO. She just wants attention, its better to block her on everything before she gas her current crash test dummy up to come see about you. And what the hell you doing calling/texting another man’s woman to “wish her a good day” for? Stop simping and move on

 

[Unbothered]

This. OP is not on our side idk why nggas are replying as such. He the opps. Just a ngga trying to smash is one thing that’s on the chick. But I hate a bff ass ngga and yes very often when you’re talking to a chick in the beginning you gotta let her know to eliminate this ngga. There is no room in a relationship for 2 male voices I’m the only one.

I hate a ‘Is she really going ouuuuut, with hiiiiim’ ass ngga. A ‘What’s she see in this guy’ ass ngga.

One of my favorite performances in movie history is James Wood in Casino. Lester Diamond. He played this role PERFECTLY. The slimy, cowardly ‘guy friend’ who’s scavenging around your chick. He couldn’t even look Deniro in eye…then they put the beats on him

I'm not dirty mackin.

I'm already seeing a woman, the one I posted in the Wingstop thread. I'm not foul like that. I wouldn't mess with another man's woman, I know doing that ain't nothing but trouble.

 

[Scaaar]

I'm not dirty mackin.

I'm already seeing a woman, the one I posted in the Wingstop thread. I'm not foul like that. I wouldn't mess with another man's woman, I know doing that ain't nothing but trouble.

But that's exactly what you're doing! She's in a relationship so she's another man's woman lol

 

[Westbama Heartthrob]

The problem is that even if I don't contact her I know very confidently she'll eventually contact me because she did it last Friday after we spoke that Thursday. She texted me asking if I called her, claiming she had a missed call alert, but I didn't call or text her at all that morning until she texted me asking that question. Then I told her to have a good day and enjoy her weekend.

It's not that I'm desperate to keep it going, but I know she's not serious about ending contact with me as much as she's put on, so that's why I keep responding and hitting her up now and then.

She blocked me on Facebook and Messenger the last time, only to unblock me and hit me up on my cell back in mid-October.

Then just let her contact you

You obviously pressed about maintaining contact with her. Otherwise you wouldn't have blown her phone up and made a whole coli thread about it

 

[Braman]

“You’re not his property” Whoa whoa whoa what are we doing here. NASTY mackin.

Man you moving like a weirdo. And I can assure you she cringed when she read that part. Edit: Nvm, she didn’t read it bc you’re blocked And you blew up the phone?

Yea let me be cautious here bc judging from how you type I’m a lil concerned But this ain’t it. You moving like a weirdo it’s time to man up and move on. We all been there before but bottom line she is gone you need to get it together

 

[Born Rich]

I haven't responded to all of the quoted messages yet, but I appreciate the advice every one of you has given me, even the ones who clowned me for this situation; it kinda gave me some insight on how to move forward.

I was gonna call her today, but we had a little spat yesterday, and she blocked me on Facebook and Messenger but not my phone number, tho. I figured I'd just leave her alone for a while, maybe hit her up around Thanksgiving, y'know.

The thing about her is that no matter how ticked off she gets at me, she still leaves the door open for me to contact her; I'm assuming it's like what some of you have said: low-key, she's got me wrapped around her finger with slight manipulation tactics.

One of the reasons why we didn't kick it off the first time before she blocked me was because we argued, and I called her a narcissist due to some misunderstanding about something in particular that I won't say because, understandably, she had a reason to block me during our first encounter.

you're cooked, breh...