What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[Shadow King]

If you didn't meet in the sandbox or she's a partner/ex of a friend/relative that you got cool with it, it's highly unlikely that somebody doesn't like the other.

 

[Unbothered]

That hoe is nothing but trouble and you gonna FAFO. She just wants attention, it's better to block her on everything before she gases her current crash test dummy up to come to see about you. And what the hell are you doing calling/texting another man’s woman to “wish her a good day” for? Stop simping and move on

I wish her a good day so she knows that despite us not talking everyday like we were doing, I'm still thinking of her. She's a prideful type of woman, even tho she won't admit it, I know she likes the attention but she won't admit that.

See I've learned a lot about her in a short amount of time, even tho she doesn't want me calling and texting like that she's still keeping it warm by responding. You're right I should stop with her.

 

[Uitomy]

It's only possible if they truly don't give a shyt sexually about their friends, which is really hard for most people cause of media hypnosis

 

[Unbothered]

“You’re not his property” Whoa whoa whoa what are we doing here. NASTY mackin.

Man you moving like a weirdo. And I can assure you she cringed when she read that part. Edit: Nvm, she didn’t read it bc you’re blocked And you blew up the phone?

Yea let me be cautious here bc judging from how you type I’m a lil concerned But this ain’t it. You moving like a weirdo it’s time to man up and move on. We all been there before but bottom line she is gone you need to get it together

I ain't no weirdo, I just know how she moves, deep down she wouldn't hurt a man that cares about her, I can tell from her tone when she does pick up the phone which is why she keeps leaving the door open for me to contact her.

She ain't gone because she did this the last time and plus she ain't block my number. I'm not mackin just tryna give her a hint before all this there's been times where anytime I expressed a difference of opinion that challenges her perspective she'd get an attitude but then later on come back to reality and admit that I had a point.

I know why she blocked me on her socials, it's because she wants to punish me, basically remove my access her in the sense that I can't see her physically on Facebook or TikTok.

She's unfriended me and refriended me back and forth on her socials after time passes. This block only temporary, I know after some time goes by she'll add me again, that's what happened the last time when we took a break from each other after the first situation.

Maybe y'all see it as mackin but I'm being honest, I don't have any devious intentions, I'm just tryna look out for her despite us not being close at the moment. I feel like I owe her that much. I don't know why, it might be because of how things ended the first time but, I just feel like I do.

 

[Braman]

If you didn't meet in the sandbox or she's a partner/ex of a friend/relative that you got cool with it, it's highly unlikely that somebody doesn't like the other.

Yea and in recent years it’s even worse bc now you have dating apps. Chicks friend zoning nggas they met off dating apps and calling them ‘friends’

 

[Braman]

I ain't no weirdo, I just know how she moves, deep down she wouldn't hurt a man that cares about her

 

[Unbothered]

The reason why I made that comment about not being his property is that it shouldn't be that bad for a man to just say, “Hey, have a nice day” to her.

I could imagine how insecure this guy might get if a man in public said hello to her, and that's why I made that remark. Dayum, is it that bad that he doesn't want you talking to any guy, even if it's a brief “Hey, how you doing” passing by type of scenario.

That's not the kind of relationship she deserves because if he presses her about not talking to men even casually, he'll start trying to dictate how she dresses, among other things.

I'm just being considerate of her well-being.

 

[Amare's Right Hook]

I can have girl friends but she can’t have guys friend. I’m sorry but that’s just the way it is.

 

[HarlemHottie]

I don't know about females having male friends because those men will try & break her down. I can be friends with females and not want to fuk though
@HarlemHottie have you ever had a male friend that didn't test your faith ?

No, because I don't have male friends. The men I engage with irl are either family or his friends.

 

[Dontdoit3]

I'm glad someone else peeped it. He's moving grimey out here and trying to disguise it like he's hurt and confused lol. He openly said they were having phone sex and he wants other dude to still be cool with him orbiting around. What type of friends have phone sex lol. If he gets the beats put on him by the other dude he's perfectly justified in it. Out here poisoning their relationship because you were scared to step up and claim that women.

The problem is that even if I don't contact her I know very confidently she'll eventually contact me because she did it last Friday after we spoke that Thursday. She texted me asking if I called her, claiming she had a missed call alert, but I didn't call or text her at all that morning until she texted me asking that question. Then I told her to have a good day and enjoy her weekend.

It's not that I'm desperate to keep it going, but I know she's not serious about ending contact with me as much as she's put on, so that's why I keep responding and hitting her up now and then.

She blocked me on Facebook and Messenger the last time, only to unblock me and hit me up on my cell back in mid-October.

Based on this, that lady is playing games both with you and that other guy.

My best advice to give to you is block her and move on to someone else. It’s 2024 and they have 1 million other women you can reach out to in your area. You should use all the mental energy she is consuming in your head to find someone that won’t play games like this. Please take the advice. She will just drop you and keep coming back when she’s bored to drop you again (went through that cycle for about a year and a half before I had enough and moved on way back ). You see the way you feel right now? It will be even more painful if you keep letting her in down the line. Let her be someone else’s problem. fukk her “friendship.” That’s not a real friend. A real friend doesn’t drop you. A real friend can’t be swayed to cut you off by someone they just met. You need real male friends to tell you to stop this behavior. I believe based on this thread, it’s not even that you want her as a friend but as a romantic partner. It’s evident that she is both trash as a friend and trash as a romantic partner if she can be secretly reaching out to another guy who she knows is clearly interested in her while she’s dating someone else.

Find a stable woman that will not lead you on and you will forget about this one. In fact she will be the one stalking your IG, calling around go find out about you as you pay her no attention.

 

[Mowgli]

Case by case basis.

If we're talking a guy she knew in early grade school who now has a family of his own and you get together on holidays , it's not a big deal.

Any kind of relationship with a single woman is ok for the guy.

 

[Jazzy B.]

Thread is the PERFECT CASE STUDY on why you have to tell a woman to bush her male friends

 

[Unbothered]

Based on this, that lady is playing games both with you and that other guy.

My best advice to give to you is block her and move on to someone else. It’s 2024 and they have 1 million other women you can reach out to in your area. You should use all the mental energy she is consuming in your head to find someone that won’t play games like this. Please take the advice. She will just drop you and keep coming back when she’s bored to drop you again (went through that cycle for about a year and a half before I had enough and moved on way back ). You see the way you feel right now? It will be even more painful if you keep letting her in down the line. Let her be someone else’s problem. fukk her “friendship.” That’s not a real friend. A real friend doesn’t drop you. A real friend can’t be swayed to cut you off by someone they just met. You need real male friends to tell you to stop this behavior. I believe based on this thread, it’s not even that you want her as a friend but as a romantic partner. It’s evident that she is both trash as a friend and trash as a romantic partner if she can be secretly reaching out to another guy who she knows is clearly interested in her while she’s dating someone else.

Find a stable woman that will not lead you on and you will forget about this one. In fact she will be the one stalking your IG, calling around go find out about you as you pay her no attention.

Great advice. Yeah, I'm going to move on with myself and stop thinking about her cause, like you said, I don't need to feel this way; it's not healthy.

There's a woman I'm seeing already so I guess I should focus on her more and just leave this one alone because I do believe she's low-key playing mind games, as others mentioned she likes the attention of being “chased” which is why she'll block me on social media but still leaving the door open with her not blocking my phone number cause she knows I'll keep calling or texting.

As many of you pointed out, it's best that I leave her be for my sake. Cause low-key, ever since this started to happen, I've been feeling a little on edge (not in a good way), and it's time I get back to the basics of being “unbothered”.

 

[Neuromancer]

This thread keeps getting weirder and weirder

 

[darealvelle]

No, because I don't have male friends. The men I engage with irl are either family or his friends.

And your coli homies too jk. You got class though.