I agree about keeping your social structure around you that you had before the relationship. You need family and friends to maintain your sense of self in a relationship since that is what attracted your partner to you anyway. But orbiters is where I draw the line. I don't want someone that you were romantically or sexually involved with around unless y'all had a kid and it's a co-parenting thing. But if you want to fight or argue to keep those type of orbiters around that's your choice. I just will choose not to entertain it as a serious relationship either.
