That's not a compromise, that's bending to her will. If you really want to compromise and actually care about her you might as well do a wedding ceremony - even a reception if you have the $ and are willing to spend it. Just don't legally marry her, if you have any doubt whatsoever.
We not having kid's until you put a ring on it? This bytch done lost her mind
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detroitwalt
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What's wrong with that? I not having kids til I get married. How you wanna have a kid with someone that live in a different state anyway? That makes no sense.
Or she could have gotten some good advice
Obviously good friends.
Dude doesn't think he can handle a marriage financially, but thinks he can handle a kid financially?
If she brings no income to the table, and you're footing all her bills, then you ALREADY can support a marriage financially. That's why I'm calling you names. You're not thinking clearly, or your thinking like a retard; hence moronic.
A baby is SET IN STONE. A marriage is not.
Put a fukin ring on it, so she know it's real.
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I only skimmed through the thread, but if I understand correctly ol' boy's problem is not just the usual marriage apprehension, but that she was okay with it and suddenly she's not. Why didn't she spoke up before. That, the birth control thing and her confrontational attitude is enough to raise a red flag in my book...Obviously good friends.
Dude doesn't think he can handle a marriage financially, but thinks he can handle a kid financially?
If she brings no income to the table, and you're footing all her bills, then you ALREADY can support a marriage financially. That's why I'm calling you names. You're not thinking clearly, or your thinking like a retard; hence moronic.
A baby is SET IN STONE. A marriage is not.
Put a fukin ring on it, so she know it's real.
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D, mother****er, D.
Please don't listen to these internet lawyers. They will have you fukked up in the game. 
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She probably talked to some of her girlfriends about the issue. Honestly, having a kid out of wedlock should be avoided at all costs. If anything you should be happy she is deciding to wait.
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KnowledgeIsQueen
Duality Duel
I constantly tell people, parenting and being in a relationship aren't one in the same.
Sometimes having kids together can destroy a marriage/relationship.
It's a catch 22.
*waits for it*
AquaCityBoy
Veteran
So much truth posted in this thread.
OP, stop being a bytch (like SERIOUSLY, stop being a bytch. You're using "female logic" right now) and put a ring on her finger
OP, stop being a bytch (like SERIOUSLY, stop being a bytch. You're using "female logic" right now) and put a ring on her finger
I constantly tell people, parenting and being in a relationship aren't one in the same.
Sometimes having kids together can destroy a marriage/relationship.
It's a catch 22.
*waits for it*
I totally agree with that.
But I think if you can make a conscious decision to have children with someone then you're ready to marry them as well.
I can see if they were in a relationship and children were unplanned but once you start planning... Might as well plan a wedding.
Nah, my nikka. Going off the first post:
This shyt ain't got shyt to do with her changing her mind.
I constantly tell people, parenting and being in a relationship aren't one in the same.
Sometimes having kids together can destroy a marriage/relationship.
It's a catch 22.
*waits for it*
Maybe you shouldn't be thinking about yourselves.
Think about what the kid would want. Why give your kid that feeling? Why not just skip having kids, and wait until YOU figured out YOUR stupid relationship problems. Why throw the kid in the mix? That's selfish.
KnowledgeIsQueen
Duality Duel
Agreed.
I'm speaking personally when I state, I knew I didn't want to marry my son's father (having an abortion wasn't an option) He asked on more than one occasion (before I became pregnant) and was greeted by
, which I'm sure offended him 
. At that point in my life, I truly had no desire to ever get married (or maybe it was just him, now that I think about it)If I had to marry him before I gave birth to my son I would be childless......
Maybe the TS KNOWS he isn't ready for marriage, or simply doesn't want to marry his S/O despite taking care of her.
People need to be honest with themselves, before pointing the finger in blame at others.