Truth isn't a cop out.
Also what you nikka expect quality women to do is lower their worth for a broke nikka when they deserve to be taken cared of just like other women in other races. Maybe more black men worried about their career before getting hoes, maybe more black women with quality will be married. Cause lets be real, more hoes and thots get wifed now a days.
That’s what you don’t get.
Maybe those hoes and thots are providing utility to the man’s life while introducing as little stress as possible.
A lot of these “quality” women you speak of provide marginal utility to a man’s life, but add a lot of stress. So, they do not get wifed.
I know plenty of “quality” Black women who are stubborn, stuck in their ways, etc. Despite their “quality”, I’d never wife them up, as the stress they’d bring to my life would exceed the utility. I make great money. I don’t need her money. I have degrees. Her degree doesn’t add utility to my life. She goes to church? Kudos to her. Doesn’t add utility to my life!
Black women need to figure out how to position themselves to be useful to the men they desire. Just running off a list of shyt that, in reality, doesn’t hit a man’s radar in terms of wife material is pointless. Men don’t care about your degree(s), how much money you make, how often you go to church, etc.
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@kevm3 mentioned, that’s akin to a man highlighting his nurturing side and his ability to cook & clean as the things that make him a catch. Most women would say, “that’s awesome buuuutt, what do you do for a living and how much do you make?” If she can’t get direct answers to those questions, she’d want proxies to assess his income/status/leadership potential. Those are basic questions a woman wants answers to before she considers a man a “quality” man if she considers herself a “quality” woman.
Here’s another analogy for you to chew on.
@Supreme Leader Reinscarf , feel free to add on.
The NFL Draft is coming up. Can you imagine a player not even showing up for pre-draft activities and putting in no work to make his case as a draft pick? Through his agent, the player highlights his ability to budget and balance his checkbook, his leadership experience, etc. Breh ends up going undrafted and then complains about being overlooked by NFL teams.
When you take a step back, you realize the breh was being presumptuous in terms of what he thought NFL teams would value. While it’s nice that he has financial savvy, the NFL GMs care more about his 40 time, how much he can bench press, his playmaking ability, etc. You know, things that can add utility to the team! NFL GMs already have coaches and other personnel to take care of the budgeting and balancing piece!
That’s what Black women are missing. They are bypassing the pre-draft activities in which they demonstrate potential utility to teams and then complaining about not being drafted.
“Quality” women think they know what men want. When, in reality, they are clueless. And they don’t even want to take the time to find out! And when they do find out, they dismiss it, retreating back to their own notions of what a man “should” value in a woman! Meanwhile, men generally know what women want in a man and actively work to improve upon those things to be considered a catch.
Men see the other men women flock to and covet. And men are forced to alter their bevahior to become more like those men. Men listen to what women have to say and watch what they do in terms of mate selection. How else do you think brehs out here become experts in the game?
Women, on the other hand, see the types of women who get wifed up out here. And, instead of taking a step back to understand WHY those women are getting wifed up, they’d rather dismiss them as hoes/thots, etc. More women need to consult other women to understand what enabled them to have success in terms of getting wifed up instead of just hating on the next woman! But, because women generally compete with one another, their egos and sense of pride get in the way of that happening.
why do yall get on the internet and tell lies? The average black man between 18-40 is a blue collar worker who makes more than the average college educated black woman.
Who told you that lie?
More black women go to college than black men. More black men are unemployed than black women. 
. Now they are washed up 30+ and dudes they were curving when they had all the options in the world don't care to settle down. Bagging 28+ women is easy. Younger women make you jump through all sorts of hoops if you not damn near perfect 
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