Way too many women out here from all walks of life for young brothers to be stressing themselves over.
Get in where you fit in, enjoy your life, avoid miserable people, and as many people say, be the man your Father was/wanted him to be, and go from there.
Watching in real time your own personal growth is much more satisfying than being stuck on a woman who doesn't want you.
Don't fret over who those women are sleeping with. Focus on the ones who are feeling you and all of your ways/habits/quirks/idiosyncrasies, etc.
IMO, there is no such thing as the "Top 20% of Men". Nothing compares to a Man who understands exactly who he is.
Quality is all that matters.