The OFFICIAL Red Flags When Dating Men Thread

[DEAD7]

Hopeless romantic type nikkas that write poems and are obsessed with grandiose love and other fairy tale bullshyt.
Disconnected from reality probably has mental problems etc. hard to get rid of.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

And it was moved to the salon

Hates to see a woman shine

Always cynical/sarcastic and believes cynicism/sarcasm makes them witty

Wears timberlands/ Jordan's as a fashion staple

Holds traditional gender values but can't fulfill traditional male roles

6 figures, 6 certs, 6 women

Has paid for sex

Can name porn stars

what's wrong with wearing Timberlands and knowing the name of pornstars?

 

[Biscayne]

If timberlands are a staple in your wardrobe and they are not work boots, you are a New Yorker or in love with the New York grimey mentality. Neither of those make suitable mates



If you are not ready to be the head of a household, it is a relationship red flag.

You are not a leader when you are being lead. You can hate that living at home is viewed that way, but that is the case.

Be a leader in your own life before you attempt to be a leader in mine.
#realtalk

B-B-But, I love Timbs.....



Any season, and for any occasion....



And I'm not from NYC....



Are you saying women should leave me in the dust?

 

[:-)]

-Believes women should live their lives to please men

-Mom was a whore (they usually grow up thinking this applies to every woman)

-Too quick to sex (if he doesn't value himself by waiting for you don't value him by giving him your coochie)

-Is ok living off women (in this case he may have chemical imbalances because men are wired to provide). RED FLAG. He's probably very emotional and tries to mask it with acting tough

-Thinks hygiene is for women

-Doesn't see the point in two parent households for children

-Thinks time spent equals sex owed

-Is ok with bum woman as long as she's putting out




Some of these were told to me by my own dad. Mostly about the working part but he told me about promiscuous males too

Preach mama!

Also, men who ask for you to get a loan in your name....for him. And men who use religion/hotep f*ckery as a way to try and mind f*ck women into getting the panties. Another one - men who feel threatened by a strong man (father figure) in the house. They will get jealous if you are dedicated to your family. I haven't met the right one but I've had a guy friend (who I liked but I'm grateful it never turned into anything lol) get mad because I chose to stay beside my father during his last few weeks of life, than to fly out to California to visit him for his birthday smh. This is why I have no guy friends, and I'm leary of brothas. And lastly, men who try to move in and live with a woman and be a leach. Ol' Madden King ass n*ggas

 

[:-)]

If they got gold teeth or smoke cigarettes

 

[InDePickWest]

lol wow.. how u know his mom was a whore

Usually these types of guys think all women are whores and it starts from the first woman they knew.

too quick to sex? shawty my dikk hard soon as i sent the first text

And my mouth waters every single time I walk past a pizza joint. Should I eat it every single time? A man that can't show restraint isn't a man a woman should choose as a partner.

so women can live off men but if men want to do it theres something wrong with it

Sure. If you're into role reversal. Just don't expect her to cook and clean also and since she's the breadwinner don't count on her being there every time you need her.

 

[Kings County]

horrible analogy
nikkas are natural hunters
men have multiple wives throughout history
love was only invented in the 50's lol

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

It's always about copying what men do and flipping it back on men. It's like you have no original thoughts of your own.

You can't create anything without a man's inspiration and creativity, can you?

Immature poets imitate; mature poets steal.

Get with the programme.

 

[Marti]

- When you ask about his celebrity crushes and he's naming all them White broads in the industry....No, but, seriously, ask some brehs ya'll dealing with about this and see if they name dropping the Scarlett Johansson or the Nia Longs of the world.....It may seem petty right now, but, it'll essentially tell you all you need to know. But, in general avoid dude's who show unrelinquished admiration and affinity to Non-Black women...On a sub conscious level he likely resents you for not being what he truly desires...A Non-black woman...So, you're more likely to be subjected to physical, emotional and, verbal abuse due to this fact....

- He has a constant need to point out any little fault in what you do....Even the little things. "Why you always wearing open blouses all the damn time in public, woman?"

- He cares way too much about shyt women usually only care about....."But, but, your weave...But but, why you wearing that deep red lip gloss with them high top stilettos? You looking like a hoe right now, love.."

Ive dealt with all of this in my last relationship and it took a toll on my self esteem for a while.

It felt so good walking away

Lost weight, skin clear, waistline wayy smaller and im back to feeling good about myself

 

[Kings County]

@InDePickWest
horrible analogy
nikkas are natural hunters
men have multiple wives throughout history
love was only invented in the 50's lol

 

[InDePickWest]

@InDePickWest
horrible analogy
nikkas are natural hunters
men have multiple wives throughout history
love was only invented in the 50's lol

Men also created the rules and dictated throughout history...of course them having multiple wives is a part of it.

But if you're gonna go the 'it's in my nature to be a ho' route imma end this convo right here

 

[Aphrodite]

@InDePickWest
horrible analogy
nikkas are natural hunters
men have multiple wives throughout history
love was only invented in the 50's lol

 

[Kings County]

Men also created the rules and dictated throughout history...of course them having multiple wives is a part of it.

But if you're gonna go the 'it's in my nature to be a ho' route imma end this convo right here

So what you're saying is women have the right to be hoes but men cant ? cause i know i see tweets and threads all the time about how women should be allowed to be promiscuous which i dont mind
but now u saying men cant do it

 

[Aphrodite]

So what you're saying is women have the right to be hoes but men cant ? cause i know i see tweets and threads all the time about how women should be allowed to be promiscuous which i dont mind
but now u saying men cant do it

Anyone can be promiscuous.
If its not good for women, its not good for men.

 

[Marti]

- If he thinks that " women love to be treated like shyt ".

- If he's not emotionally invested enough in the relationship.

- If he can't apologize or acknowledge that he's wrong.

- If he wants to mold you into his idea of a perfect woman.

- If he tries to isolate you from your friends or your relatives.

U hit everything on the nail!

Men who ask "what do you bring to the table" should be avoided because they don't understand the value of a woman. Try to prove it if you want, but you'll only be draining yourself. Then you'll be mad at him and men in general when you should be mad at yourself for lacking wisdom.

There is no such thing as "the table", as a woman it is your damn table and if a man isn't adding anything besides dikk and compliments, then you need to evaluate your standards.

As a woman you are going to give, give, give, and give. If you have children then a lot of emotional and physical work is also going to fall upon you, and it doesn't matter how helpful he is around the house, it's simply NOT a beneficial exchange for you if he is not able to offer financial security and comfort. You can take care of yourself financially, and if you can't then focus on that before you worry about a man. So if a man isn't able to or has a big issue with acquiring and sharing abundance then Why add a hardship to your life? It's not necessary.

Repped!