Well for starters, our relationship has moved REALLY quickly. We’ve only known each other for a month, but from the get-go he’s told me how amazing/special he thinks I am. He sends me the most beautifully written things, and he tells me that he’d never thought he’d meet someone like me. Nothing wrong with that, it just caught me off guard. I’ve never had a guy say such sweet romantic things to me after only knowing each other for a few weeks.
He talks constantly about how much he hates his ex. He told me that she broke up with him because he was too “dominating”. When he first told me this, I didn’t think it was necessarily a bad thing because I don’t mind being dominated in a relationship (to a certain degree, of course). But I do think it’s weird how much he compares me to his ex. He’s told me multiple times how much better I am than his ex because. I don’t personally know his ex, so maybe she really is crazy but the whole thing does seem suspect to me. I haven’t heard her side of the story.
He’s very possessive. He messages me multiple times a day and he always wants to know where I am and what I’m doing. He doesn’t like my friends and has told me that I could find better people to spend time with. He also gets slightly irritated when I go out partying, which is funny because I don’t party very often. I’m not much of a drinker/smoker either but he gets annoyed when I do smoke/drink. Again, I don’t know if this is a bad thing. It actually seems sort of sweet, like he’s looking out for me.
He can come off as really condescending sometimes. Not towards me, but other people. He talks a lot about how he believes most people are soulless, and just how he rarely meets people he likes. He doesn’t have too many friends, there’s only a few people in his circle.
He also hates feminism. I know a lot of men feel the same way, I just feel like I need to mention that. He's really into BDSM, but we haven't discussed that too much. I just know he's dominant and wants a submissive girl.
I’m susceptible to his sweet talking because I’ve never met someone as articulate and well-spoken as him. He does have a lot of attractive qualities. He’s really intelligent. I’ve only had experience with high school boys, and they pale in comparison to him.
I might delete this post soon because I'm worried he might somehow find it...
cause i know i see tweets and threads all the time about how women should be allowed to be promiscuous which i dont mind
No, but, seriously, ask some brehs ya'll dealing with about this and see if they name dropping the Scarlett Johansson or the Nia Longs of the world.....It may seem petty right now, but, it'll essentially tell you all you need to know. But, in general avoid dude's who show unrelinquished admiration and affinity to Non-Black women...On a sub conscious level he likely resents you for not being what he truly desires...A Non-black woman...So, you're more likely to be subjected to physical, emotional and, verbal abuse due to this fact....
