The OFFICIAL Red Flags When Dating Men Thread

[Colicat]

You sound like you want to layup on somebody.

Also head of household means you taking care of a kid, not another adult.
#Facts #askthegoverment
To file as head of household, you must:

• Pay for more than half of the household expenses.
• Be considered unmarried for the tax year, and.
• You must have a qualifying child or dependent.

Like I said head of household has zero to do with taking care of another grown person.

Who said anything about filing taxes

Stop being purposefully obtuse.
If you want to lead, lead by example.

 

[Strapped]

Wowzers

 

[BigMan]

And it was moved to the salon

Hates to see a woman shine

Always cynical/sarcastic and believes cynicism/sarcasm makes them witty

Wears timberlands/ Jordan's as a fashion staple

Holds traditional gender values but can't fulfill traditional male roles

6 figures, 6 certs, 6 women

Has paid for sex

Can name porn stars

What is wrong with timbs???

Everyone (male and female) wears them


And damn near every man can name porn stars he's lying if he can't name some

 

[Colicat]

What is wrong with timbs???

Everyone (male and female) wears them


And damn near every man can name porn stars he's lying if he can't name some

1) staple = integral part of your identity

2) porn stars (plural).... some is a red flag for unrealistic expectations of the meaning of sexuality and sexual performance.

 

[malbaker86]

I just want to thank every person who’s posted something valuable in this thread.

I don’t have very much experience dating, but I met this guy a month ago and he’s shown A LOT of red flags.

Every time I try to distance myself from him, he starts sweet talking me and pulls me right back in.
I really like him but something feels off...
I might be overthinking it though.

What are his red flags and why are you susceptible to his sweet talking??

 

[BigMan]

1) staple = integral part of your identity

2) porn stars (plural).... some is a red flag for unrealistic expectations of the meaning of sexuality and sexual performance.

I see your in the south.....you must prefer grills thenall my nikkas on the east coast wear timbs



Every man watches porn btw sorry to burst your bubbleyoi might think your man doesn't ....





But he does

 

[Blue Boredom]

What are his red flags and why are you susceptible to his sweet talking??

Well for starters, our relationship has moved REALLY quickly. We’ve only known each other for a month, but from the get-go he’s told me how amazing/special he thinks I am. He sends me the most beautifully written things, and he tells me that he’d never thought he’d meet someone like me. Nothing wrong with that, it just caught me off guard. I’ve never had a guy say such sweet romantic things to me after only knowing each other for a few weeks.

He talks constantly about how much he hates his ex. He told me that she broke up with him because he was too “dominating”. When he first told me this, I didn’t think it was necessarily a bad thing because I don’t mind being dominated in a relationship (to a certain degree, of course). But I do think it’s weird how much he compares me to his ex. He’s told me multiple times how much better I am than his ex because. I don’t personally know his ex, so maybe she really is crazy but the whole thing does seem suspect to me. I haven’t heard her side of the story.

He’s very possessive. He messages me multiple times a day and he always wants to know where I am and what I’m doing. He doesn’t like my friends and has told me that I could find better people to spend time with. He also gets slightly irritated when I go out partying, which is funny because I don’t party very often. I’m not much of a drinker/smoker either but he gets annoyed when I do smoke/drink. Again, I don’t know if this is a bad thing. It actually seems sort of sweet, like he’s looking out for me.

He can come off as really condescending sometimes. Not towards me, but other people. He talks a lot about how he believes most people are soulless, and just how he rarely meets people he likes. He doesn’t have too many friends, there’s only a few people in his circle.

He also hates feminism. I know a lot of men feel the same way, I just feel like I need to mention that. He's really into BDSM, but we haven't discussed that too much. I just know he's dominant and wants a submissive girl.

I’m susceptible to his sweet talking because I’ve never met someone as articulate and well-spoken as him. He does have a lot of attractive qualities. He’s really intelligent. I’ve only had experience with high school boys, and they pale in comparison to him.

I might delete this post soon because I'm worried he might somehow find it...

TL;DR our relationship has moved really quickly, he's quite possessive, hates his ex, doesn't like most people, hates feminism, and loves BDSM.

 

[BigMan]

Well for starters, our relationship has moved REALLY quickly. We’ve only known each other for a month, but from the get-go he’s told me how amazing/special he thinks I am. He sends me the most beautifully written things, and he tells me that he’d never thought he’d meet someone like me. Nothing wrong with that, it just caught me off guard. I’ve never had a guy say such sweet romantic things to me after only knowing each other for a few weeks.

He talks constantly about how much he hates his ex. He told me that she broke up with him because he was too “dominating”. When he first told me this, I didn’t think it was necessarily a bad thing because I don’t mind being dominated in a relationship (to a certain degree, of course). But I do think it’s weird how much he compares me to his ex. He’s told me multiple times how much better I am than his ex because. I don’t personally know his ex, so maybe she really is crazy but the whole thing does seem suspect to me. I haven’t heard her side of the story.

He’s very possessive. He messages me multiple times a day and he always wants to know where I am and what I’m doing. He doesn’t like my friends and has told me that I could find better people to spend time with. He also gets slightly irritated when I go out partying, which is funny because I don’t party very often. I’m not much of a drinker/smoker either but he gets annoyed when I do smoke/drink. Again, I don’t know if this is a bad thing. It actually seems sort of sweet, like he’s looking out for me.

He can come off as really condescending sometimes. Not towards me, but other people. He talks a lot about how he believes most people are soulless, and just how he rarely meets people he likes. He doesn’t have too many friends, there’s only a few people in his circle.

He also hates feminism. I know a lot of men feel the same way, I just feel like I need to mention that. He's really into BDSM, but we haven't discussed that too much. I just know he's dominant and wants a submissive girl.

I’m susceptible to his sweet talking because I’ve never met someone as articulate and well-spoken as him. He does have a lot of attractive qualities. He’s really intelligent. I’ve only had experience with high school boys, and they pale in comparison to him.

I might delete this post soon because I'm worried he might somehow find it...

In all seriousness, you should end this.

 

[Colicat]

I see your in the south.....you must prefer grills thenall my nikkas on the east coast wear timbs



Every man watches porn btw sorry to burst your bubbleyoi might think your man doesn't ....





But he does

Grills can be added to the red flag list as well

And he doesn't... he doesn't fancy it...

 

[Blue Boredom]

In all seriousness, you should end this.

You think so?

Not gonna lie, it'll hurt because I really do enjoy his company.

I'm also a little worried about ending things with him because he told me he was an absolute wreck after his ex-girlfriend broke up with him.

I think you're right though. My intuition is telling me that something about him is off...

 

[BigMan]

Grills can be added to the red flag list as well

And he doesn't... he doesn't fancy it...

You think so?

Not gonna lie, it'll hurt because I really do enjoy his company.

I'm also a little worried about ending things with him because he told me he was an absolute wreck after his ex-girlfriend broke up with him.

I think you're right though. My intuition is telling me that something about him is off...

I'm no expert , but If everything you're saying about him is true then it sounds like he sees something in you that makes you "better" than your ex.....but the minute you do something (consciously or unconsciously ) that reminds him of his ex, he's going to lash out negatively

 

[CookisaCac]

When you ask a girl a question the involves a yes or no answer. But they answer "who"

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

What are some of the red flags women should watch out for?

1. Overly concerned about what you wear and tries to influence this

2. Ducktales to make himself look a certain way

3. Telling you what he thinks you want to hear and not having a real conversation

4. Doesn't include you in the big decisions

5. His actions don't match his words

It's always about copying what men do and flipping it back on men. It's like you have no original thoughts of your own.

You can't create anything without a man's inspiration and creativity, can you?

 

[Kings County]

-Mom was a whore (they usually grow up thinking this applies to every woman)

-Too quick to sex (if he doesn't value himself by waiting for you don't value him by giving him your coochie)

-Is ok living off women (in this case he may have chemical imbalances because men are wired to provide). RED FLAG. He's probably very emotional and tries to mask it with acting tough

lol wow.. how u know his mom was a whore

too quick to sex? shawty my dikk hard soon as i sent the first text

so women can live off men but if men want to do it theres something wrong with it

 

[Kings County]

And it was moved to the salon

Wears timberlands/ Jordan's as a fashion staple

6 figures, 6 certs, 6 women

Has paid for sex

Can name porn stars

here yall go with the bulshyt

whats wrong with any of these ?