The OFFICIAL Red Flags When Dating Men Thread

[VFib]

Again, if you use porn to the point where you know their stage names, it is a

I dated a guy who was addicted to porn. I will never make that mistake again. He was also molested as a child.


I don't care about porn watching but he was addicted. Like I said, never again.

 

[BigMan]

Brehettes, your man has a secret folder full of porn


This is a fact

And he knows their names

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I dated a guy who was addicted to porn. I will never make that mistake again. He was also molested as a child.


I don't care about porn watching but he was addicted. Like I said, never again.

You messed up low key

Y'all could of watched scenes together and built amazing sexual chemistry

I'm low key disappointed in you Veronica

Fred

 

[Kokoro]

Would you advise your daughter to date someone who is scared of commitment? Would you advise her to spend 5+ years with someone who is scared of marriage?

You missed the point completely

I saw the pictures of my moms fukked up face when I was very young. And they're still together 20+ years. So I see how the social construct of marriage not monogamy, there's a difference, manipulates people. I've been questioning marriage since I was young

So those experiences I can't control that influence how I think and feel today should be held against me? I'm out this thread

 

[VFib]

You missed the point completely

I saw the pictures of my moms fukked up face when I was very young. And they're still together 20+ years. So I see how the social construct of marriage not monogamy, there's a difference, manipulates people. I've been questioning marriage since I was young

So those experiences I can't control that influence how I think and feel today should be held against me? I'm out this thread

I didn't say you can control these experiences. But if theses experiences influence how you feel about marriage (negatively), why should someone who sees relationship and marriages in a positive light be with you? Why would I date someone who says to me what you just said? I would be wasting my time.



Also, Don't take what's being said in this thread personally. According the TLR thread I'm a walking red flag. Hasn't hindered me at all.

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

You messed up low key

Y'all could of watched scenes together and built amazing sexual chemistry

I'm low key disappointed in you Veronica

Fred

You're sick!

 

[malbaker86]

Again, if you use porn to the point where you know their stage names, it is a

My wife and i knew porn star names even when we first started dating but i kinda know where you getting at

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

You're sick!

How?

 

[TAYLONDO SAMSWORTHY]

What are some of the red flags women should watch out for?

1. Overly concerned about what you wear and tries to influence this

2. Ducktales to make himself look a certain way

3. Telling you what he thinks you want to hear and not having a real conversation

4. Doesn't include you in the big decisions

5. His actions don't match his words

Your post coulda been one word long. "Liar"

 

[Krazy K]

Damn I wear Jordan's, have a grill, stay out late, and I'm sarcastic ...


Everything about me is a red flag

 

[EARFQUAKE]

Everything is a red flag for me.

A man just looking at me is a red flag and puts me on guard.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Men who ask "what do you bring to the table" should be avoided because they don't understand the value of a woman. Try to prove it if you want, but you'll only be draining yourself. Then you'll be mad at him and men in general when you should be mad at yourself for lacking wisdom.

There is no such thing as "the table", as a woman it is your damn table and if a man isn't adding anything besides dikk and compliments, then you need to evaluate your standards.

As a woman you are going to give, give, give, and give. If you have children then a lot of emotional and physical work is also going to fall upon you, and it doesn't matter how helpful he is around the house, it's simply NOT a beneficial exchange for you if he is not able to offer financial security and comfort. You can take care of yourself financially, and if you can't then focus on that before you worry about a man. So if a man isn't able to or has a big issue with acquiring and sharing abundance then Why add a hardship to your life? It's not necessary.

Maybe a guy asking that is a bad thing but woman should be able to bring something to the table besides sex. Especially if she is with a man of means and ability.

You don't even need to give the guy anything but you should have something going on. Or something of value about yourself besides your body.

Trust me a guy doesn't always wanna feel drained dealing with you. He wants to be left wanting more of you and excited to see you next.

 

[Depreciating Asset]

If he is over the top worshipping the ground you walk on then yes that is also a red flag. He's up to something and trying to get you so high on attention you don't notice

Thread is hilarious

 

[Queen]

Maybe a guy asking that is a bad thing but woman should be able to bring something to the table besides sex. Especially if she is with a man of means and ability.

You don't even need to give the guy anything but you should have something going on. Or something of value about yourself besides your body.

Trust me a guy doesn't always wanna feel drained dealing with you. He wants to be left wanting more of you and excited to see you next.

Who said that all women bring is sex? That would be an assumption made from someone with a low level of consciousness. I've already discussed why the table belongs to the woman and why she needs to evaluate what suitors are bringing as opposed to this backwards BS about there being a table that both are walking up to.

*snip*

It's so funny that women are accused of being over emotional and illogical when really it's men.

Women are t*ts, ass, and emotional ego boosts for you which is why you ask such questions. You think a good woman is easily replaced by the next cute ass. Men with a high level of consciousness understand the value of a woman. They understand that women are givers and put in a ton of emotional work once they are committed. They understand that anything you give a woman, she will give you more. Men with a high level of consciousness understand that the right woman will elevate him financially, inspire creativity, help him spirtually, and give him that emotional support that men pretend they don't need. Men of high consciousness know that women can get emotional support from friends and family but men can't in the same way so they need a good woman for that. Men of high consciousness tend to have resources that reflect that, so they aren't bent out of shape over the idea of having proper finances.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Who said that all women bring is sex? That would be an assumption made from someone with a low level of consciousness. I've already discussed why the table belongs to the woman and why she needs to evaluate what suitors are bringing as opposed to this backwards BS about there being a table that both are walking up to.

Men with a high level of consciousness understand the value of a woman. They understand that women are givers and put in a ton of emotional work once they are committed. They understand that anything you give a woman, she will give you more. Men with a high level of consciousness understand that the right woman will elevate him financially, inspire creativity, help him spirtually, and give him that emotional support that men pretend they don't need. Men of high consciousness know that women can get emotional support from friends and family but men can't in the same way so they need a good woman for that. Men of high consciousness tend to have resources that reflect that, so they aren't bent out of shape over the idea of having proper finances.

Those qualities you listed probably apply to 1% of woman.

Not everyone is meant to be a Yoko Ono type and most woman will agree with that. If you made a thread asking what women would they would bring to the table less then 10 percent would say what you listed and mean it.

Anyways Im not even trying to go back and forth, I was just offering a perspective.